Fun and Interesting Sex Facts

**Pegasus** · 04-06-2015

Originally Posted by Dontrike

Vaginal weightlifting...........yep. Imma go make the VEGYM (vaginal exercise) site.

We have at least one male member currently using this style device.

**Pegasus** · 04-06-2015

Originally Posted by The Passionate Wife

No such thing as a "sex drive" in women????

Psychologists have long touted techniques for boosting our sex drive, be it through books, foods, or drugs. The libido has been the focal point of achieving sexual pleasure, but one Massachusetts psychologist believes a sex drive isn’t necessarily the only normal way to experience carnal desire. According to Emily Nagoski, the director of Wellness Education at Smith College in Northampton, Mass., our ideas of sex drive are antiquated and rather, should be discussed in terms of “spontaneous desire” and “responsive desire.”

The notion of a libido, also known as sex drive, was coined by psychologist Sigmund Freud to encompass the seeking of pleasure. He believed this drive was genetically part of the species’ need to survive. However, unlike drives such as hunger, the libido can be postponed or transferred without endangering our survival.

Sex drive has been thought of as a way to increase our sexual gratification, but it can still be achieved even without a spontaneous desire. Nagoski believes if sex is a drive, then the desire should be spontaneous like hunger. "When you see a sexy person or have a stray sexy thought, it activates an internal craving or urge for sex. That's called 'spontaneous desire.' It feels like it comes out of the blue," she told New Scientist.

Spontaneous desire is equated to what we have long believed to be "sex drive," but Nagoski suggests there’s also a healthy and normal way to experience desire — responsive desire. This is when our interest only surfaces in response to arousal. For example, she said: "So, your partner comes over and starts kissing your neck and you're like, 'Oh, right, sex. That's a good idea.'"

Typically, 70 percent of men experience spontaneous desire, while only 10 to 20 percent of women experience it as their primary desire style. Men tend to experience desire first and then arousal, while most women respond to arousal first, which then develops into desire. The responsive desire many experience, especially women, is not associated with any pain or any disorder of arousal or orgasm, according to Nagoski. Yet, pharmaceutical companies insist women with low sex drives should be medicated.

Recently, Sprout Pharmaceuticals has resubmitted the drug flibanserin to the Food and Drug Administration for approval for a third time. Flibanserin aims to treat hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) in women, defined as the persistent or recurrent deficiency or absence of sexual fantasies and a desire for sexual activity that causes distress or interpersonal difficulty, according to the press release. HSDD was removed from the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders in 2013 and was replaced with female sexual interest/arousal disorder.

This diagnosis is intended for women who lack both spontaneous and responsive desire, and feel distressed by this. However, some women wrongly believe their responsive desire — arousal first and then desire — is associated with low desire. They believe "that their ability to enjoy sex with their partner is meaningless if they don’t also feel a persistent urge for it; in short, that they are broken, because their desire isn’t what it’s 'supposed' to be," Nagoski wrote in an op-ed for The New York Times.

Previous studies do suggest men and women have different experiences of sexuality. A study published in The Journal of Sex Research found lustful tendencies, including spontaneous sexual thoughts and physical arousal are a lot more common in men than in women. Men are more likely to score higher in libido while women’s sex drive is more fluid. This is because sexual desire tends to be more connected to environment and context for women.

Nagoski proposes while spontaneous desire is fun, you’re not broken if you don’t experience it. "Spontaneous desire isn't necessary for sexual pleasure. Is it more important that people crave sex than it is that they enjoy the sex they're having?" she told New Scientist.

Women and men should discard any preconceived notions that their sexual desire is dysfunctional. After all, if we experience sexual pleasure in the end, the concept of sex drive becomes irrelevant.

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Thus females tend to need to be seduced or enticed ? Hmm I would prefer my partner to have a drive quite frankly.

**TPW** · 04-06-2015

Originally Posted by Pegasus

Thus females tend to need to be seduced or enticed ? Hmm I would prefer my partner to have a drive quite frankly.

Not necessarily. I think there is much that a woman can do to initiate her own "sexual responsiveness" such as indulging in sexual fantasy, reading or watching erotica, self-pleasuring or even just acknowledging that she is a sexual being along with any other of the many "hats" she may wear.

**closed224** · 04-06-2015

Or she can start nibblingnon the neck of someone she would enjoy responding to, and we all know where that will end up.

**TPW** · 04-06-2015

Originally Posted by wishful10x8

Or she can start nibblingnon the neck of someone she would enjoy responding to, and we all know where that will end up.

Hahaha Wishful...indeed!

**TPW** · 04-13-2015

New Breakthrough Condom Design

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The Aussie scientists testing the material

SEX scientists are designing a groundbreaking new condom that will revolutionize intercourse, because its makers claim it will feel better than not using one.

Scientists in Australia won more than £50,000 ($100,000) to design the next generation of Johnnies (condoms) using a different material to latex rubber which can dull the sensation of sex for some.

Researchers at the University of Wollongong are creating a new ultra-durable contraceptive that puts pleasure first. The groundbreaking design will revolutionize our sex lives by offering functions such as self-lubrication to maximize a couple's enjoyment.

The boffins are using hydrogel, a strong and flexible material, which can be made to mimic the feel of human tissue. Hydrogel has been around for decades and is used in the making of prosthetic limbs.
The Aussie design team, led by materials scientist Robert Gorkin, will plough the grant money into researching ways to use this new material in condom design.

Robert explains: "Our original idea was just to try to prove that an original material could replace latex."
Robert's team will join forces with Swinburne University of Technology in Melbourne to test how people react to the new condom's feel. The designers will see how bodies respond to the new contraceptive by scanning their brain reactions during sex.

"We'll be able to look at brain activity to see whether it really feels better than latex," he said.
"If you make them so pleasurable that people can't wait to put them on, then more people will use them - and we can hopefully stop the spread of disease.

"It's as simple as that."

He added: "A material alone can't change the way we look at sex, but we believe it can definitely help."

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MAGIC: The team wants to make it feel like there's nothing there

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