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  • Did I make a mistake telling this to her?????

    So, I just got back from Australia last September. I was there for a year and a half. Since returning to my country I have been visiting this bar with my female cousin who comes along with her two friends. One of the friends is a Tom Boy.

    We meet once every week on a Saturday and spend a lot of time together. It's been 7 months now since i've known them. The past three weeks I have been getting intimate with my cousin's friend (Not the Tom Boy). We kissed a few times (but holds back after she bites and pulls my lips) on the dance floor and conversate regularly.

    THEN THIS HAPPENED:

    This recent Saturday (13th April) the same thing happened on the dance floor but towards the end of the night when the bar was close to being empty she gave me a comfortable kiss and we went for a drive. It was dawn by then 5:00 am in the morning. I parked my car in a secluded area and started French kissing her passionately and also went to second base. I sucked her tits and we both seemed to have a good time. I tried to take off her trousers but she told me not to and that she gotta go home. She also pointed out that it was bright already. Nevertheless we continued kissing passionately again and after a while she asked me to drive her to the bar where she parked her car. While we were passionately making out the second time I told her:

    " I will make love to you next week" and she responded "no". It wasen't a violent "no". It was a "no" you hear in the heat of passion.

    I drove her to her car next to the bar and before she exited my car we made out and again I went to second base (Sucked her tits)

    Do you think I made a mistake by telling her about making love next week?

    What do you think I should expect when we meet again this Saturday? Should I pretend nothing happend? Act normal? Or get more comfortable around her but be patient for the phyical aspects much later in the night.

    What should I do?

  • #2
    Try an apology; they work great. Well sometime they do. Just say you're sorry and you were caught up in the heat of the moment. Hey being apologetic may get you laid!
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    • #3
      IDK. Guess you’ll have to wait and see.
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      • #4
        Speaking specifically on the psychology of attraction, if you want to seal the deal you'll have to do a little "pull back". Its kindof a game of cat and mouse, if you're chasing her, she'll probably still say no. If you disinterest, and let her chase you, desire you, want you etc, it'll happen. Don't be too available.

        I'd focus on taking out another girl for a date or a drink, and just go back to enjoying your saturdays and if she jumps on you she does, if not then she doesn't. Definitely don't waste the rest if your week waiting for Saturday.

        You said you were going to fuck her next week, she's expecting you to try, so do the unexpected and dont. Dont try, don't dance with her, don't make out with her. Nothing unless she is the one who DRAGS you to dances, and makes the move on you from there.
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        • #5
          Originally posted by D6ggy9tyle View Post
          Speaking specifically on the psychology of attraction, if you want to seal the deal you'll have to do a little "pull back". Its kindof a game of cat and mouse, if you're chasing her, she'll probably still say no. If you disinterest, and let her chase you, desire you, want you etc, it'll happen. Don't be too available.

          I'd focus on taking out another girl for a date or a drink, and just go back to enjoying your saturdays and if she jumps on you she does, if not then she doesn't. Definitely don't waste the rest if your week waiting for Saturday.

          You said you were going to fuck her next week, she's expecting you to try, so do the unexpected and dont. Dont try, don't dance with her, don't make out with her. Nothing unless she is the one who DRAGS you to dances, and makes the move on you from there.
          Thank you for your comprehensive answer. I won’t be aggressive with her. Just behave normal with push and pull tactics.

          My only concern is, I hope she is not the type to go cold on me after all the spark we had the last week. I hope there is some sort of assertiveness from her part so she does not leave all the work to me. I do not stay close to her all the time. I meet other people in the bar and socialise with people I know.

          I guess we will only know soon enough.

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          • #6
            I think that could have been the only mistake I made. Felt a bit too comfortable during the makeout and we were both pissed drunk.

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            • #7
              I have been keeping myself busy not trying to think too much about her.

              Been doing a lot of cardio (Jogging).

              She’s taking a lot of headspace recently and I don’t like it but I can’t help myself.

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              • #8
                Wanna hear something funny?

