PE made me an exhibitionist?

[MrPriapus]

Said the guy who posts pics of his dick on this site himself for other guys to see..you make sense only to yourself. In your world you got it figured out and every other guy doesn't...but please continue because it is entertaining.

hmmm... I don't know what my posted pictures have to do with this discussion. I posted them because there are not many black members posting pictures of their progress, and thought that it might be anecdotal for someone just browsing the photos forum. I am in no need of an ego boost, just trying to contribute.

Argue about what I say in the posts, don't try to attack my character by manufacturing intent about something out of context. This is me being polite,..

[DennyA]

hmmm... I don't know what my posted pictures have to do with this discussion. I posted them because there are not many black members posting pictures of their progress, and thought that it might be anecdotal for someone just browsing the photos forum. I am in no need of an ego boost, just trying to contribute.

Argue about what I say in the posts, don't try to attack my character by manufacturing intent about something out of context. This is me being polite,..

Ha ha, this whole thread is anectdotal...ok, so you don't have a problem with a bulge and everyone else that does is faking it, I get it...and we have security and confidence problems and it's nonsense to talk about penis size and its affect outside this forum and or context of sex. And when you post pics it's for a good reason but everyone else is looking for an ego boost...actually, i enjoy the ego boost, so i'll give you that one.. So now the thread can get back on topic of PE Has Made Me An Exhibitionist (but not you)...lol.

[MrPriapus]

You're exactly right Denny, I'm perfect.
And here is my perfect respone: "There is no reason to worry about how your penis looks to anyone else except the ones who test drive it."

On another note, I love being nude in the confines of my home, and have always thought it would be nice to checkout a nudist community at some point. I've always thought that nudity is a beautiful thing in the right way, and think it would be great to have that experience.

Given the nature of the thread, I'm curious to know if anyone here has actually ventured out into this sort of thing. For those who really have the thirst for exhibitionism, it seems like it would be a much healthier outlet than others discussed.

Would you do it? Thoughts?

[Knoblin]

i do.nude beaches here are great all summer!!

[Knoblin]

i use organic knoblin oil on my green skin..works great....next.

[MySword]

Ok guys no need to get involved in a bid dick contest! (oh i made myself laugh...)

I started this thread for the very reason of this discussion. There is a very big range of views on this even amongst my own friends. I note movingup talked about discussions amongst young women about penis size and I know when i was younger at my college days (5-10 years ago now) it was certainly discussed. Not always in a super serious way but the all girl dorm certainly had little giggles about the men 'next door' in the all male dorm. I was not really part of that scene but post college I have heard from my sister (who went to that dorm) that it was 'awkward' when the girls chatted about it because i was mentioned.....and based on how often some of those girls hit on me (even though i only slept with 2 of their whole dorm and was too nervous to initiate) it now makes some more sense.

My question with this thread was not only the view of guys (and gals if they want) on here about how much to show and when, but also whether PE has changed your view. Its pretty obvious MrPriapus believes its not ok to go around showing your bulge....since he looks for clothes etc to actively hide it. I can see that point in certain situations but I don't see why I should have to change how I behave on purpose just to 'appear' less penis obsessed. Fact is if you are on here you probably have more penis obsession than the average guy (which is already a lot) so why you would do all this work and then be so concerned someone might notice a slightly large bulge I have no idea. I mean you can be on here for better eq, better flaccid size, larger erect size or just penis health but whatever it is squishing it into tighter pants or whatever to 'hide' what you were born with (let alone worked to get) seems odd to me. If you have a 1 inch larger flaccid and are worried others might now see it why make it bigger in the first place?

Of course as i said earler social norms and basic etiquette means comando style in tight pants is a bit silly at the local diner with kiddies around but what is wrong with that at home or even amongst close friends. Are you worried they are going to spread rumours....why would they even look?? Its up to the person looking as much as the man himself IMO.... Frankly MrPriapus while I agree with a lot of what you have said (and you certainly have a very mature and much more confident approach than I...I already admitted I was ashamed of anyone seeing any sort of bulge when I was younger) you can't claim 'hey i'm so above this penis perception thing I don't have to show my bulge at all' but then push this view onto others at the same time. It works for you and I give you points for that but for a good % of members on here work on PE for the exact point of making their bulge bigger!

