This is something I do often, comparing myself to other people and thinking myself lesser than them, but I had not done it much in quite some time. I think I've been having a decent year, a decent job, losing weight steadily, and being rather content with the present while looking forward to the future with going back to school, getting a car, and working on various things I want to work on, at least eventually with all of this, but man as soon as someone I know has even better news I go right back to old habits.
My step-sister became head of surgery, or some rank in the hospital system like that, for the Cleveland Clinic, posting on facebook of all the people in California that she met and will miss her, posts about her baby, and so much more. So instead of feeling glad that she is doing well, which is what I should be doing, I can only look back at my recent "accomplishments", throw my hands up in the air, and go "......Welp! Fuck everything I've done! All of that means nothing!" It also doesn't help that when I compare my life to hers I look like a complete failure, which I am, compared to her constant and never ending success.
Now you may ask "why is this that big of a deal?" and I'd like to say that's a good smelling question. We were both basically straight A students throughout school and now she's a established surgeon and I'm a god damned janitor. Yes, she had a house hold that was filled with far more support compared to mine, but I feel like that shouldn't matter. Of course I know full well what I'm doing, I see that I shouldn't be doing this, but good fucking Christian deity if seeing her massive success doesn't piss me off. Yes, I know that's childish, petty, and being asshole incarnate, but I can't seem to help it.
Maybe it's just me having a pretty shitty past couple of months, at least when it comes to work and the various irritations that can come with it, and some things have pushed me back off the car a little, maybe it's me falling back into old habits, or maybe it's because I'm an envious asshole. I don't know, but what I do know is that I find it frustrating and I would be glad to stop doing that.
Anyone else ever feel this way? How did you go about getting rid of this mind set? Is this normal?
My step-sister became head of surgery, or some rank in the hospital system like that, for the Cleveland Clinic, posting on facebook of all the people in California that she met and will miss her, posts about her baby, and so much more. So instead of feeling glad that she is doing well, which is what I should be doing, I can only look back at my recent "accomplishments", throw my hands up in the air, and go "......Welp! Fuck everything I've done! All of that means nothing!" It also doesn't help that when I compare my life to hers I look like a complete failure, which I am, compared to her constant and never ending success.
Now you may ask "why is this that big of a deal?" and I'd like to say that's a good smelling question. We were both basically straight A students throughout school and now she's a established surgeon and I'm a god damned janitor. Yes, she had a house hold that was filled with far more support compared to mine, but I feel like that shouldn't matter. Of course I know full well what I'm doing, I see that I shouldn't be doing this, but good fucking Christian deity if seeing her massive success doesn't piss me off. Yes, I know that's childish, petty, and being asshole incarnate, but I can't seem to help it.
Maybe it's just me having a pretty shitty past couple of months, at least when it comes to work and the various irritations that can come with it, and some things have pushed me back off the car a little, maybe it's me falling back into old habits, or maybe it's because I'm an envious asshole. I don't know, but what I do know is that I find it frustrating and I would be glad to stop doing that.
Anyone else ever feel this way? How did you go about getting rid of this mind set? Is this normal?
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