Blulite's Guide To The Female Erogenous Zones

[blulite]

The female erogenous zones

Some people rumour that the G-spot does not exist, however scientific research atop physical experimentation has proven these people to be total idiots. There exists, in fact 4 of these erogenous zones within and around the vagina. It is with great pleasure that I write this next instalment as I believe it is one of the most important sexual knowledge bases you need to have a happy and satisfying sex life. With good sex, comes, good connections between partners. If you love and care for your partner, be it long term or short term I believe that you should always be the best lover you can, both in and out of the bedroom. Bedroom incompatibility is something that can cause frustrations in even the best relationships. Learning how to satisfy your partner in every way possible can only result in a closer companionship. I often find myself trawling the internet and the libraries for hours at a time in search for more knowledge within various fields. The time I spend on these subjects have caused me to be a much better all-round lover. Something I pride myself on, yet still I have my problems (as do we all). There is no such thing as perfection.

Be it erogenous zones, sexual techniques, positions, health or just how to improve stamina. I personally think it can only bring good things to your relationship, to take the time to improve yourself as a lover. The only drawback I have discovered is, often a partner will be unsure of trying new things and experimenting. It is lack of open minded individuals and social ignorance that I blame for the low levels of confidence, comfort and connection between partners. This is becoming increasingly numerous as there are too many people who have hang ups over their knowledge, performance or anatomy. Being confident for some people is a huge barrier to overcome, yet armed with the correct knowledge confidence can be improved greatly.

There are various techniques can be used for stimulation of each of the erogenous zones, but this is something I will cover later in a separate article unless otherwise stated herein.

The C-Spot or Clitoris is the most easily found erogenous zone. Located towards the top of the vagina approx. 1-2” above the vaginal opening, the clitoris although small on a lot of women, is pretty easy to notice if you’re looking in the correct place. It hides under the clitoral hood (preputium clitoridis or clitoral prepuce). The hood looks pretty much like a skin flap and can be found extremely quickly if you use your fingers to part the Vulva/Labia for better access. Vulva is the collective term for many major and minor anatomical structures, including the labia majora, mons pubis, labia minora, clitoris, bulb of vestibule, vulval vestibule, greater and lesser vestibular glands, and the opening of the vagina. Labia majora and labia minora are the correct terms for the outer and inner lips of the vagina.
Although the clitoris is easy to find, some men and even some women have no knowledge of where it is located. I once was with a girl sexually who whilst receiving clitoral stimulation specifically stated that her clitoris was further down on the edge of the vaginal opening. I was extremely displeased at her lack of knowledge of the female genitalia and the main areas of sensitivity that can be stimulated during sex. Especially when the encounter became a sex education lesson, that resulted in a complete lack of understanding knowledge and me going home.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate that some people don’t know about the anatomy of the vagina, but if a girl doesn’t know where the clitoris is then there has been a lot of misinformation and bad experiences throughout her entire sexually active life. The clitoris, if you haven’t found it by now is a small, rounded, bulb shaped lump that pokes out from under the clitoral hood. Image 1 shows the basic anatomy of the female genitals and will aid you in finding the correct area.

The clitoris can be stimulated with fingers, mouth penis or toys and is a great place to start in your quest to make your lady reach climax. Back in the days of old before the early 70’s to mid-80’s it was considered immature for a woman to reach climax by clitoral stimulation and it was socially frowned upon if a woman had not made the transition from clitoral to G-spot climax once into her early twenties. A lot of women felt inadequate if they could not climax without clitoral stimulation and some even reported to have faked orgasm during intercourse and finished up via the clitoris once their man had fallen to sleep.

It is widely acceptable in today’s modern era that women enjoy clitoral orgasms and also that women can enjoy sex as fun and not just as a way to reproduce. Again it was once considered unacceptable for women to enjoy sex. As far back as the 1940’s and 50’s most everything pertaining to human sexuality was still listed in the psychological and sociological abstracts under the heading of “criminal deviance” so it was extremely difficult for women to be fully comfortable with their sexuality. Especially as there was little evidence to support normal accepted sexual behaviour in females.

The next place that is available to stimulate is the U-spot, this spot is relatively hard to find as it is a tiny gland.
The gland, named the Skene’s Gland after the gynaecologist Alexander Skene who pioneered research of the glands, also known as the lesser vestibular, periurethral glands, Skene glands, Para urethral glands, U-spot, or female prostate, are glands located on the anterior wall of the vagina, around the lower end of the urethra. They drain into the urethra and near the urethral opening. The location of the Skene's gland is within the general area of the urethral sponge slightly south of the central urethral opening. Research however has shown some slight variation of position from woman to woman. When locating the Skene’s glands it is good practice to first locate the urethra. Which being between the clitoris and the vaginal opening is reasonably easy to find. Image 2 shows the correct location of the Skene’s gland and will be a good reference as to location.

