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    Not sure if this is the right place to post it, but my penis size insecurity is almost consuming me. I spent a lot of hours thinking and reading about penis size, and I just look at the time spent on it and it's ridiculous.

    I'm doing PE for a larger penis since I really am not packing much (5.2 NBEL x 4.2 MSEG), but I know it takes some time for results to happen. People will always say something like size doesn't matter or to please your girl and that's fine, but I honestly don't want to just please her. It's a turn off for me to not have something she can marvel at. Reading things like this, destroys me completely
    "
    >have big dick
    >size definitely matters

    Just the way girls react I can tell that every one of them cares about big cocks. One of my exes, who had only fucked one other guy, used to tell me thst she wished my dick was smaller because it hurt her. But she still started drooling every time she pulled my cock out. She still grabbed my dick in my pants at random times with a naughty little smile on her face.

    The girl I've been fucking recently was sleeping with one of my friends a lot before we met, but one day we all went to the beach together and she jumped on me in the water and felt my package. I could see it on her face, that dick hungry look...

    I fucked her that night and she never talked to the other guy again and she wants so badly to date me now. She told me I was "killing it in the dick category" and that my dick is "intimidating"

    I mean this girl is a 9/10 asian qt who has only ever slept with people she was dating and I can make her suck my dick in public restrooms if I want to.

    Big dicks are very important to girls. I have dozens of other stories that end up pretty much the same way. Girls who say they don't care about dick size just haven't been fucked by a big enough dick.
    "

    And seeing girls respond and agreeing that it's a turn on and whatever whatever. So I continue PE, in hopes of a larger member.

    But I think about the future, what about if I do have a big penis? What if I do have something I can be proud of? Something that isn't like the majority, and that's the way I can function and have proper self esteem. But, wait, why does the majority function? Is the majority screwed? The majority can't feel the happiness I can? Is this the real answer? If penis size matters this much to raise your worth in front of a girl (forget about even pleasure at this point, even though it's a big part) and that girls will stay and be with a guy just because of their penis size or tolerate more because of it... what about everybody else? My friends who are happily playing games together right now they don't nearly think about this as much and they can't all have big penises. This is what bothers me the most about my insecurity. People say it's just my insecurity and then go and confirm my insecurity and others seem to not care at all. What is going on?


  • #2
    Penis dismorphia is quit common among guys with average and low average dicks. My beginning EL was quite a bit less than yours and my EG slightly more than yours. Accordingly, I always had a feeling of inadequacy in communal locker rooms and rest rooms. However, I have kept my wife well satisfied for over forty years.

    Perhaps size only matters in public situations. In private, it really doesn't mean that much. Currently, I am well within the average range, yet I still have the same feelings even though I feel I am completely filling my wife.

    You may want to check out *************.com, a support group for guys with feelings of inadequacy.
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    • #3
      Hey Zexy, Your post sounds a little like my very first post here. I don't know what to say except it does kinda suck not being naturally large endowed. I'm not either.

      I've got a few friends that have anacondas in their pants but can't seem to please a woman otherwise. I hear the bitching from their women how they're real turds. Take care of your health, personal hygiene, be attractively confident, etc. and you'll be fine in the long run.

      How do I know? One of these guy's girlfriends broke up with him. He was an ass to her. One day she grabbed hold of me and hugged me tight and whispered in my ear, "I love you". She looks like Alessandra Ambrosio and has seen my cold, small, wet willy in the water. No joking. It tore me up because I'm married and I won't cheat on my wonderful wife. The will power to be good took everything I had.

      Just be yourself and be cool, not cocky.
      downthere
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      Last edited by downthere; 09-20-2014, 12:21 AM. Reason: Much needed clarification

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      • #4
        Originally posted by not2big View Post
        Penis dismorphia is quit common among guys with average and low average dicks. My beginning EL was quite a bit less than yours and my EG slightly more than yours. Accordingly, I always had a feeling of inadequacy in communal locker rooms and rest rooms. However, I have kept my wife well satisfied for over forty years.

        Perhaps size only matters in public situations. In private, it really doesn't mean that much. Currently, I am well within the average range, yet I still have the same feelings even though I feel I am completely filling my wife.

        You may want to check out *************.com, a support group for guys with feelings of inadequacy.
        Now that's an interesting term..dismorphia...
        Body Dysmorphic Disorder / Personality is another one.
        you know like the ones who don't feel confident because they don't have a six pack.
        But are laying around all day.
        Ok ok, I'll stop.

        Point is...all of this is very common but as with everything - the more you stress the more you regress.

        Instead, more forward and progress.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by not2big View Post
          Penis dismorphia is quit common among guys with average and low average dicks. My beginning EL was quite a bit less than yours and my EG slightly more than yours. Accordingly, I always had a feeling of inadequacy in communal locker rooms and rest rooms. However, I have kept my wife well satisfied for over forty years.

          Perhaps size only matters in public situations. In private, it really doesn't mean that much. Currently, I am well within the average range, yet I still have the same feelings even though I feel I am completely filling my wife.

