The Manly Arts!

**closed056** · 10-23-2011

-Be comfortable in your own skin; you shouldn't care what people think or say about you, be assertive enough to give your own opinion, and be happy and confident in any situation.

-Have good posture; dont slump or hunch over.

-Always look people in the eyes.

XitemeM · 10-23-2011

If you are serving two of something; food, drink, splitting a candybar, whatever; always give the portion you think is nicer/better to the other person. Always.

**iminsoluble** · 10-23-2011

Learn the do's and don'ts of mens fashion.

1. Never go to the store (no matter the time of day) in your damn pajamas; if you're sick and need medicine put on a pair of jeans and a hoodie to cover your bed head. The farthest you should ever go in that attire is your front lawn (or to a party that it would be wanted or acceptable)

2. Brown shoes and black pants/slacks...NO!

3. Avoid wearing color combinations that resemble holidays: Red and Green, Orange and Black, Blue and Orange.. etc etc

4. Know when to dress for the proper occasion, it's much harder to be overdressed then under-dress!

5. Women are not the only people who can wear accessories! Try buying a belt, get a half way decent watch (non digital), try finding a necklace that isn't too masculine or feminine (better if you can find something with meaning). You should treat shoes like an accessory as well; your wardrobe should consist of more than just a pair of tennis shoes or sandals fellas! AND NO CROcS!!!

6. Blue jeans and a V-neck shirts are sexy for a lot of women but mind the chest hair. (perfect time to wear a belt too)

7. Don't be afraid to try pink/salmon; if you can rock a dress shirt in this color it shows confidence!

8. Different situations (dates) require different attire; jeans and a t-shirt are great for a ball game but maybe not the best choice for a romantic dinner.

9. No man should wear skinny jeans (my opinion only)

10. Believe it or not your draws (underwear) when you get to that point with a woman can gain you some points as well. You should probably keep at least 1 or 2 pair tucked away for special occasions (single and out clubbing and planning on taking someone home..etc etc) NOT that they should have hearts or crazy stuff like that on them but they shouldn't look like you've had them for the last 3 years!

The only reason I'm bringing this stuff up is because women are very keen on first impressions as well as believing their man has a sense of fashion. They don't want to be embarrassed to be seen with you out in public because your dressed sloppy or under dressed amongst her co-workers, family or friends.

Some might question my accessories tip but think of it this way. If you have a necklace that isn't too bold yet is interesting in its subtleness and has some meaning it opens up a door way for communication. For instance my son was born with a heart condition, I found a pendant that depicts an actual heart; I've had more girls ask me about it than I can count and every time I tell them the story I swear their panties drop an inch. Also in the day and age of cell phones many people (men) don't wear watches anymore; it is now shows form of sophistication to wear one.

Biggest tip is not to follow the fashion trends unless you have the disposable income and knack for knowing whats "in" and whats "out" because it changes too quickly. Stick with the classic stuff (looks not brands) and your wardrobe won't make you look "out of style" so quickly. Basically if you're advertising the clothes your wearing (the name is across your chest) your destined to be the guy still wearing Tommy Hilfiger. The best clothes are the ones that fit you properly not the name or label!

If you ever have a question about fashion your best bet is to either

A. Find a gay friend to help you
B. Know of a girl (who can dress properly herself) that can help you buy clothes (not your mother)

And if your goal is to bring a girls eyes down to your package you can actually make a subtle change to the color of our jeans to make their eyes focus to it....lol

**captainsaveaho** · 10-23-2011

Tell her how good she looks. Girls spend a lot of time getting ready and they do it for us, so let them know you notice their effort. Make her feel beautiful and trust me, you'll both be happier.

**Pirate** · 10-24-2011

Learn to prepare three complete meals: soup, salad, entree, dessert, wines, coffee/tea, the works. There are lots of books and online resources to help you out. Practice them and get them right.
Invite her over and share some wine while she talks to you while you do all the work. Sexy as hell:
1) she is at your place
2) you are displaying expertise
3) you are doing it for her

**Toadstool** · 10-24-2011

Originally Posted by captainsaveaho

Tell her how good she looks. Girls spend a lot of time getting ready and they do it for us, so let them know you notice their effort. Make her feel beautiful and trust me, you'll both be happier.

Better yet, compliment something specific, like her earrings, or her shoes. Saying "you look good" is vague and simple. Show her you're paying attention to how good she looks. Did she get a hair cut? Did she colour her hair, or her nails?
When she comes over looking great in a simple sun dress, it didn't happen by accident. Tell her that: "You make that dress look good."

**Qarzan** · 10-24-2011

Originally Posted by Toadstool

Better yet, compliment something specific, like her earrings, or her shoes. Saying "you look good" is vague and simple. Show her you're paying attention to how good she looks. Did she get a hair cut? Did she colour her hair, or her nails?
When she comes over looking great in a simple sun dress, it didn't happen by accident. Tell her that: "You make that dress look good."

Yes, definitely notice little changes in her appearance, and then tell her about it if it looks good. It shows that you are paying attention.

I can also attest to Toadstool's advice about dancing. At my sister's birthday party, she invited everyone out to a club. It was the first time I'd been clubbing in a long time, but I'm used to dancing in public. All the guys were around the edges of the dance floor, sitting in the booths or at the tables, trying to look cool. All the girls were on the floor dancing. I was on the dance floor. All the women's eyes were on me (some of them were giving me the creepy stalker eyes, which at least lets me know that they want me), and I had my pick. I chose one and just wrapped my arm around her waist, and she was mine; as long as I was dancing with her, she wasn't paying attention to anyone else. Then I moved on to the next one.

Damn, it was awesome. Which reminds me, I should do that again some time. It's quite the ego boost.

**HitraN** · 10-24-2011

Be passionate in everything you do. If you enjoy your life you will be able to attract quality people in it.
P.S. I was thinking about giving the tip of "spotting the little things" but u guys got there first

Also glad to be back in this great thread after 3 months out of the gym.

**islander** · 10-24-2011

When one of you post all of these things I'll be hopping on a plane! Excellent thread! Rep!!

When you get up to get something ask her or others if they need anything.

If she is venting just listen. Don't offer advice or fixes. She will ask if she wants it.

PMS is real. Gets worse with age. So however she handles it now get ready. Please wait until it's over that few days. Talk to her about the verbal lashing and mark it in your calendar to remind you 28 days later it's a coming again

**namsokiek** · 10-24-2011

Originally Posted by XitemeM

If you are serving two of something; food, drink, splitting a candybar, whatever; always give the portion you think is nicer/better to the other person. Always.

Be careful with this. In my mind nicer/better = bigger; which in her mind could be interpreted that you expect that she eats a lot (i.e. fat or FP fat potential) My fiance was pissed because she thought I was "shoving food at her". After I explained the bigger is better concept, she politely asked me to take the larger share.