Chronic Insecurity

[secureman]

I've personally at different times suffered from male insecurity. Of course my biggest one has been my penis 6.5 bp x 5.3 meg for anyone curious. But it also comes into other areas of my life as well such as intelligence, looks, social skills ect. Lately it's been getting to a boiling point. How do you guys deal with this?

[maelsukr]

We all are prone to that .
My remedy is to look at myself in my mirror each morning .
Connect , and program myself that I'm happy , healthy , safe and free .
Since we're organic computers , we need to self program and not use others ideas of who we are .
Try this for a few weeks .
You'll be amazed at your change .
You know the saying , shit in , shit out ?
Who programing you ?

[secureman]

I get it. And yes I have been letting myself get programmed by a lot of negativity and I need to cut off certain information sources.

[Hockey_NY]

I've personally at different times suffered from male insecurity. Of course my biggest one has been my penis 6.5 bp x 5.3 meg for anyone curious. But it also comes into other areas of my life as well such as intelligence, looks, social skills ect. Lately it's been getting to a boiling point. How do you guys deal with this?

Your penis is your largest insecurity? IMO, if you fix the other aspects you mention, your penis will be a non-issue. Your size is fine, BTW.

[amiok]

Well, your dick should be no where near an insecurity. 6.5x5.3 is above average, borderline big. But as for just plain ole insecurity I feel ya man.

[HotRod]

I think it's something built into our socialization from a young age. No matter how good looking, smart, etc., most guys seem to deal with some level of uncertaintly or feelings of inadequacy in some area of life. The way I deal with it now, is that I'm so sick of it that I started confronting it directly when it starts. I basically call bullshit on it and try to consciously stop it. It has never helped me acheive anything, so I just make a conscious effort to step outside the reach of those feelings. Not easy. I don't really use affirmations because for me that just feeds into the same ego traps. I try to focus on what I want.

Owen Cook of Real Social Dynamics has an intensive DVD seminar called The Blueprint which attempts to help guys discover their own core confidence. The orientation there has to do with "success with women," but I think it touches on so many other aspects of our experience as men (looks, money, acheivement, sex, etc.) that it's applicable even to guys who just want to feel better.

[secureman]

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Well the insecurity with my penis stems from feeling like I have to be the biggest a woman has had. I never used to care about it but unfortunately I picked a few not so nice gfs in the past. But ultimately It's my responsibility to try and change my personal beliefs.

[pterodactyl]

Its bigger than mine =)

[secureman]

No it isn't you're huge.

[pterodactyl]

I bet your volume is considerably more than mine. You have a .5in girth "advantage" over me. You have a thick one man you should not be worried about it.