The image however shows the gland, yet according to a study by Emmanuelle Jannini at the University of Italy, Skene's glands have a highly variable anatomy, and in some extreme cases they appear to be missing entirely. Findings resulted that in fact some women do not have this gland at all as opposed to it being so tiny it seems to be missing. That said, it does not mean that if your woman does not have this gland or the gland is so tiny you can’t find it, that she isn’t going to have great orgasms or more importantly that she is any less of a woman. Let’s view this from another angle… some men have small penises, some of us large. Having a big penis doesn’t always mean we are a better lover or a better man. Sometimes we who are well endowed feel it would be better to have a smaller penis as we can often cause discomfort in women due to size. The point I am making is that everyone is different. We can all have an exciting and fulfilling sex life despite anatomical differences.

Study has shown that these glands produce what a lot of people believe to be a myth, female ejaculate. The seminal fluid produced by these glands can be excreted with such force it can be projected a good distance further than the vagina. Female ejaculation or squirting can be somewhat of an embarrassment to some couples if they are not aware of what the fluid is. Over time it was thought to be a urinary tract disorder when a woman ejaculated and numerous women and men were told by doctors that the problem was urinary stress incontinence. The disorder often requires surgery and due to the nature of the surgery, results were varied and some women lost the ability to orgasm under certain conditions.

Although often mistaken for urine the seminal fluid that is expelled from the Skene’s glands is clear, odourless and chemically more similar to that of the male ejaculate (prostate fluid) than any other bodily fluid. Although chemically similar, the fluid does have one significant difference in that it does not contain sperm. As with male ejaculate, it has been reported that the taste of the fluid varies dependent upon what a woman has been eating. However, this fluid tends to regularly taste very sweet.

Being able to induce such and orgasm that a woman ejaculates will take time and patience from both partners as it can be a long and arduous journey. Communication and commitment are both prize factors when attempting to induce a squirting orgasm. Also very important is holding full respect and confidence of your partner to allow for complete comfort on your road to a great sex life.

One problem with the Skene’s gland is the size. It is fully possible that one may not be able to locate it due to poor eyesight. So if you have poor eyesight I would suggest you wear your spectacles or contact lenses. Stimulation once the glands have been located can be offered in the way of oral, fingers, toys or by penile stimulation. Please remember, penile stimulation is not always a description of penetration, but also of other actions. Rubbing and slapping etc. your penis against the vagina also counts as penile stimulation.

The correct way of stimulation is not something that can be discussed as a fixed instruction. Various techniques can be used and are fully dependent on what works with your woman. Techniques are to be discussed in a later chapter.

The G-spot, or the Graffenberg spot, is also a relatively easy to locate erogenous zone. There is however some debate as to the exact location due to natural differentials of female genetalia. Located on the front anterior wall of the vaginal opening behind the pubic bone, the Graffenberg spot is better located after stimulating the surrounding area to a point where the Graffenberg swells and protrudes from its location. This leads to easier stimulation. The G-spot can be stimulated with both the fingers and the penis using various techniques and positions (penile stimulation will be explained at a later time).

Let’s first though discuss the location. Being that there is no immediate visual identifier of the g-spot, it will take a small amount of searching to find it. The first thing you must be aware of when taking the time to discover the g-spot is prior stimulation is required in order for your girl to be ready to be penetrated. If you do not prepare your girl before you attempt the discovery, you will cause quite a lot of pain and discomfort. Trying to force your fingers into an unready vagina is not only going to cause problems, it is also in my opinion very disrespectful. No girl wants to be treated like a piece of meat that can be stuffed no matter what the temperature. Please ensure that your girl is wet and ready to accept being penetrated with comfort.

The easiest way to locate the G-spot is to insert one or two fingers into the vaginal opening, palms facing up towards the ceiling. As you enter the vagina, follow across and around the pubic bone. As you move forward you will pass over the rear edge of the pubic bone and around to the back. At the back of the pubic bone there is a patch of skin that feels rough to the touch, similar in texture to the shell of a walnut. It is above this area that the g-spot is located in most women.

