Should You Share?

**MrsLooking4more** · 01-02-2013

Over the last few months I noticed many of you are reluctant or anxious about your partners knowing what you do with what you have learned here. As a wife and the recipient of my husband's time investment and hard work. I must say I bless the founder/s and all of you collaborators that have over the years helped my husband get with the PEGym Program.

From my perspective I can tell you that there are few things I have learned so far.

1. You guys work hard at pleasing us ladies and this forum has made me realize just how much.
2. The changes in confidence to you, make a big difference in how you express yourselves sexually. Therefore our has improved exponentially.
3. Being able to be part of the forum or at least read it (as I have done for almost a year) made me appreciate my husband's effort so much more and in turn encouraged me to try harder to reciprocate by trying harder myself to please him and support him on this journey.
4. I know this is a safe place for you males and I will do my best to respect that.

Thank you for all you have done for US and for the education you have provided me. I am now trying to help the Mr with the exercises, encouragement and I will be making him one of those rice socks for warming before jelqing.

How do you feel about telling your partner about your PEGym experience? Do you think they would be grateful? Or do you prefer to keep it to yourself and continue to have a safe haven to discuss your issues in private? Either way I am thankful to you!

**MrBigDick** · 01-02-2013

Don't have a partner but I well imagine she would be............this woman I'm talking to now seems to be very open minded so I don't think it would be a problem telling her.

**Steneo** · 01-03-2013

You know...if I really thought my wife would be positive I would tell her in a second...but I think that it is almost certain that her initial reaction, at this moment in the abscence of major results, would be indifference, negative, or condescending. I hope one day to be able to share this with her...all of it...so that she can see just how much I value our relationship...that I'm willing to put in an amount of time that could easily be described as insane to be better for her..what I think she really wants and deserves.

Honestly though, I don't think it will happen until she suspects/asks what is happening and that may be a while!

**MichaelJackson** · 01-03-2013

I have told my girlfriend, but not until I'd been putting in work for almost a year. When you've had some success and she starts commenting, then you can tell her with a Garfield-like grin. If you tell her at the beginning, probably like most people she'll assume it won't work and will think you must have self-esteem issues: anyway that was my reasoning. On the other hand, tell her after an inch gain and she'll be amazed. Who wouldn't? Do any of you guys talk to your mates about this stuff? I don't think many people would believe it until they'd seen it work for themselves.

**billy10** · 01-03-2013

Originally Posted by MichaelJackson

I have told my girlfriend, but not until I'd been putting in work for almost a year. When you've had some success and she starts commenting, then you can tell her with a Garfield-like grin. If you tell her at the beginning, probably like most people she'll assume it won't work and will think you must have self-esteem issues: anyway that was my reasoning. On the other hand, tell her after an inch gain and she'll be amazed. Who wouldn't? Do any of you guys talk to your mates about this stuff? I don't think many people would believe it until they'd seen it work for themselves.

My wife helped me with it right from the beginning some years ago and we are both delighted with the current results. I still jelq every day and when I get tired she takes over and we always end up having great sex so don't be afraid to tell your wife or girlfriend about it .

**Koh** · 01-03-2013

I don't have a partner, but I would rather keep PE to myself; I like the safe haven deal.

**Glamissand1** · 01-03-2013

As a test I didn't tell the Mrs. But after I had made serious gains 3/4 inch she knew I was bigger. As a test she went as deep on my cock as she could take in her mouth. Which before was all of it with a little lip stretch! But this time she was 3/4 inch off my base! She knew without a doubt it was longer and guessed it to be an inch longer. It felt good to see her in disbelief, proof of my hard work measured out in her wet mouth. So I let her know that it wasn't an inch longer just 3/4 inch longer. After she finished what she started and try as she might still couldn't get it all down, we talked about the gym. She was worried I might hurt myself, worried that I thought she didn't think I was big enough, worried that I would become so large I would hurt her or blow her pussy out. I let her know it was my love for her that drives my workouts, I knew that I was big enough for her but wanted to reach her deepest spots to give her all that I can be, yes its a risk but taking it slow helps reduse the risks, and that she is the one to deside when I'm as big as I need to be. Since telling her about the gym our sex life has exploded like the first year we were together, she constantly wants to see touch taste and ride it. As a show of support she ( also a need) learned how to deep throat my cock.

**rbi99** · 01-03-2013

My wife saw me jelqing and thought I was masturbating. She was fine with me masturbating, but she then said she felt bad because maybe we weren't having enough sex. When I explained PE, her reaction was one of why bother with that, you are fine already. Then she said she couldn't believe I thought I was small. I explained I never thought I was small or insecure, but that I just wanted to see if it worked. She is great in bed, but she still said she saw no point in it.

**Sean Jacobs** · 01-03-2013

Originally Posted by MrsLooking4more

How do you feel about telling your partner about your PEGym experience? Do you think they would be grateful? Or do you prefer to keep it to yourself and continue to have a safe haven to discuss your issues in private? Either way I am thankful to you!

I know for a fact my wife would not be supportive of my PE pursuits. Mostly because she would feel it is not necessary, and because it is "weird". It is best to keep it to myself. However, if I actually start to have noticeable size increases she will ask questions. I will cross that bridge when I come to it.

**MrsLooking4more** · 01-03-2013

Like some of you with your wives, I did not know until the Mr. had been at it for a little over a year. I noticed the change and commented but he would just smirk at me. He finally told me almost a year ago and I have to honestly say, I feel it has really brought us together because of MY realization of what he would do to please me, regardless of whether I thought it was needed or not. That realization has in turn motivated me to help him on this journey to achieve whatever goal he wants. I think I would have been supportive if I knew from the start because, he has always been supportive of me but I don't think I would have been as amazed at the length of his "devotion" to this journey. When he showed me the site, the books and all the stuff, I can not even put into words the wonderful feelings I had.

I already commented I love the appearance of the Flaccid hang, is such a turn on. Helping him do the exercises has also made me more comfortable with handling his package. I was always afraid to hurt it and reading the forums has helped me learn what to avoid from members that discussed previous injuries due to not warming up enough, over stretching etc.
Also taking an interest has helped learn more about what males want and would like tried on them and that in turn has helped me "experiment" with my Mr. Where else could I get open advice for free from men about PEGym like questions, without seeming forward or trampy? I love this community!