Time for a random but a straightforward thread.
This one is about the idea of human attachment being greater in the pursuit of pain than in the pursuit of pleasure.
I'm just going to keep it simple.
We humans focus more on what we don't have rather than looking and appreciating at what we have; whether it is related to money, material possessions, knowledge, love or skills.
The one thing that strikes me the most is our attachment to love - this somewhat unhealthy obsession for being accepted, finding a partner you can be romantically involved with; the need to find someone you want to spend your time and emotions with.
And when we don't get that we tend to get sad, dwell in self-pity and doubt our ability to attract - we sometimes even doubt our purpose in life over such a thing!
I think of it this way. Not everyone can be a millionaire, not everyone is a born genius, not everyone is physically beautiful and not everyone can be funny and so on...
So why is it a big deal when we don't get a date, a partner, a person we can be affectionate with in a romantic and overly intimate manner? It baffles me, the amount of attention such a simple thing gets and is paraded, perhaps even more nowadays.
... So not only we attach the opposite feelings of love TO love in its pursuit but we also contaminate it with other things, such as pleasure and lust and most importantly the need to control it.
A fine example is marriage - bringing in papers and the government into something you and the other person shares. Sometimes there's even the distribution of money and other resources between the couple in case their marriage doesn't work! These things show some distrust right away!
As for the need to control the other person's behaviour because it doesn't fit in with your own: Why not just say "Honey, I won't force you to change your habits, I know you will be considerate enough to not let some of them bother me. I love you for you because you, yourself, are what attracted me to you in the first place. So I won't control you, it would be like trying to control beauty." Trying to force love or changing your love is like trapping a bird in a cage ... it will be like a songless bird in the end. A beautiful sky is beautiful precisely because it will change at some point. It may or may not revert to the same sky you once saw and so the image is burned into your mind because the spontaneity of this beautiful sky is mesmerizing. This applies to life itself.
We're continually moving forward, as soon as we achieve one goal and have what we want we set another goal and don't take the time to appreciate what we already have. It seems we are, by human nature, compelled to always have a goal to set our sights on rather than stick with what we have. The need to set goals makes me wonder if people think they are separate from the world when they are not. But we don't have to stick to one place either. Things change, everything changes. When you try and swim against a current of water you will have much resistance, but when you swim with the flow you will have the entire momentum of the flow.
Yes, you may be 35 and still a virgin or you don't have a high social status, women, cars etc. Are you not alive? WHO is it that is feeling sad over this? Dig deeper, you will find that your ego is an illusion and your attachment to things like this is silly. Yet you and other people will continue with the 'poor little me' game.
All this leads me to believe that we humans are more into the eroticism of pain than we are into the pure appreciation and nurturing of life.
This one is about the idea of human attachment being greater in the pursuit of pain than in the pursuit of pleasure.
I'm just going to keep it simple.
We humans focus more on what we don't have rather than looking and appreciating at what we have; whether it is related to money, material possessions, knowledge, love or skills.
The one thing that strikes me the most is our attachment to love - this somewhat unhealthy obsession for being accepted, finding a partner you can be romantically involved with; the need to find someone you want to spend your time and emotions with.
And when we don't get that we tend to get sad, dwell in self-pity and doubt our ability to attract - we sometimes even doubt our purpose in life over such a thing!
I think of it this way. Not everyone can be a millionaire, not everyone is a born genius, not everyone is physically beautiful and not everyone can be funny and so on...
So why is it a big deal when we don't get a date, a partner, a person we can be affectionate with in a romantic and overly intimate manner? It baffles me, the amount of attention such a simple thing gets and is paraded, perhaps even more nowadays.
... So not only we attach the opposite feelings of love TO love in its pursuit but we also contaminate it with other things, such as pleasure and lust and most importantly the need to control it.
A fine example is marriage - bringing in papers and the government into something you and the other person shares. Sometimes there's even the distribution of money and other resources between the couple in case their marriage doesn't work! These things show some distrust right away!
As for the need to control the other person's behaviour because it doesn't fit in with your own: Why not just say "Honey, I won't force you to change your habits, I know you will be considerate enough to not let some of them bother me. I love you for you because you, yourself, are what attracted me to you in the first place. So I won't control you, it would be like trying to control beauty." Trying to force love or changing your love is like trapping a bird in a cage ... it will be like a songless bird in the end. A beautiful sky is beautiful precisely because it will change at some point. It may or may not revert to the same sky you once saw and so the image is burned into your mind because the spontaneity of this beautiful sky is mesmerizing. This applies to life itself.
We're continually moving forward, as soon as we achieve one goal and have what we want we set another goal and don't take the time to appreciate what we already have. It seems we are, by human nature, compelled to always have a goal to set our sights on rather than stick with what we have. The need to set goals makes me wonder if people think they are separate from the world when they are not. But we don't have to stick to one place either. Things change, everything changes. When you try and swim against a current of water you will have much resistance, but when you swim with the flow you will have the entire momentum of the flow.
Yes, you may be 35 and still a virgin or you don't have a high social status, women, cars etc. Are you not alive? WHO is it that is feeling sad over this? Dig deeper, you will find that your ego is an illusion and your attachment to things like this is silly. Yet you and other people will continue with the 'poor little me' game.
All this leads me to believe that we humans are more into the eroticism of pain than we are into the pure appreciation and nurturing of life.
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