          You may want to check out *************.com, a support group for guys with feelings of inadequacy.
          i think that is right. i have felt self conscious about being small in public (locker room, coming out of pool), but never in a sexual situation or with my wife (or, earlier, a gf) seeing me naked.

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          • #6
            Welcome to the gym ZexyOverlord!

            You should be proud of yourself anyway, valuing your own self worth because of what the rest of the world thinks, doesn't lead to the greatest happiness in life I don't think! If someone has a problem with your body it's their problem not yours!

            I think most of those quotes are written by guys blowing their own trumpet or someone wanting to exaggerate a story so people would read it! If it ad been written - "Mr Average picked up Miss Plain Jane in his grey Volvo" - Would be about as far as you got into the story before deciding not to bother reading further!

            There are women out there that think this way, but they are a minority!

            Can I take a wild guess here, do you watch porn a lot? Might be time for a little break if so! Also start a beginner routine and get yourself on the path to having a healthier, bigger unit as well as healthier mind!

            Good luck, stay safe!
            "Those who know others have knowledge,
            those who know themselves have insight.
            Those who master others have force,
            those who master themselves have strength". - Lao Tzu

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            • #7
              Originally posted by ZexyOverlord View Post
              Reading things like this, destroys me completely
              What is going on?
              Zexy, I just had to re-reply....Don't let this consume you. It sucks, yes. But I've had more pretty women come after me than the anaconda guys have to them....And it pisses the guys silently off. And I'm fairly certain the girls had a glance at my flaccid peen in cold, wet swim trunks. And by pretty, I mean OMG quality. They know what I'm packing...(not much) and they can see it.
              downthere
              Senior Member
              Last edited by downthere; 09-19-2014, 11:46 PM. Reason: Clarification

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              • #8
                agreed, agreed. dude, i am hung like an acorn and it never got in my way for a second. be proud.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by kilgore View Post
                  agreed, agreed. dude, i am hung like an acorn and it never got in my way for a second. be proud.
                  Be proud in and with courage to triumph over whatever comes your way. Progression my friend!

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                  • #10
                    funny story. years ago, i shared with a female friend that an ex gf had told me i was small. she laughed her ass off, acknowledged that if she said it, it must be true. then set me up with her sister and then the woman who became my wife. so, small penis, small shmenis

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                    • #11
                      Flaccid sizes don't really matter to me since they vary so much from erect size, my flaccid is around 4x4.

                      And yeah, GF's don't make me feel insecure when I'm around them but when the other big guys brag about taking my girl or I read cheating stories... or when she sheepishly tries to dodge the question of size... (it goes away quick because I don't like to push on it) that's when I die (inside).

                      And I do understand people tooting their horn, I just can't gauge who's lying or not.

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                      • #12
                        they can talk all they want, but she is with you, so obviously your penis is ok for her.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by ZexyOverlord View Post
                          Flaccid sizes don't really matter to me since they vary so much from erect size, my flaccid is around 4x4.

                          And yeah, GF's don't make me feel insecure when I'm around them but when the other big guys brag about taking my girl or I read cheating stories... or when she sheepishly tries to dodge the question of size... (it goes away quick because I don't like to push on it) that's when I die (inside).

                          And I do understand people tooting their horn, I just can't gauge who's lying or not.
                          Zexy, Don't ask the size question....you're setting yourself up!!! Most all women have been with bigger than you or me! Did they like it? Maybe, probably. You have to "outgun" the other guys you're talking about. Do not be a downer. You will lose for sure. I know who's "tooting their horn" as you say as far as penis size goes in my neck of the woods, because they can't help but pull it out and swing it around. But their love life is a fiasco I would not want to have. Seriously...always in a fight of some sort with their GF. Screw that.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by downthere View Post
                            Zexy, Don't ask the size question....you're setting yourself up!!! Most all women have been with bigger than you or me! Did they like it? Maybe, probably. You have to "outgun" the other guys you're talking about. Do not be a downer. You will lose for sure. I know who's "tooting their horn" as you say as far as penis size goes in my neck of the woods, because they can't help but pull it out and swing it around. But their love life is a fiasco I would not want to have. Seriously...always in a fight of some sort with their GF. Screw that.
                            Outgun, outsmart, be vigilant and let other parts of the relationship be the strong points as well. Synergy.

                            I honestly think that Yes, size is a factor to an extent....

                            But as long as you are around average or a little above then you can IMPROVISE other skills and make the right impression!

                            I also believe PHEROMONES play a MUCH larger role than most physical features...and that means having High Testosterone and a Disciplined, Collected and Confident mindset is the most attractive thing to a gal.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by corageon View Post
                              Outgun, outsmart, be vigilant and let other parts of the relationship be the strong points as well. Synergy.

                              I honestly think that Yes, size is a factor to an extent....

                              But as long as you are around average or a little above then you can IMPROVISE other skills and make the right impression!

                              I also believe PHEROMONES play a MUCH larger role than most physical features...and that means having High Testosterone and a Disciplined, Collected and Confident mindset is the most attractive thing to a gal.
                              Absolutely! I forgot about the pheromone part. There is no question about that in my mind.

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