Practice and communication is all that are needed in order to successfully establish the correct spot. The rough area of skin is not by any means the actual Graffenberg spot. The area mentioned above is simply a marker and the g-spot is located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the front of the cervix, along the course of the urethra and near the neck of the bladder. Imagine your fingers running from the rear of the pubic bone up to the belly button, then, imagine a small clock inside the vagina with 12 o’clock pointing towards the navel (belly button), in most women the g-spot is located between 11 and 1 o’clock. The g-spot is relatively deep within this area and therefore requires some heavier stimulation than the external erogenous zones. The G-spot is proven to be (depending on anatomy) 2-3” inside the vagina. However, there are some things to consider. The size of your fingers, my middle finger measures at 3.5” yet I still sometimes have trouble reaching the G-spot. Why is that then? if the g-spot is only 2-3” inside the vagina? The reason is the 2-3” is an approximation based on the pelvis. It must be noted and realised that the vagina has a considerable amount of flesh externally and therefore may add an extra few inches onto the distance. Before you begin direct stimulation of the g-spot however, firstly it is required that you stimulate the surrounding area to induce swelling. In my experience this area responds more to creating a vacuum between your fingers and the crevice behind the pubic bone. Your girl should already be aroused and therefore should contain enough lubricating fluid to create the vacuum. To do this, press your finger tips on the front anterior wall and flick them away towards the cervix. After several flicking actions you should feel the pressure build up as the vacuum is created.

Once this vacuum is created stimulation in this fashion should be continued until the area swells and protrudes from its seating. Once this swelling has been achieved it is possible to move on to direct stimulation of the G-spot. If anyone is wondering why this swelling has to be caused prior to stimulating the g-spot it is due to the g-spot being positioned deep into the front anterior wall. Once the swelling has occurred it gives a good base on which to apply extra pressure to aid stimulation.

When stimulating the g-spot it is essential to press more heavily on the already engorged area, it is also acceptable to increase pressure by pressing down on the abdominal area just above the pubic bone. Stimulation can be begun in any way you feel comfortable, limited by the location and comfort ability factors. I find that steady pressure and steady pace work really well. Once you start with the stimulation, you should continue until your girl reaches climax. There is however some points you need to understand when it comes to g-spot stimulation.

First of all, due to the location of the g-spot, it is common for a woman to feel the need to urinate. This feeling can be a very hard barrier to overcome for any woman. You should be patient and understanding of your partner’s feelings and emotions during the course of g-spot stimulation. Always respect your partner and accept it if she asks you to stop. The need to urinate doesn’t mean that your girl will pee on you. This feeling comes from the g-spot being located along the course of the urethra and near the neck of the bladder. Due to the depth of the g-spot, pressure is also applied to the urethra during stimulation, thus causing the feeling of needing to urinate.

Secondly, it is good practice that you pay attention to your partner and read her body’s reactions to what you are doing, as a natural reaction a woman will automatically adjust if you are near the correct spot in order to gain better stimuli. Be attentive to breathing, heart rate, sounds and movement that are caused by your actions.

Thirdly, always be aware of facial expression. Facial expression gives a lot of feedback in regards to how your partner is feeling about the exploration. It is possible to tell if there is not only pleasure, but also if there is any sort of pain or discomfort. A lot of women will allow you to continue to a certain extent even if there is some discomfort. This is the line between pain and pleasure that is so very fine.

As a final note on the g-spot, there are also several positions of intercourse that take advantage of Graffenberg stimulation. These will be explained in a separate chapter as there is cross references that must be made and discussed also.

The A-Spot, or Anterior Fornix erogenous zone is located approx. 5 - 5.5” inside the vaginal opening. Being that the distance is so great, the chance of stimulating this area with the fingers is slim to none. Even when having intercourse, the A-spot can be very hard to hit due to the depth and location. Some men may never be able to give a woman an A-spot orgasm due to penile length. Even with 7.5” of erect length I have trouble reaching and stimulating the correct area at times.

Image 3 shows the location of the anterior fornix at the finger tips, however it was taken from a medical journal which reported on the management of obstetric haemorrhage. Therefore shows only the thumb outside of the vaginal opening. Entering your lady with all four fingers will result in a lot of discomfort and pain. I cannot stress enough how important it is, to not attempt stimulation of the Anterior Fornix erogenous zone, with the fingers unless the girl is comfortable with you attempting to do so. The below image shows a medical practice used to stem internal bleeding within the vaginal cavity. Any attempt to force your hand inside the vagina without proper preparation and practice will only lead to disappointment or embarrassment.

