Sup guys, just sharing thoughts and hope to find a new insight into my ''inner fears'' as you might say.
Basically, I have not had sex for 3 years now and I'm not one to sleep around. I intend to have sex and when I do it will be daily in a commited relationship.
Now my girl and I are at a long distance and due to various issues have put our relationship on hold for now but hoping to move in together when she's ready. Anyway we talked about sex with each other, played with each other and one thing she said that has stuck with me all this time is, "I like it hard baby". She's not the only one to say that to me, girls just like it hard. And I have to oblige Im sure you can understand where I'm coming from.
Here's my issue/dilemma/inner fear whatever. My celibate period was preceded by many unsatisfying sexual encouters where I was with uncaring women and didn't last that long and forgot what to do. Before that period I was in a long term relationship and I used to go all night. When I edge now, sometimes alone, sometimes to porn, I can edge for hours and my kegel is strong enough to hold that P0NR back, usually. However, this is light stimulation, slow/medium-fast strokes concentrating at the lower half of the shaft. If I move the stroke to the top half below the glans, then it just gets too intense and that P0NR is right their and it's the danger zone and I could cum their and then! This really bothers me because this makes me wander if I could really give it hard without wanting to cum when the time comes?
So I'm just preparing myself mentally and physically for this moment so I can give her all the pleasure she needs. And I'm hoping you guys can reassure me all is not lost.
I plan to talk to my girl about this and I know this will ease off the pressure and she will understand, and this in turn will help me become the 'master pumper' lol . I believe a lot of it is just psychological/confidance.
Also, having sex daily making up for lost time, I'm hoping will condition my unit to the task at hand. Am I right?
In time will edging and kegeling help? Right now I edge like twice a week even though I can last as mentioned before it's light stroking and the P0NR is always near. I always ejaculate after, but will holding the ejaculation back for a few days be better?
I have heard of vitamin B5 and chloline helps and I plan to experiment with them, here's the link:
Libido:: Natural Performance Enhancers
And I have heard SSRI's help taken at a very low dosage, e.g 5mg of generic celexa every few days and there is also a new specially adapted SSRI created specifically for treating prem ejac being released soon called 'priligy' which is already available in some countries, here's the link.
Working and treatment of Dapoxetine Prescription drug
Taken at extremely low dosages seem to work and keep side affects away. My Question is, if you started with either of these, could you use it to help you condition your unit and slowley wean off it while maintaining the benefits?
My aim is to be able to give it hard like I used to and I guess just letting this out and sharing these anxieties/fears here I will find some good advice along the way and be reassured that I will be able to have that ability once again and hope this post helps others in their similar quest. Most woman I know like it hard, I'm sure you guys know, can we, can I, please them in the way that they desire? Someone put my thoughts together and give me a confidance booster!
Basically, I have not had sex for 3 years now and I'm not one to sleep around. I intend to have sex and when I do it will be daily in a commited relationship.
Now my girl and I are at a long distance and due to various issues have put our relationship on hold for now but hoping to move in together when she's ready. Anyway we talked about sex with each other, played with each other and one thing she said that has stuck with me all this time is, "I like it hard baby". She's not the only one to say that to me, girls just like it hard. And I have to oblige Im sure you can understand where I'm coming from.
Here's my issue/dilemma/inner fear whatever. My celibate period was preceded by many unsatisfying sexual encouters where I was with uncaring women and didn't last that long and forgot what to do. Before that period I was in a long term relationship and I used to go all night. When I edge now, sometimes alone, sometimes to porn, I can edge for hours and my kegel is strong enough to hold that P0NR back, usually. However, this is light stimulation, slow/medium-fast strokes concentrating at the lower half of the shaft. If I move the stroke to the top half below the glans, then it just gets too intense and that P0NR is right their and it's the danger zone and I could cum their and then! This really bothers me because this makes me wander if I could really give it hard without wanting to cum when the time comes?
So I'm just preparing myself mentally and physically for this moment so I can give her all the pleasure she needs. And I'm hoping you guys can reassure me all is not lost.
I plan to talk to my girl about this and I know this will ease off the pressure and she will understand, and this in turn will help me become the 'master pumper' lol . I believe a lot of it is just psychological/confidance.
Also, having sex daily making up for lost time, I'm hoping will condition my unit to the task at hand. Am I right?
In time will edging and kegeling help? Right now I edge like twice a week even though I can last as mentioned before it's light stroking and the P0NR is always near. I always ejaculate after, but will holding the ejaculation back for a few days be better?
I have heard of vitamin B5 and chloline helps and I plan to experiment with them, here's the link:
Libido:: Natural Performance Enhancers
And I have heard SSRI's help taken at a very low dosage, e.g 5mg of generic celexa every few days and there is also a new specially adapted SSRI created specifically for treating prem ejac being released soon called 'priligy' which is already available in some countries, here's the link.
Working and treatment of Dapoxetine Prescription drug
Taken at extremely low dosages seem to work and keep side affects away. My Question is, if you started with either of these, could you use it to help you condition your unit and slowley wean off it while maintaining the benefits?
My aim is to be able to give it hard like I used to and I guess just letting this out and sharing these anxieties/fears here I will find some good advice along the way and be reassured that I will be able to have that ability once again and hope this post helps others in their similar quest. Most woman I know like it hard, I'm sure you guys know, can we, can I, please them in the way that they desire? Someone put my thoughts together and give me a confidance booster!
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