About my complications.

[Cleric Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cleric]

Hi everybody.


My name is Joe, or Cleric, if you wish to call me that. I have been having issues since I can remember really. To be very blunt and honest I do believe that I have erectile dysfunction. Now, I am not a doctor, of course, but I very genuinely believe that I do have it.

Alright, so I am 33 years old.
I smoke, but do no longer drink. Actually, I occasionally have a beer or two, but I do not drink to inebriation any longer. I do not do drugs, other than the smoking, which is about a pack and a half a day. But, I do primarily drink pop/soda/whatever you call it where you live.
I do not exercise at all really. Something I do wish to change, but I am extremely lazy. Just being honest.
I do not eat healthy at all. Most of the time I eat once a day. I know there exists exercise plans that call for eating only once a day, but I am not following such a plan. My home life, which I shall not get into really, is the cause for this.
I say i am very stressed all the time. I understand that what I consider stressful is not really very stressful to most everyone else, but again, home life issues.
I am a depressed individual. The possible ED is not a cause of this, that's more of just a straight up self esteem issue. I have been depressed for quite a few years now.
I do masturbate. Sometimes once a day. Sometimes more. Sometimes much less.
I do not currently have a sex life.

Now, I believe I'll discuss my reasons for thinking that I have ED.
I did not have sex until I was 22. At that time I could not get an erection right away with my then girlfriend. It actually took about a month of us trying before I finally did. After that, I guess you could say I had an average sex life with her. There were occasional problems, but I believe those are normal.
Since that relationship I have been with three others. And each time since then I have either not been able to achieve an erection at all, or a very mild one if it happened.
Now, when I masturbate there are sometimes similar issues. I can achieve a full erection, however, sometimes it is mild when I am alone as well.
This is all not to mention that I regularly finish very quickly, which I do understand is common. I think.

This is all that I can think of to tell about my problem. If there is anything I may have left out, either I'll post it with this post, or if you have questions please ask.
I appreciate any help or advice that anyone can give me. I'd also appreciate no bashing or mocking about my problem.

Thanks
Joe

[GeeMox Retired Moderator Member of the Month April 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GeeMox]

A kegel might help or some erection tea like the five G's.

The Five G's For Big Erections

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Starting point might be to improve general health and fitness.

[HueGHawk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HueGHawk]

Sounds like you already know the answer to this...exercise, eat healthy, cut way back on masturbating, and no porn if you do. Also look into some of the supplements recommended on here.

Once you do those things you should be starting to get your night/morning wood back, and that will tell you that there isn't anything wrong with your "plumbing".

Those things are a lifestyle change but with the right motivation and dedication it will fix your ED problems.

[mistercrowley Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mistercrowley]

I'm no doctor either but it doesn't sound like you have ED, to me at least. You are doing everything you can right now to constrict your blood vessels, lower your testosterone, have high cortisol levels and have generally the wrong mindset. Your body is a temple and right now your temple is run down with not a lot of upkeep.

Now no one, not myself, not anyone else will be able to convince you to up and change today. That decision lies solely with you. We can suggest, we can encourage, we can coach but ultimately it is all up to you on whether you want to turn this around. Stress sounds like the biggest factor and ties into everything else. You need to find ways to eliminate stress. Stress can cause a loop with smoking and bad eating habits. You need to begin to change these items.

Obviously you came here because you want to make changes because you want to have normal erections. I faced a similar situation and I immediately ceased smoking, ceased porn, reduced masturbation, ate healthier, kept track of my calorie intake, exercised more, meditated. Now I get an erection just noticing a pretty girl at the gym or thinking about sex with my wife or even sometimes a stiff gust of wind. I was resistant to becoming healthy myself and as much as my wife tried to convince me to change in the end the change had to come from within myself.

[bubu63 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bubu63]

Hey Joe, thanks for sharing your problem with everyone.

The first step toward solving it is acknowledging and talking about it.

It doesn't look like you need advice on what to do since you know that already.

Maybe what you're looking for is support and understanding. You will get plenty of that here. Still I suggest considering consulting a professional therapist.

A therapist can help tremendously with stress and its origins, I have been in therapy and I got over many of my family problems.

If you're interested in that please let me know and maybe I can help you find someone qualified in your country, etc.

I am confident you will fix this problem, and I hope pe helps you get there.

[Cleric Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cleric]

Thank you, all of you.

Yes, the main thing standing in my way is myself. There is a lot I must do, and just sitting around doing nothing is not going to help.