The Anterior Fornix erogenous zone, although hard to hit, can turn a woman into a quivering heap before your very eyes if you find the correct angle of entry. Due to the variation of human anatomy, the position of the Anterior Fornix will differ slightly from woman to woman. Stimulation of this spot will take practice and experimentation. The reason behind the need for practice and experimentation is not only to locate the correct angle for stimulation, but also to ensure that you and your partner develop a connection in the bedroom that builds communication and confidence within one another. Good communication in the bedroom when exploring for new erogenous zones is essential for location, along with correct stimulation. One way to gain the correct angle is to prop your girl’s hips onto a pillow and enter her in a missionary position. Variation of pillow height will be essential to the discovery. As mentioned earlier, the variation in human anatomy means variation of location.

If your girl is on top, you can prop your own hips up with pillows to gain a similar angle. Using a cowgirl position has more advantages when the male hips are raised with pillows. Not only is the angle of entry improved, but also the female legs are positioned wider and higher so there is an increase in stimulation and pressure within the vagina. To attain proper stimulation of the Anterior Fornix erogenous zone, thrusting will need to be sacrificed until you can actually locate the correct positioning. Not only does thrusting take a lot of effort, due to natural variation of thrust projection the penis will alter its entry angle each time it is inserted back into the vagina. The question has been raised many times, bump or grind? In the case or the A-spot, grind is much better.

The reasons behind this are, the penis stays at a more constant depth, movement has limited variation as opposed to thrusting and the feeling of correct stimulation is more identifiable. How then, I sense you asking, do you identify if the correct spot is located and stimulated? Throughout my research and practice I have discovered only one feasible and positive manner in which to tell. This positive identifier is such that you can feel the tip of the penis rubbing against the anterior wall of the vagina. Once this happens, you have the correct location but maybe not the correct spot. It may take some time to hit the exact spot but it will be worth it once you do.

Men and women who have larger fat pads around the pubic bone may find it a lot more difficult to reach, locate and identify the A-spot. Also, it must be mentioned that some people may never be able to induce an anterior fornix orgasm. Do not be worried if this is not something you can induce, there are another 3 erogenous zones you now have knowledge of and are able to work on.

I must add that there are numerous limiting factors to consider when it comes to the A-spot. Penile length, curvature, body weight, pubic bulk (flesh and fat not hair) and natural variation in human anatomy are all aspects that need to be taken into consideration when locating not only the A-spot but also any other erogenous zone. Limiting elements of finding the other zones are lesser due to the ability to locate them visually or by touch.

As a final note on this subject, you may have noticed there are several repeated statements with regards to good communication, respect, comfort etc. The reason behind this is purely simple. There is no single more definite way to cement a good sexual relationship than to communicate and be “partners”. Yes we all like to have some of our own animal instincts but what’s good for one might not always be good for another. Sexual compatibility extends far beyond intercourse and even beyond the bedroom. Intimate connections are not limited by arousal but also by personality, attitude and behaviours in general life. The softer side, a previous chapter I wrote describes a lot of other areas that bring intimacy to relationships and although I wrote it and explained a lot of things, this does not mean that my everyday life is fully integrated with my entire arsenal of knowledge. That would be impossible. A little piece of a big pie is a lot better than a big piece of a very small pie. Allow yourself, to change and grow and include what you feel is right at the time into your life. Sometimes we let ourselves stray from what we believe and implement due to natural changes of behaviour and routine. What I share is a wealth of knowledge that has taken me a lot of years to research, practice and develop. Remember though, what one woman likes, another will not. Finding a balance is very hard but very fulfilling once achieved with the correct partner which so far I have yet to do.

As a second note, you may have noticed that there are several references to techniques being discussed in later chapters, the reason behind this is to not drag out the locations of the erogenous zones by adding detail of various techniques and stimulation processes. Thus giving a brief insight as to where erogenous zones are located. As I work on completing the book so many people have requested this article and its predecessors will change and be added to maybe even moved around a little. I have chosen to exclude quite a lot of items from my articles that I would rather add into the completed works so my readers can benefit from it as a whole.

[Hanma]

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[3rdLegParty]

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[blulite]

im glad you guys like it, there is more where that came from, im working hard on my book trying to get it built up. im going to re-post my other guides soon also as ive edited them.

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[Hanma]

Anything new?

[blulite]

im working on a few things at the moment, these things take time buddy. i also dont want to rush the book.

what sort of anything new where you looking for? i do fulfill requests also...

[OlderGuy]

Don't forget to include the Deep Spot, which is the posterior fornix - different from the A-spot. This one is more easily accessed with rear entry and has a similar if not more pronounced effect.

[B1ue]

pretty interesting I'm skeptical about these kinds of things but it's worth a shot