Wasn't sure on the right forum to put this.. seemed like the best location, though.
I'm 38 with a history of big-time porn abuse. I never got into any super kinky stuff; my tastes were pretty vanilla. But the frequency and duration was a big problem. Sometimes 3-4x a day, for a total of hours per day especially in the later half of my first marriage when sex had become very infrequent.
This combined with some performance anxiety and fatigue led to some erectile problems that I am still working through but generally I can have sex fine now if it's not more frequent than once per day and I'm not hyper stressed. With Ciallis, 4-5x per day is possible if my wife and I have the time and opportunity.
But here's the thing... it is borderline impossible for me to get hard from just visuals or imagination. Doesn't always have to be direct touch to the penis, although that is by far the most reliable. Kissing or being extremely close to her body enough that I can feel the energy between us is enough sometimes, but it's unreliable. The only time I can get hard just from anticipation is first thing in the morning before my mind is fully awake. This, combined with pretty low T last time I had it checked (~325 total) leads me to believe that possibly hormones are a major factor here. And probably still some stress/anxiety too.
I want to get hard just from seeing her naked. And I want spontaneous erections during the day.
Is this possible at my age? I can't get a straight answer. Are there any men here my age or older who can get hard just from looking? Am I chasing an impossible dream here?
[edit]I don't remember what it was like for me in my late teens or early 20's. I'm not sure when my spontaneous erections stopped. When I was younger, I never paid much attention to what my penis was doing, because it just got hard without me monitoring its behavior. But I think it's pretty likely that I could get hard in my late teens and early 20's just from looking.
I'm 38 with a history of big-time porn abuse. I never got into any super kinky stuff; my tastes were pretty vanilla. But the frequency and duration was a big problem. Sometimes 3-4x a day, for a total of hours per day especially in the later half of my first marriage when sex had become very infrequent.
This combined with some performance anxiety and fatigue led to some erectile problems that I am still working through but generally I can have sex fine now if it's not more frequent than once per day and I'm not hyper stressed. With Ciallis, 4-5x per day is possible if my wife and I have the time and opportunity.
But here's the thing... it is borderline impossible for me to get hard from just visuals or imagination. Doesn't always have to be direct touch to the penis, although that is by far the most reliable. Kissing or being extremely close to her body enough that I can feel the energy between us is enough sometimes, but it's unreliable. The only time I can get hard just from anticipation is first thing in the morning before my mind is fully awake. This, combined with pretty low T last time I had it checked (~325 total) leads me to believe that possibly hormones are a major factor here. And probably still some stress/anxiety too.
I want to get hard just from seeing her naked. And I want spontaneous erections during the day.
Is this possible at my age? I can't get a straight answer. Are there any men here my age or older who can get hard just from looking? Am I chasing an impossible dream here?
[edit]I don't remember what it was like for me in my late teens or early 20's. I'm not sure when my spontaneous erections stopped. When I was younger, I never paid much attention to what my penis was doing, because it just got hard without me monitoring its behavior. But I think it's pretty likely that I could get hard in my late teens and early 20's just from looking.
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