Also, while I consider myself pretty confident in general, I have had, like many men, very real insecurities about their penis size that are non-sexual. As someone what is interested in the nudist lifestyle (and I too find this interesting) I'm surprised you are shocked by that. Why else is nudism not way more popular? I know with my larger flaccid size (and better hang...thanks to the underwear you so obviously think i only use for looks) I would be more confident on a nudist beach... If that makes me an insecure man than so be it!

[MrPriapus]

Its pretty obvious MrPriapus believes its not ok to go around showing your bulge....since he looks for clothes etc to actively hide it. I can see that point in certain situations but I don't see why I should have to change how I behave on purpose just to 'appear' less penis obsessed.

Frankly MrPriapus while I agree with a lot of what you have said (and you certainly have a very mature and much more confident approach than I...I already admitted I was ashamed of anyone seeing any sort of bulge when I was younger) you can't claim 'hey i'm so above this penis perception thing I don't have to show my bulge at all' but then push this view onto others at the same time. It works for you and I give you points for that but for a good % of members on here work on PE for the exact point of making their bulge bigger!

So I think I attached the pertinent points.

I know I have come off as sanctimoniuos with my "holier than thou" attitude toward this subject so first let me correct some misconceptions.

One, I don't believe that anyone should try to "actively hide" their bulge. I buy attire that is comfortable (i.e. not squashing my dick), which reduces the bulge. It seems that you directly relate comfort and bulge-showing, which is exactly the opposite for me. My ultimate point is that you shouldn't be worried about how your bulge is viewed in public. I'm not saying hide it, or show it; rather, I would like you to not concern yourself with either. I wear what is comfortable, which are clothes that naturally allow for more crotch space (bulge-reducing). If you find other types of clothes that may accent the crotch more comfy, then by all means.

Now, here is what I am really trying to get across. Obsession with penis size, outside of the sexual act is only going to add to the level of anxiety and insecurity that you feel about it. I just want you to forget how your cock appears to anyone who doesn't matter. That is all I'm really trying to say, but apparently have failed to highlight.

I am against the intentional bulges because it really devalues your worth as a man if that's how you want women to see you - a giant swinging cock. Then you have a character flaw, not a penis flaw. There are times when this can be advantageous (i.e quick hookups), but if you are out looking for a mate (or if you already have one) you don't want the outline of your cock to be the first, and likely last, thing on a person's mind. I'm sure you have some very charming attributes about yourself that people admire, you should lead with those qualities rather than the objectifying impression of your cock print. If they notice your bulge - fine. But, don't get swept up into hype.

I think you already know this, but your concern with what others think of your penis makes me think that maybe you need to be reminded of this again.

Also, while I consider myself pretty confident in general, I have had, like many men, very real insecurities about their penis size that are non-sexual. As someone what is interested in the nudist lifestyle (and I too find this interesting) I'm surprised you are shocked by that.

What am I shocked by?

Are you talking about concern for flaccid size in the nudist community setting? If so, I think that it would be a liberating experience for you. I think the whole nudist psyche is completely unconcerned with the size of members genitalia. You should look at some nudist pictures and you will see that everyone ranges in size, and nobody feels uncomfortable or nervous about it. That's one of my biggest interests in it. The complete freedom from judgment based on societal pressures and perceptions.

I also have had these same insecurities as you growing up, but came to terms with my average-sized penis during my time in the miltary. I saw many penises, and I slept with many women. I now realize that my penis is plenty to satisfy most women. I am not concerned about how it appears to anyone except the person whose riding, because anything else is irrelevant. Now, I just want a larger one, because I think it will make me a sexual juggernaut, able to catapult any women to high Heaven. I love sex, and I'm great at sex, but there are certain things that I just can't do with the toy out of the box - it just needs a few aftermarket enhancements before its ready to keep up with my libidinous ambitions. If I can get that through some simple exercises, then I figure it's worth a shot.


