BDSM, anybody else into it?

[rollingthunder]

Btw MLfM, while this is a slight tangent, I find it to be related. I love to see the relationship that you and the Mrs. have. I love that you both so clearly appreciate what you have.

The last year of my life has shined a bright light on the current state of marriage. In the last week alone, I have been contacted by two married women. While these are both women I want badly, I did the same thing I do every time this happens. I had to suggest that if you haven't given every option a try in order to ensure that you have no choice, you may well regret it.
While I am in a position to know her misery, which is no way to live, I can't/won't be the one to blow it up. Just because divorce was the best and most important decision I ever made, doesn't mean her mileage won't vary.
I'm having this conversation a lot. That's why it pleases me so much to see two people who have found what they need together. Not to suggest it's easy. For that reason, I commend you.

[Looking4more]

Thank you so much brother! You truly are a man of character doing what you have with these women. You are right, it's not easy, especially when the world around you demands attention and sacrifices but all I can say is when you have the right person by your side and both are willing to make the sacrifices to make it work, then that makes it a whole lot easier. The rewards in the long run cannot even be measured. I have a wonderful life, an incredible wife, two awesome children and a roof over my head. I live in a free country and have the freedom to worship as I choose. Is there anything else a man could want?

[rollingthunder]

That's what we call "the good life"!

[Toadstool]

If I wanted good information on ways to tease a girl with anal play and delaying her orgasm, what would you guys recommend?

[Looking4more]

Personally have never tried to delay her orgasm. I've always been more into pushing her over the edge with too many orgasms. As far as anal play goes, you need to be slow and easy especially if it's her first time. The key is to help her be relaxed and use lots of lube. There are special lubes made specifically for anal. You can start with a finger and work your way up from there. We started with a smaller stainless plug and then graduated up to a larger one after penetrating her myself. We both love using her newer stainless plug while I am in the front door. There are starter kits if you feel you want to try it. I can PM you links to the plugs we use if you like. There are also inflatable plugs available so you can adjust the size.

[MrsLooking4more]

Never tried it as never met the right girl. Although I do plan to build a set of medieval stocks one day. Cool or what....
http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thin...l&tid=19844508

Looks good!

[rollingthunder]

Thank you so much brother! You truly are a man of character doing what you have with these women. You are right, it's not easy, especially when the world around you demands attention and sacrifices but all I can say is when you have the right person by your side and both are willing to make the sacrifices to make it work, then that makes it a whole lot easier. The rewards in the long run cannot even be measured. I have a wonderful life, an incredible wife, two awesome children and a roof over my head. I live in a free country and have the freedom to worship as I choose. Is there anything else a man could want?

As far as my character regarding these women, I'm doing the best I can.
One has been an object of my affection for thirty years, and the other is 17 years younger than me and one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen.
Phase two of that conversation will be discouraging any face to face meetings until they have decided the fate of their relationships. Mostly because I have a rule not to hold back these days. I'm a chicken hawk hunting for a chicken. If I am in their prescence, I fully expect I will cross a line. If they are receptive or vulnerable, there won't be any taking that back.
These are both wonderful women and mothers. That makes them suitable for someday meeting my children. This shit is difficult.

[Looking4more]

You are a man of character and obviously self -aware. Just reacting to your own innate ways shows the character you have. Admitting you may not have complete self control in their prescence and dealing with it accordingly is indeed incredible. Whatever woman happens to land you will truly be blessed. I love the way you view these women in your life and how you are not willing to compromise their situation. Real gentlemen do still exist and it is most refreshing. Hang in the brother. Being the good guy isn't always easy but the end result is always worth the sacrifice.

[SheSquirts]

If I wanted good information on ways to tease a girl with anal play and delaying her orgasm, what would you guys recommend?

Be gentle at first! That shit stings at first! But once the initial sting goes away, it feels wonderful!

Don't hold her orgasm back! That's not nice, play into it and make her cum harder!

[MrsLooking4more]

Confidence really does play a big role in your life. Too bad most women can't tell confidence apart from arrogance!

As far as BDSM goes, looks like I'm into the "D" part of it! (I didn't even know what it was until I read this thread).

I like to be dominant most times I have sex: ass smacking, hair tugging (gentle), neck grabbing and manhandling (holding and doing her in all kinds of different, dominant and akward positions ). That's also why I don't want an excessively large penis. I'm aware of my (dominant) nature, so I feel like a very big penis will do nothing but hurt the women.

As far as the other "parts of the spectrum", I guess S and M really aren't me.

Bondage, I've never tried it. Maybe I'll like it, who knows?

Hey Mike if you are spanking and pulling hair, you are already part of the D and the S. You don't have to inflict a lot of pain that is the misconception people not in the life style have. I am a masochist but not a extreme one. I don't mind, spanking, flogging, paddling, clamps but i am not up to needles and all that stuff. So just remember within the spectrum there are many levels to satisfy whatever works for you. Bondage does not require equipment. If you ever restrained a woman's above her head or at her side while making love, the you have in fact experienced "bondage" Is not all about cuffs. you can restraint, with scarves, ties, tape name it. Is just that leather/nylon cuffs are more comfortable and versatile.

I can understand what you mean about the excessive large penis specially for BDSM where the sub's range of motion is limited by restraints and they might not be able to shift a position to keep from getting hurt. With all you are already doing, I can guarantee you will love bondage. I can tell you I love it!!!!!