Hope to fix my Pre E problem

**TomFoolery** · 01-12-2017

Hi Everyone,

I'm relatively new here, but have read a lot of posts within this Forum. Thanks for all the contributions, they help in not feeling like I'm alone in this affliction.

So, I'm in my early 40's, and from suffer from a really nasty case of premature ejaculation. The early years of my life were not that pleasant having lived with a heavily Catholic set of parents that entirely avoided the whole sexual education talk. I was told I'd go to Hell if I touched myself, and as a result, my early sexual development and self-exploration was rushed. As time went on, I suppose I learned to rush to orgasm, and my equipment now is conditioned to do so as well.

I've had a good sexual life for the last almost three decades, and have learned to continue intercourse without stopping after I ejaculate (quickly) the first time. I've gotten so good at this throughout the years that I don't even think any of my partners past or my wife presently even know that I'm a quick shooter. This just results in a lot of wet sheets, and messy sessions - but that's viewed as a result of a good session.

I've been happily married for just over 10 years, with two kids under 6 and while everything else is pretty great, this part of my life is lagging as I feel like a bit of a failure/fraud. Up to this point, I've never learned to take control of myself and my pleasure response.

I do watch porn from time to time, and use it for a visual aid while I masturbate. I believe this to be one of my problems with Pre E. When I do masturbate without porn I can last a lot longer, and typically go past 20 minutes with simply relaxing during a relaxed session.

When my wife and I are either engaging in oral sex or vaginal, that is where my problem arises. I'm literally ejaculating within 20 seconds.

So that's my story. I will try to keep a consistent log of my training and sessions and hope to see some progress in the weeks and months ahead.

I'll be logging my training and results here, and starting my training with a record of my baseline and go on from there.

Fingers Crossed!

-TomFoolery

**Cavalier** · 01-12-2017

Welcome to the gym!

It sounds like you have been doing your research, that's great. If you have any questions don't hesitate to ask, the members here are very helpful. Good luck!

**jockinthebox** · 01-12-2017

Welcome to the GYM, Tom! Drop the PORN, and substitute your imagination & edging for masturbation to build your stamina. You'll notice improved EQ first; then by practicing some Hindi squats & yoga poses, you'll learn RK's will help you delay ejaculations with practice. You have a pelvic floor imbalance induced by years of fast masturbation to quickly orgasm.

Not uncommon at all from guys with your strict religious background. Just give yourself plenty of time in your edging sessions and try RK's as you feel the IK's building to PONR. You'll get the hang of 'em with practice.

**KMWylie** · 01-13-2017

Welcome to PEGym, TomFoolery!

You've come to the right place.

First, start off by reading this -- https://www.pegym.com/articles/premature-ejaculation

Also, we do have a forum specifically for PreE -- https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ulation-forum/

The good news is, with training, this is a challenge you can overcome!

I look forward to hearing more from you.

**TomFoolery** · 01-13-2017

Thank you for the link to the Pre E article Kimberly. I had read a few pages of that article a while back, but I gave it a thorough read just now - so thanks.

Looking forward to the journey, and the thought of taking control of my sexual life.