Advice Round 4

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

It's that time again...RIB has no idea on how to read women!

Long story short, I have had my eye on this girl for a little over a year now, and didn't get the courage to start talking to her till about 3 weeks ago. Over the weekend, we were at a party, and we ended up making out (her instigating it, actually).

I've talked to her briefly here and there, trying not to come off as "too desperate" and smothering her. Today I was planning on asking her out on a date with me (had a few great ideas, surprisingly), but as I was talking to her one of my best friends who knows her as well grabbed me and pulled away (or helped ended the conversation). He quietly told me not to, because he knew she was not interested in a relationship/boyfriend at the time. He wouldn't say how he knew or his source, since we had to get to lifting.

Yup, I'm lost.

[PhibbysHammer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close PhibbysHammer]

you believe everything your buddies say or do you "Prove" things for yourself? Even if he was correct, what would it hurt to ask her? WOmen do change their minds often.

[papaki Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close papaki]

you believe everything your buddies say or do you "Prove" things for yourself? Even if he was correct, what would it hurt to ask her? WOmen do change their minds often.

he wants her for himself.Dont let him take this chik.go go go...

[epsilon Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close epsilon]

Listen to the to Casanova^^ but they are right right, at least end it in your terms, and let if fade trying, than let it end without doing anything and leave all question unanswered, who might know, she's been waiting for you and rejecting all the suitor(max possibility)

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

Thanks guys.

I talked to my friend some more; he doesn't like her (he is talking to another girl) but when he was standing with her that night conversing, she was pretty drunk and said she didn't want a relationship at the moment, just to have fun (and apparently this was after we had kissed).

I'm just really worried about her saying "no" and everything going awkward. I'm a tall, good looking guy, and my friends are actually stunned at how I never seem to get any girls. This is due to my inability to talk to them or read the signs...this is the closest thing I've got right now to a shot at starting a relationship (and it's a long one) and I know that if I blow this, it's going to be a long time before another opportunity comes...

Which would in fact make PE pointless for me cause I'll never get to use it, therefore making me very frustrated >:|

[eompow Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eompow]

Rib2211,

Quoted from a book and posted on my office wall and read daily. "Don't Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstanding, sadness and drama". Taken from the book, "The Four Agreements".

Live your life and go for your goals. Express to her what you really desire. If you fail (just does not workout) then you will live knowing you did your best at this time without regret.

Live life to the fullest,

[Radiohead Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Radiohead]

You're young, like me. Relax.

Your tall and good looking, like me. You have the exact same cock size as me.

The only difference between you and me: I've been in a serious relationship for over a year now. And she aint my first serious 1 year girlfriend. I'm 19.

The trick: Relax. You dont need to read anybody. You just need to impress chicks. Impress them with gym talk, music talk (do you play an instrument?), impress them with science talk (that wont always work though). You just need to impress.

When a chick is impressed enough, she'll come running after her prince charming (you).

You just need to relax and quit analyzing. Seriously, just randomly talk to chicks. Don't feel embarrassed. Just ease it out. Nice and smooth.