I ultimately just want the men here to feel comfortable with their penises, and not be so damn concerned with what the rest of the World thinks. Use it to fuck better, not to be better!

[MySword]

Mr Priapus based on your post I think we are much on the same wavelength just coming at it from a slightly different angle. Perhaps the way I have described my view is not very clear. As i said in my other thread I never asked for any attention from women when I started wearing new underwear/clothes....it was simply to be more comfortable and was after I started studying the importance of flaccid hang to penis health. Perhaps I have just become hyper sensitive to anything regarding my penis since PE - i have more confidence and as I said, no longer 'hide' what i have. Not all things i wear that are comfy show a bulge...but some do possibly just because of my body shape or what I like to wear pre PE.

I fully agree with your point RE anxiety about my penis. I think alot of men have that but I don't agree that my interest in this issue makes it worse. I have already posted on here in another thread that if i never gain anything b this point I will be ok with it...it took a long way for me to be able to say even that.In fact the recent looks i have gotten have led me to believe i have more then enough as it is....as Denny said earlier some of us like the (however pointless) ego boost even if we know deep down it means nothing (as you say we are not worth as a man what our penis size is....).

I also agree that you dont want to be known as just a 'elephant man' as i noted in my other thread (re coworkers). It may give some ego boost but while its all funny to them its a bit devaluing to me as a professional given its at work..... I think you can get into trouble RE your view when you say this sort of thing 'devalues a man' though....reality is a penis is a big part of many men psyche wise and I'm not ashamed that they think i have a big dick.....Funnily enough i don't see it as all that big anyway and I never thought a small gain due to PE in flaccid length + new underwear would cause all this hoo ha!!

RE the nudist thing yes I also have interest in it because they just don't care about these things....i also like to be nude at home and just prefer it post PE esp. What i meant is that many who might want to try such things struggle with their hang ups RE their body (which for men penis size is a big one) and so it is not as popular as i think it could be.

Your last two paragraphs are right on to my view RE pe for sex though. On that there is no debate....i get good reviews on my performance in the sack and my pretty good girth meant i was never called 'small' by any woman. but i would like more for certain positions. To me I only noticed my flaccid gains recently.....as a result of this whole topic basically!

[DennyA]

You're exactly right Denny, I'm perfect.
And here is my perfect respone: "There is no reason to worry about how your penis looks to anyone else except the ones who test drive it."

On another note, I love being nude in the confines of my home, and have always thought it would be nice to checkout a nudist community at some point. I've always thought that nudity is a beautiful thing in the right way, and think it would be great to have that experience.

Given the nature of the thread, I'm curious to know if anyone here has actually ventured out into this sort of thing. For those who really have the thirst for exhibitionism, it seems like it would be a much healthier outlet than others discussed.

Would you do it? Thoughts?

Would I? Sure, but I can hardly wait for the psychoanalysis on why it is probably an unhealthy perspective for me, not you as you are man enough to handle a nudist colony.

The unhealthy and shallow reason I would be ok at a nude beach or other is that i keep myself in very good shape for an old insecure fart...body fat around 9-10%...those are my arms in my avatar and i am proud of my body...oops, sometimes i care what other people think of my body (unlike more evolved individuals)...and my flaccid dick is pretty impressive (looking up for lightning to strike...) Anyway, all of this is probably ludicrous and beneath speaking about outside a penis enlargement site where no one should be insecure but that's what you're here for to keep the ball in play and to point out what we may not be lacking in penis size, we are lacking in many other aspects...newsflash, a lot of us may aready know that.

[workaholics]

My flaccid has increased this year. I'm not a big exhibitionist but sometimes I run errands in sweatpants with no underwear. That's about as far as I'll go haha