                I googled "Attraction discussion forum" and opened two links. One of them happened to be SoSuave.com and I tried registering for it. It appears that I've been a member there since 20th Feb 2013 . I just copy pasted my thread from here. Waiting to hear what they have to say there.

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                • #9
                  I wouldn't worry about it. Understandable to feel the way you do about it though. Maybe she knows her period is about to start. Maybe she has a doctor appointment. Maybe she's just not ready to have sex with someone at this point in time. The not having an explanation is the hardest part. You're left to guess, which typically leads to worst case scenarios. Things aren't always as bad as we make them out to be.

                  You have multiple ways to approach this, each with multiple outcomes. You'll have to make the determination based on what you know about her, the type of personality she seems to have, and what type of person she seems to be attracted to. With whichever way you go, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if you even bring it up (not bringing it up is an option too). Use a little humor, if you do. You were both drunk when that happened. Just have fun with it. I sure does sound like fun.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by tank0909 View Post
                    I wouldn't worry about it. Understandable to feel the way you do about it though. Maybe she knows her period is about to start. Maybe she has a doctor appointment. Maybe she's just not ready to have sex with someone at this point in time. The not having an explanation is the hardest part. You're left to guess, which typically leads to worst case scenarios. Things aren't always as bad as we make them out to be.

                    You have multiple ways to approach this, each with multiple outcomes. You'll have to make the determination based on what you know about her, the type of personality she seems to have, and what type of person she seems to be attracted to. With whichever way you go, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if you even bring it up (not bringing it up is an option too). Use a little humor, if you do. You were both drunk when that happened. Just have fun with it. I sure does sound like fun.
                    It actually took a while of hanging out together to get to this point. She’s a very social person and mixes around with a lot of people she knows though she always returns to home base (My cousin and the Tom Boy). There were moments when I would feel something for her and then I would turn cold and lose attraction for her. But just recently the heats gone up and I feel different about her. I have been applying the hot - cold (Push - Pull) approach as well as escalating Kino (Sometimes a bit strongly but always withdrew by ignoring her or pretending what she did was annoying - Making her believe she was demonstrating Lower Value (DLV). I have never complimented her on her looks or physical features as all the AFCs. The only compliment I gave her was on her black Suede jacket.

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                    • #11
                      If she shows up at your meeting next week then she definitely wants to hook up with you. Women prefer covert communication. If she's not interested in your proposition, she will find an excuse to skip out next week. I'm sure things will return to normal after that, but I'm willing to bet money that's how it's going to play out.
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by aBone2pick View Post
                        If she shows up at your meeting next week then she definitely wants to hook up with you. Women prefer covert communication. If she's not interested in your proposition, she will find an excuse to skip out next week. I'm sure things will return to normal after that, but I'm willing to bet money that's how it's going to play out.
                        I pray things turn out for the better 🤞

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                        • #13
                          I really dont know what your worrying about!

                          She said no but then made out with you again afterwards. If she was offended you wouldnt of done that. She likes you, probably doesnt want to 'look' easy.

                          Just be normal when you see her, everything will be fine.
                          Women were created from the rib of man to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart to be loved by him.

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                          • #14
                            I'VE JUST POSTED A RUN OF PLAY AND HOW IT TURNED OUT TO PROVIDE MORE DETAILS:

                            (I WOULD LIKE FEMALE MEMBER'S OPINIONS ON WHAT HAPPENED AND WHAT COULD BE GOING ON IN HER MIND)


                            1) The first play happened as soon as I parked my car. I was seated in the drivers seat (obviously) and she on the passenger side. I turned over and escalated to make-out. (2nd base)

                            2) Next I opened my door and crossed over to her side. Opened the door and was basically on top of her in the passenger seat. That's when I opened my "big mouth". (2nd base).

                            3) After a minute or two there I proceeded to return to the drivers seat. Once I got inside we made out again to 2nd base.

                            4) I drove her to her car and before she exited my car we made out one more time (2nd base)

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                            • #15
                              You are overthinking this.

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