I was having a discussion with a friend about this earlier today and thought I'd see what the general reaction here is.
Whenever I am out with PL I always note things that he particularly likes, or doesn't like. Then I'll pick up things I know he likes for when he comes over or if I know I'm going to be seeing him, and this always amazes him. Not just the fact that I would make sure to have things he likes, but that I notice what he likes and what he doesn't. Now, to me, this is just part of what you do when someone is part of you life, be it someone you're in a relationship with or family or friends. You notice things like every time you order drinks they always order the same kind of thing - always red wine not white for example. If they're allergic to something you make a little mental note about it.
My friend says he's noticed that many of his friends, particularly younger ones, don't do this, and he thinks it might be a generational thing. He said that he thought if say a guy were to take notice of what his girlfriend particularly liked, let's say vanilla Coke, and even though he didn't like it he made sure to buy it so there would be some when she was over, that older guys would say that was a smooth and considerate thing to do and the younger generation would look at it as being weak and possibly "whipped".
He also said that he's noticed this same lack of consideration just in general with his younger friends - he, and his older friends, always make sure to have supplies in the house in case people come by, and particularly if they know people are coming by, whereas the younger ones seem not to bother with having anything like snacks or drinks even if they know they're having friends over.
Now there is a bit of an age difference between me and PL - he is 17 years younger than I am - so I suppose this could be a generational thing.
What do you guys think - is being thoughtful and considerate of others a thing of the past and something that's just not generally done now?
Whenever I am out with PL I always note things that he particularly likes, or doesn't like. Then I'll pick up things I know he likes for when he comes over or if I know I'm going to be seeing him, and this always amazes him. Not just the fact that I would make sure to have things he likes, but that I notice what he likes and what he doesn't. Now, to me, this is just part of what you do when someone is part of you life, be it someone you're in a relationship with or family or friends. You notice things like every time you order drinks they always order the same kind of thing - always red wine not white for example. If they're allergic to something you make a little mental note about it.
My friend says he's noticed that many of his friends, particularly younger ones, don't do this, and he thinks it might be a generational thing. He said that he thought if say a guy were to take notice of what his girlfriend particularly liked, let's say vanilla Coke, and even though he didn't like it he made sure to buy it so there would be some when she was over, that older guys would say that was a smooth and considerate thing to do and the younger generation would look at it as being weak and possibly "whipped".
He also said that he's noticed this same lack of consideration just in general with his younger friends - he, and his older friends, always make sure to have supplies in the house in case people come by, and particularly if they know people are coming by, whereas the younger ones seem not to bother with having anything like snacks or drinks even if they know they're having friends over.
Now there is a bit of an age difference between me and PL - he is 17 years younger than I am - so I suppose this could be a generational thing.
What do you guys think - is being thoughtful and considerate of others a thing of the past and something that's just not generally done now?
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