Hey,
So I have been doing PE for about a year and half now. I got gains as you can see in my signature buy I have still not reached my goals.
Anyways, I am changing my life currently and sadly I do not have time for PE no more and I prioritize improving another aspects of my life, namely finances and social life/love.
I am targeting the social life for the most right now. Why? A short story about me. I was always a cool kid when growing up and everybody liked me. I remember when I was very young, every boy wanted to sit with me in the class and the girls considered me beautiful. After some years, in high school, I still was considered to be the hottest guy in the classroom. The girls themselves were saying it.
BUUUUUTT, despite that everybody liked me, I had some internal problems... I was shy, scared and beta guy. I was so shy that I always turned down party invitations until people stoped inviting me. I remember when my class mates were having a party on Friday, I was in my home and the girls were calling me and asking why I did not come. So basically I suck with girls even though they like me.
So I do not know what kind psychological issues I had ( and still have) but I have learned now that no matter how much people like you it does not matter while you are not confident, dominant and bold. No girls until you fix it. So luckily I have found RSD nation guys on youtube and justin wayne dating channel. They give great advice for men on dating and I have been studying them in order to help myself. Of course, since I was so shy, I was just consuming all the content without even applying it by going out. But until recently I have started going out since I have become fed up to not being good with women. I am accepting every invitations the friends of mine are giving now and I began socializing a lot. I am even thinking on taking initiative myself and inviting people for meet ups and parties myself ( I guess this what cool people do, while I was always expecting that somebody else invites me all the time).
One of the things I did not realized is that being social and having friends takes a lot of time. Before I was used just to go to school/university and playing video games all Fridays and Saturdays alone. Hanging together with friends really takes the time.
Anyways, I would really appreciate any advice from guys on here who are actually good with women and any advice on what I should do is very welcome.( Please do not give your opinions if you suck with women).
My main goal for now is just to get a girlfriend. I will be the happiest man ever. This is how I am planning to get a girl and what I have been doing for this summer. I am practicing cold approach pick up. This what those guys I mentioned before( RSD and Justin Wayne Dating) are recommending. This means going out and talking with random girls you do not know. If you master this, getting girls by doing warm approach( the girls you know from somewhere, like school or work) becomes a joke.
My experience so far. OMG. It takes balls to do it. First of all, the approach anxiety is huge and it is so hard to approach random girls. All possible excuses comes in. Probably my mind made up every possible excuse there is. To mention a few like "she is ugly, she is walking too fast, she is dancing, she is wearing headphones, she is with a guy, she is out of my league, she is with two other girls" and the biggest one "What other people think of me when they will see me hitting on the girl".
Right now I am struggling with approaching a girl, I miss so many opportunities because I am scared and if finally I manage to open a girl, the conversations last only for a minute or two. Also I have no idea how to get a dancing girl to talk with me. I have tried yesterday and it seemed impossible since they do not want to stop dancing just in order to talk with me.
Overall I am super happy for finally taking some action. Maybe I will come back to PE in the future when I will become good with women and get a girlfriend. Maybe I will have more time then. I have no idea how much time a girlfriend consumes..
So yeahh guys, thank you for good community and maybe I will come back in some years later to finish my PE goals.
Thanks again for great support!
So I have been doing PE for about a year and half now. I got gains as you can see in my signature buy I have still not reached my goals.
Anyways, I am changing my life currently and sadly I do not have time for PE no more and I prioritize improving another aspects of my life, namely finances and social life/love.
I am targeting the social life for the most right now. Why? A short story about me. I was always a cool kid when growing up and everybody liked me. I remember when I was very young, every boy wanted to sit with me in the class and the girls considered me beautiful. After some years, in high school, I still was considered to be the hottest guy in the classroom. The girls themselves were saying it.
BUUUUUTT, despite that everybody liked me, I had some internal problems... I was shy, scared and beta guy. I was so shy that I always turned down party invitations until people stoped inviting me. I remember when my class mates were having a party on Friday, I was in my home and the girls were calling me and asking why I did not come. So basically I suck with girls even though they like me.
So I do not know what kind psychological issues I had ( and still have) but I have learned now that no matter how much people like you it does not matter while you are not confident, dominant and bold. No girls until you fix it. So luckily I have found RSD nation guys on youtube and justin wayne dating channel. They give great advice for men on dating and I have been studying them in order to help myself. Of course, since I was so shy, I was just consuming all the content without even applying it by going out. But until recently I have started going out since I have become fed up to not being good with women. I am accepting every invitations the friends of mine are giving now and I began socializing a lot. I am even thinking on taking initiative myself and inviting people for meet ups and parties myself ( I guess this what cool people do, while I was always expecting that somebody else invites me all the time).
One of the things I did not realized is that being social and having friends takes a lot of time. Before I was used just to go to school/university and playing video games all Fridays and Saturdays alone. Hanging together with friends really takes the time.
Anyways, I would really appreciate any advice from guys on here who are actually good with women and any advice on what I should do is very welcome.( Please do not give your opinions if you suck with women).
My main goal for now is just to get a girlfriend. I will be the happiest man ever. This is how I am planning to get a girl and what I have been doing for this summer. I am practicing cold approach pick up. This what those guys I mentioned before( RSD and Justin Wayne Dating) are recommending. This means going out and talking with random girls you do not know. If you master this, getting girls by doing warm approach( the girls you know from somewhere, like school or work) becomes a joke.
My experience so far. OMG. It takes balls to do it. First of all, the approach anxiety is huge and it is so hard to approach random girls. All possible excuses comes in. Probably my mind made up every possible excuse there is. To mention a few like "she is ugly, she is walking too fast, she is dancing, she is wearing headphones, she is with a guy, she is out of my league, she is with two other girls" and the biggest one "What other people think of me when they will see me hitting on the girl".
Right now I am struggling with approaching a girl, I miss so many opportunities because I am scared and if finally I manage to open a girl, the conversations last only for a minute or two. Also I have no idea how to get a dancing girl to talk with me. I have tried yesterday and it seemed impossible since they do not want to stop dancing just in order to talk with me.
Overall I am super happy for finally taking some action. Maybe I will come back to PE in the future when I will become good with women and get a girlfriend. Maybe I will have more time then. I have no idea how much time a girlfriend consumes..
So yeahh guys, thank you for good community and maybe I will come back in some years later to finish my PE goals.
Thanks again for great support!
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