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  • New to Ed, this forum and I'm female

    Hi. My new boyfriend has ED and won't talk about it at all. I wish he would talk with me about this.
    I've begged to talk about it! Nothing. I am here to learn about ED and what, if anything, I can do.
    Thanks.

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    We have no were near enough lady folks on this site. I am very sorry to hear about your BFs ED. There is a fair amount that can be done about ED, but I have no idea how to even start to help a person that has a problem and won't evey talk about it. For me the bigger issue, is the lack of communication about a topic that can so greatly effect both of you. I recommend that you start there. Trust me, if you are to be together this will not be the last problem that will have to be faced/dealt with as a couple. Sometimes dicks go down and fail us, it does not mean that we're less of a man, but I can't say the same about having a problem and not trying to deal with it. My heart goes out to you and wish you both well.
    ​The enemy of good is not bad
    The enemy of good is better

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    • #3
      Welcome misty May I ask how you were able to find us(what parameters you used to search), and if we where one of the first hits on that list?

      -UYN-
      19/04/2011
      FG: 4.25" +0.45
      FL: 5.19" +0.69
      EG: 4.75" +0.45
      BPFSL: 7.69" +1.58
      NBPEL: 7.25" +1.19
      BPEL: 7.677"+1.757

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      • #4
        Welcome! I'm sure PE will help with ED!!
        +Sep. 2010 BPEL 5 3/4, MEG 4 1/4
        +Dec. 2010 BPEL 6 1/8, MEG 4 3/8

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        • #5
          Hi Misty. I am new here too. It is great that you are so communicative and open with your bf. I wish my gf had reached out more and said something. I blame myself for not addressing an obvious problem, but having someone try to work with you makes it so much easier and then it is out in the open.

          Never lose that. Always tell your man if there are problems or concerns. We aren't good at subtle. Hell, we aren't good at obvious.

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          • #6
            Welcome MistyDawn! You're definitely in the right place to help your BF. I think the more YOU learn, the better the communication, and I can't think of a better way to help your BF with his problem. Best of luck.

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            • #7
              Welcome to the PEGym!
              Have you seen this thread? https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-...ew-ladies.html
              Pirate Diplomacy:
              The art of telling someone to go to hell and having them look forward to the trip.

              Remember: If done right, there is no such thing as safe sex.

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              • #8
                Hi,

                I can imagen that your BF probably feels insecure about the ED and that he doesn't want to talk about it.
                Got to say that you are a really kind girl for searching a solution for him. Most of the girls wouldn't even care and probably dump him. my compliments

                Anyway, I've seen guys on the forum that were able to cure the ED. Now ED can be caused by a list of things. I've even recently found out that a lot of guys that are doing cycling for their sport/hobby, with those thin saddles, have higher chance for ED. That was because the way the man sits on the saddle would have bad effect on the nervs , right on the place where they were sitting.

                What im trying to say is, probably if your bf didn't damage any nerv or something, he could probably get really good results with PE.
                Just approach him and tell him that you might found a way to cure his ED. He might get interested in it.

                May I ask what he says whenever you ask him to talk about it? What is his argument to not talk about it?

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                • #9
                  Welcome Misty - you're in a good place here!
                  We can certainly try to help you help your bf with the ED problem - which CAN be overcome!!
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                  "Wherever you go, there you are. Stay sexy, my friends."

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by UYN View Post
                    Welcome misty May I ask how you were able to find us(what parameters you used to search), and if we where one of the first hits on that list?

                    -UYN-
                    I used search words: erectile dysfunctional forum

                    This did not come up first. I sure am glad i found it!!

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                    • #11
                      Hi, Misty! I'm new here, and don't know a whole lot yet, and I don't necessarily have suggestions, however, I have stories. My best friend is a very attractive person. He is a model, and he is 20 years old. He is very popular, and constantly gets offers for sex. Literally. He almost never is without the option. Anyway, he has ED. Over time, I came to the conclusion that his ED stems from low self esteem, and a low level of confidence, especially when he is in bed with people who are very attractive, or with whom he would like to impress. He hasn't spoken about it with anybody but me. He is very ashamed of it. I guess the point of my long winded post is to explain that ED can happen to anybody, for any number of reasons, and there is no reason to be ashamed. I'm not implying that you made him feel ashamed, but it is a common thing for a man to feel in such a position. He is lucky to have somebody who is understanding, and willing to work through it. I think that people here have a lot of good advice to fix his problems, and it may just be a case of low confidence, which, with positive understanding, could fade in time. Just let him know that everything is OK, and things will get better. I hope I could help you and your boyfriend! Best of luck!

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                      • #12
                        A little late, but Welcome! ~

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by mistydawn View Post
                          I used search words: erectile dysfunctional forum

                          This did not come up first. I sure am glad i found it!!
                          So are we.
                          Pirate Diplomacy:
                          The art of telling someone to go to hell and having them look forward to the trip.

                          Remember: If done right, there is no such thing as safe sex.

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                          • #14
                            Is that an indication that this erectile forum is dysfunctional, or the other way around?

                            Obviously, you aren't going to be able to do a whole lot about your boyfriend's issues unless he is. The condition is quite prevalent and is not limited to the older age groups.

                            Do you know whether he is taking any medication that might interfere with sexual function (anti-depressants and anti-hypertensives are most common)? Does he have any medical conditions that might predispose him such as cardiovascular disease, diabetes, depression, elevated cholesterol or triglyceride levels, or severe hypertension (high blood pressure)? Does he smoke? Does he tend to drink to excess, especially before attempting intercourse? Has he ever tried medications such as Viagra, Levitra, or Cialis? Is he overweight?

                            All of these questions are important when addressing the problem but I understand that you might not know the answers, and it will be hard to get them if he doesn't want to talk about it. A lot of guys with ED don't, especially younger ones, since it makes them feel ashamed and "inadequate" or "unmanly".

                            Sometimes just an improvement in lifestyle can make a big difference: regular exercise, weight loss (if appropriate), better diet, stopping smoking and eliminating excess drinking (if these are issues). Stress is a big libido killer and potential cause of ED and regular exercise really helps reduce stress levels. Resistance training has also been shown to boost testosterone production.

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                            • #15
                              You might want to try franktalk.org. It is not a very active forum, but it is dedicated to ED and has good information for alternate improvement (pumping, injections, implants, etc) procedures for ED. However, since your BF is resisting even discussing ED in general, I don't know how you will be able to discuss these serious solutions.
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                              01/14 NBPEL - 5.35, MSEG - 5.25
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