Do you need it? Do you want it?

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

Want a big dick? Need a big dick?

Okay, hypothetically:

If you can go back in time and ELIMINATE the one thing that eventually sprouted into the "MY DICK ISN'T SUFFICIENT AND I NEED TO GET BIGGER" syndrome,,,,,what would that item be. Think carefully because we want to get the ROOT cause and not just symptoms.

I don't have an answer myself just yet,,,,,,but the question came to mind when I read about the 10" dick guy wanting even bigger.

[jrems Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jrems]

My dad had an old porn VHS that I would steal away to watch when no one else was home. There were some slightly above average guys on there and a couple who were rocking somewhere in the 8x6 range and I decided then (roughly age 12-14) that I wanted to be one of those guys and I hoped liked hell I would end up with a dick like that.

Then came high school and I was a late bloomer and worse I grew slowly so puberty didn't finish up until 22 or 23. By that time I had been in locker rooms and I just knew that I was small. I didn't let it get me down but it did slow me down with women and confidence.

At age 23 I dated a girl who told me that she had been with a guy who was very big and it was devastating to me because I felt helpless and inferior like I couldn't do anything for her since he was physically superior. Then I found PEGym and the rest is history. I soon realized that I was average and now I do PE for myself and my confidence is great. Size is only as important as YOU let it be.

Started 6 BPEL x 4.6 MSEG
Now 7.1 BPEL x 5.1 MSEG

Life is good.

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

My dad had an old porn VHS that I would steal away to watch when no one else was home. There were some slightly above average guys on there and a couple who were rocking somewhere in the 8x6 range and I decided then (roughly age 12-14) that I wanted to be one of those guys and I hoped liked hell I would end up with a dick like that.

Then came high school and I was a late bloomer and worse I grew slowly so puberty didn't finish up until 22 or 23. By that time I had been in locker rooms and I just knew that I was small. I didn't let it get me down but it did slow me down with women and confidence.

At age 23 I dated a girl who told me that she had been with a guy who was very big and it was devastating to me because I felt helpless and inferior like I couldn't do anything for her since he was physically superior. Then I found PEGym and the rest is history. I soon realized that I was average and now I do PE for myself and my confidence is great. Size is only as important as YOU let it be.

Started 6 BPEL x 4.6 MSEG
Now 7.1 BPEL x 5.1 MSEG

Life is good.

So would you say your answer is PORN?

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

For me, I don't think porn was a cause of this, it might have a part to play though.

I'm more of a grower so flaccid size is mostly what led me to believe I was smaller than everyone else, I know better now.

Hearing my parents and people joke about guys who are "small" at a very young age didn't help, I pretty much never wanted to be the biggest, I just wanted to be accepted by a women as would any other male and not feel like I'm different.

Now I know I can please my wife and my previous partners, I'm relatively comfortable. A bit more size might just be vanity, but mostly I never wanted to be humiliated and made to feel like I'm not worthy finding love, happiness and pleasure.

So to sum up, I'd eliminate parents and idiots! (just kidding), I'd eliminate negative attitudes that one human is somehow different to another.

[jrems Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jrems]

So would you say your answer is PORN?

Yes I would say that porn is where it began but there were a few factors. I am completely content now.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Communal showers - high school and army. Everyone's flaccid was bigger than mine. Urinals didn't help either.

Shower stalls and partitions between urinals would have helped.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Oh I thought the word "it" meant something else! Sorry! ( I do remember when the word "it' did mean something else. Hey did you get it? Yea 3 times last night; it was great! Oh well the good ole days!)

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Want a big dick - yes.

Need a big dick - no.

Origins of insecurity about penis size? - Similar to the other guys, male dressing rooms and urinals, it was flaccid penis size, I never had insecurity about erect size. Despite only now aiming for erect gains, although the flaccid ones are a bonus!

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

I am pretty sure I have no need for it, but if there is a need there is certainly more of me wanting it than needing it. I don't know remember what caused this wanting, but I am pretty sure it came from me thinking I was small. Not really sure where it came from though, to be honest.

While I have never had sex, but my only two girlfriends have told me I was big, even if one of them had a bigger penis than me (and that is actually not a joke at all) and one even went to say I was probably too big for her. The older lady I do things with over the internet says I am perfectly big and questions why I want to get bigger. Guess it is just me.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Ex.

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

I would say porn is the cause for me to be curious as to increase the size of my penis but ever since I arrived here at PEGym I haven't been insecure about my size. I started out with above average stats in both length and girth.

[aBone2pick Senior Member Member of the Month July 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close aBone2pick]

Had a measuring contest with my friends when we were in high school. We each went into a private place and measured ourself against a sheet of paper then marked how far our erection went. I came last, despite my above average length. Totally crushing.

[franciscan Member Find all posts View Profile Close franciscan]

Sex....ehm, I want it, I REALLY DO.....but I am coming to the realisation that I dont NEED it. My obsession with my penis size was the result of having made an utter disgrace of my life, and the false assumption that sex was all I had to offer. If that was the case, then I better be bloody well amazing at it. Now that I'm 49 and not on the "A" list anymore (not sure that I ever was if I'm honest, but you get my point) and with my quite unfortunate combination of medical issues that conspire to give me ED....it has become quite necessary to sit back and truly re-examine want vs need. Most experts and philosophers agree that a healthy sex life is a necessity, and whilst I agree to some point...I had my days in the sun (moon?) and now it's time to relinquish "Pride Rock" and let the other lions take over. To better answer the OP's original question....lack of a greater sense of self.

[franciscan Member Find all posts View Profile Close franciscan]

Oh, hello forum...my name is Scott and I'm new! I also have trouble providing a short answer to most anything (I'm a heilan Scot...nae muh fault ye ken)