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**Client1** · 02-05-2017

Hi guys, starting out PE for the first time. Size was never really an issue for me until I met the girl of my dreams and it turns out my penis does little for her. Killed me on the inside and gave me some anxiety but I'm going to give this a real good go and hopefully get some decent gains. NBPEL at 5.5 and MEG at 5. Aiming to get NBPEL to 7.0 and MEG to 5.5. Will keep everyone updated.

**TheZZMan** · 02-05-2017

Hey, Client - Welcome to the forums, we are glad you took the time to join this awesome community! We recommend that you start your journey with a conditioning program. First Read all you can about PE under the START HERE button located above in the main forum or if on a mobile device, in the stickies in the beginner forums. Understand what you are getting into and take it slow. PE is a long process and we don't want you to get frustrated. Use the resources of the forums to give you motivation to continue. Ask questions, we are here to help. Look at the JP90 beginner program for conditioning, commit to the full 90 days and report back. Watch your PI's, don't over train and look forward to hearing of your success down the road.

**Big Al** · 02-05-2017

Welcome to the forum!

At your size NBPEL you're likely above average in length, and at 5" girth you're statistically above average in girth. It's fine if you wish to pursue a larger penis, but [without going into further questioning] if the issue is one of "looseness" this is something which can be remedied on her end. Not only will she get more out of sexual contact, it'll be better for her overall lifestyle- especially if she keeps it up.

**HansTwilight** · 02-05-2017

We have the same penis size man, we are average. If that doesn't satisfy her then it's probably her fault. Do what these guys say.

**AverageDude48** · 02-05-2017

Hey, Client1~! Welcome to this forum.

Sounds like you and I are pretty much the same size....and (here I go...) I never really worry about size. I mean, I can make a girl cum all night long with one or two fingers so I know that my dick is a whole lot bigger than one or two of my fingers. I am more interested in getting rock hard and staying rock hard. But, that is me.

Do you stimulate her mind hours and hours before you actually have sex? When you and your girl are having sex, do you first do 'foreplay'? Do you give her orgasms with your tongue and with your fingers? And, by 'fingers' I mean g-spot orgasms? Or, non-clitoral orgasms? That would be a good thing - either way - to do for her.

Does she orgasm when she masturbates? When she masturbates (absolutely have her masturbate for you....sexy as hell and you can learn how she moves and how she likes to be touched) is she simply rubbing her clit? Or, does she put her finger(s) inside of her self? Do you have sex with her the way she masturbates?

The issue might not be you. The issue might be her. Or, it might be that she - for whatever reason - is not 100% comfortable having sex with you just yet. Lots and lots of possible reasons why.

Have some confidence and do not assume that it is something that you are doing incorrectly. :-)

And, if I might suggest, do the size gains (length and girth) for you...not for anyone else. Just get rock hard and stay rock hard and things will work out. Just stay confident. That (staying confident) will turn her on...I promise.

**Client1** · 02-05-2017

Hi guys, thanks for the welcome! She hasn't made any comments towards the size of my penis but we talked about previous sexual partners and when she was younger she said that one had a large one. I don't blame her in anyway at all and she's directly told me that there's nothing wrong with my penis but I have had experiences with previous partners where they loved my size. I know it's not a one size fits all but I want to do my best for her and for me so we can have a fufilling sex life.

My confidence had been knocked when I started dating her and I gave her a pretty poor performance at least twice but she wants me to become more confident again. Orgasm has never been a problem when using fingers or mouth thank god! She doesn't masturbate but I do (need to cut down). I know a major thing in my head is overthinking that I'm not good enough for and that problem is all in my head. We have a long distance relationship to make things more complicated so when we do see each other it can be forced sometimes and then the sex quality isn't as good as anticipated.

Anyway I will continue on my quest of PE not just for her but for myself as self satisfaction.

Thanks for the support guys, it means a lot.

**TheZZMan** · 02-05-2017

The confidence should come from the fact that she is with YOU. That is the comforting component.

When you don't last as long as you would like, cuddle with her and tell her she is so sexy that you couldn't control yourself. Turn it into a positive, she will appreciate the compliment. Remember, her goal is to get you off as well. Making you go early may be a goal of hers. Think about it....

**HansTwilight** · 02-05-2017

Originally Posted by Client1

Hi guys, thanks for the welcome! She hasn't made any comments towards the size of my penis but we talked about previous sexual partners and when she was younger she said that one had a large one. I don't blame her in anyway at all and she's directly told me that there's nothing wrong with my penis but I have had experiences with previous partners where they loved my size. I know it's not a one size fits all but I want to do my best for her and for me so we can have a fufilling sex life.

My confidence had been knocked when I started dating her and I gave her a pretty poor performance at least twice but she wants me to become more confident again. Orgasm has never been a problem when using fingers or mouth thank god! She doesn't masturbate but I do (need to cut down). I know a major thing in my head is overthinking that I'm not good enough for and that problem is all in my head. We have a long distance relationship to make things more complicated so when we do see each other it can be forced sometimes and then the sex quality isn't as good as anticipated.

Anyway I will continue on my quest of PE not just for her but for myself as self satisfaction.

Thanks for the support guys, it means a lot.

I must have misinterpreted you. My bad.

**Client1** · 02-05-2017

Haha, no worries!

**closed224** · 02-05-2017

she's directly told me that there's nothing wrong with my penis

Why do you admit this but then also say she hasn't stated satisfaction with your penis?
I think it is because you are lying to yourself about your penis and other things. You feel insecure so you self perpetuate that with negative self speak. Stop the negative self speak. Your penis is fine and so are you.
Tell yourself and your penis how awesome you are and how much you love yourself and your penis. Believe me when I tell you everything will get better with that.