I don't often post on the forum about my personal endeavors, but this feels like a cool community to share ideas with, so here goes.
Last night before bed, I'd taken a hit of my pen and got a little high. I wanted to see how I could be alone with my own thoughts in an elevated state.
I ended up praying a bit, which gave me thoughts about rediscovering my faith and where that would take me. Then I started thinking about how since I was just in the 3rd grade, I'd been exposed to porn, and my mind has been on sexual overkill from a young age.
Then I had this urge to kegel as hard as I could. I think this came from the fact that erections are hard for me to come by, and being 21, I get in my head about it sometimes; I feel my testosterone alone should take care of that. But I held it for maybe two or three minutes, and it felt great, like I was working a muscle that was yearning to be used. It could be the antidpressants I'm on (10mg lexapro) that make it difficult to get my guy up, especially without stimulation.
I was tugging on my dick for a bit, but wasn't getting any harder. So then I thought alright, I'll throw some lotion on, up the sensitivity. It helped for sure, but then I got the urge to watch some porn. This is where I'm looking for advice.
Normally, after reading through the forums about re-training my brain to get sensitive to normal stimulus, I get a feeling like looking at porn is bad. But I decided to watch stuff that is relevant to my life. My girlfriend is black, and honestly it turns me on a lot more when I watch porn of interracial couples fucking. So I was watching a bunch of that and was actually taking my time masturbating, it wasn't frantic or anything, I was really imagining myself in that moment, what it'd be like to make videos with her (we've talked about making one for my birthday and things like that. The most interesting thing was I came for the first time without having to concentrate on it, something that I've always had to do.
So I'm wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences to this and what your thoughts on it are. Any advice on using porn to reignite my sexual creativity and sensitivity in a controlled way? Or is it best to go cold turkey and stay away from masturbation, porn, etc., until testosterone is pent up?
I know it's a longer post, but all I'm looking for is some conversation on the topic, no need for concrete answers.
Last night before bed, I'd taken a hit of my pen and got a little high. I wanted to see how I could be alone with my own thoughts in an elevated state.
I ended up praying a bit, which gave me thoughts about rediscovering my faith and where that would take me. Then I started thinking about how since I was just in the 3rd grade, I'd been exposed to porn, and my mind has been on sexual overkill from a young age.
Then I had this urge to kegel as hard as I could. I think this came from the fact that erections are hard for me to come by, and being 21, I get in my head about it sometimes; I feel my testosterone alone should take care of that. But I held it for maybe two or three minutes, and it felt great, like I was working a muscle that was yearning to be used. It could be the antidpressants I'm on (10mg lexapro) that make it difficult to get my guy up, especially without stimulation.
I was tugging on my dick for a bit, but wasn't getting any harder. So then I thought alright, I'll throw some lotion on, up the sensitivity. It helped for sure, but then I got the urge to watch some porn. This is where I'm looking for advice.
Normally, after reading through the forums about re-training my brain to get sensitive to normal stimulus, I get a feeling like looking at porn is bad. But I decided to watch stuff that is relevant to my life. My girlfriend is black, and honestly it turns me on a lot more when I watch porn of interracial couples fucking. So I was watching a bunch of that and was actually taking my time masturbating, it wasn't frantic or anything, I was really imagining myself in that moment, what it'd be like to make videos with her (we've talked about making one for my birthday and things like that. The most interesting thing was I came for the first time without having to concentrate on it, something that I've always had to do.
So I'm wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences to this and what your thoughts on it are. Any advice on using porn to reignite my sexual creativity and sensitivity in a controlled way? Or is it best to go cold turkey and stay away from masturbation, porn, etc., until testosterone is pent up?
I know it's a longer post, but all I'm looking for is some conversation on the topic, no need for concrete answers.
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