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[Martyparty Member Find all posts View Profile Close Martyparty]

hello everyone my name is marty and im a 19 year old personal trainer in the bay area. Ive suffered from severe depression and feelings of very low self worth, sad thing is this is completely due to my penis size..ive been gifted with great genetics and am very thankful for what ive been able to do with my physique since i began weightlifting in my late teens, but something is missing and im here today to see about changing that certain something. My girlfriend is one of the most exceptional and beautiful girls i think who has ever walked this earth (whats she doing with me right?) haha anyway ive been open with her about wanting to make this change and she has been against it for the most part, telling me im average and that i have nothing to worry about. However we all know thats the most emberassing thing to hear..and the other night we were laying in my bed and she literally engulfed my dick like it was nobodys business. jackie(my girlfriend) is a very petite girl, shes always talking about how she has such a small mouth yet some how is able to completely deep throat me.im a modest 5 x 5 in erect length and girth...flaccid is about 3.5 x 4.0 so im nothing to write home about..and all i want is to feel like more of a man, even though ive got the body im 5"11 195 about nine percent body fat. i still really want to be the center of her sexual desire, i never want her to be unfulfilled or unsatisfied by me because lets face it i love this girl with all my heart and soul and only want her. she fulfills my every sexual desire, now its my turn.. i need to be everything i can be.another reason i feel this is a necessary action to take is because her ex was somewhere around 10 inches , although they never made love shes felt it, in her hands and mouth and i just cant live with the fact im a whole five inches shorter than that..she tells me it doesnt matter and that she loves me for who i am but i dont see that desire in her eyes, i dont think she craves me like i crave her and that really brings me down.my goal is to gain some length as well as width, nothing crazy but just something that will get her going...because right now i feel like half a man:/

[UYN Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UYN]

I don't know where to start, but since I like text. I will start with grammar. Yes it is important, and makes it much more easier to read. No need to put it all together, the forum has more than enough place to offer

I agree with your gf. That is average, but if you want to change it for you, then go ahead, because that is ultimately what matters; your own self-image. As for her ex being nearly 10", that could or could not be true. I think most guys will say "She likely hasn't been with one", and statistically they would be partially right, but that they should look into math calculations regarding large numbers. Doing so will make them understand that this is indeed quite feasible.

On the other hand. I don't think you should worry, or that is maybe a bit stretched, but I don't think you should worry much. I remember asking my ex-girlfriend about previous partners and she had met a guy that had at least 9x6(yes NBPEL), and seeing that I let her in on PE. Using household items is how I found out that he was that size(because before that she just said huge). Still she said he was in 3rd place of her best lover, being surpassed by her ex-boyfriend(before me) at 2nd, and then with me at 1st. And no, I never asked her if I was her best lover. She told me, and I found her answer to be quite sincere. At first I did have a little hang-up with him being that big, but that soon went over, because I for sure know that I don't want to surpass my PE goals(8.5" at the most!). So back to the best lover thing. She said that because our communication had been so great, and that we both were willing to learn new things. Sex was absolutely great.

I lost my train of thought, so I am not sure where I was going with this. EIther way, welcome and good luck!

-UYN-

[sweetie52 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sweetie52]

clear objective in mind

Your sincere honesty about your body-would endear any woman to you. (Jackie) is a lucky lady already. I am sure another person could give you more information. I wanted to give you a confidence booster.

[Martyparty Member Find all posts View Profile Close Martyparty]

i appologize for the bad grammar my friend, i never was qute good at it in school but thank you for not slamming me on it. thanks man, its nice to hear you dont think i need to change either, i suppose we are our worst critics. Sadly the numbers were not stretched. i know this for a fact because the guy was a close friend of mine and he would always brag about his size(one of the reasons were not friends anymore) i called him on it and he showed me. needless to say, its an accurate measurement.easily eight on the hang and yeah its a bit of a hang up being the smallest guy shes been with but i agree with you on being the best lover. when you really take your time with your girl, and really make love to her penis size doesnt really factor into the pleasure factor of it..i feel that penis size is just attributed to lust in a sense you know? when my girlriend isnt horny shes a cute, shy, well mannered girl, but man when shes horny she just flips a switch and im dealing with a little lioness and i want to give her something better to play with.. do you know the feeling? i dont feel like im a horrible lover and i can easily make her come just sucking on her nipples and kissing her body. in the end i feel im the one who truly wants more, she tells me im perfect and dont need to change but.. its so hard to grasp how i can be perfect when im so flawed. im going to start jps 90 day beginners routine here in about ten minutes so ill report back here with my experiences if you or anyone else is interested. i sincerely look forward to this journey and im greatful someone has already showed interest in my dilemma

[alyssatrans82 Member Find all posts View Profile Close alyssatrans82]

Start a log is what most people say to do. In the other section! Intros are just that. The journey will be supported better in those areas.

As for your feeling of inadequacy... If you think she is sincere about her statements you are good enough, then you should definitely not devalue that opinion she has in favor of your own self deprecation. This is an important factor in communication. She may be upset if you ignore her view of you as perfect and good enough for her.

There is also the fact that this big cock guy could have treated her like shit because he thought he was god's gift! This would mean she associates big guys with a personality attribute she finds unattractive. I'm just saying, make sure the biggest reason you are doing this is to feel more manly, and not because you think she views you as not manly as past partners. Its a big difference psychologically.

[UnicornTamer Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UnicornTamer]

Being insecure is something she probably doesn't want you to feel, for your sake, and probably for hers. Its an unattractive characteristic to have bro.

I'm essentially the same size as you, and I have shared the same feelings you have of inadequacy. I'd assume almost every guy has had those feelings at one point or another in their lives.

Don't get so hung up over this that you forget you're already have her. She clearly cares for you and wants you to be happy which is why she said you're perfect. HOWEVER its important that she knows if you're doing this or whatever, its for you and not for her... it will probably put a lot of pressure on her if she thinks you're doing this to just impress her (though again, she's already with you so you don't have to try and win over someone you've already got xD).

Just don't vest so much emotional effort into this thinking that by making your unit bigger it will bring you happiness because sure it could, but true happiness comes from within. And a man with confidence who can be truly happy with himself for who he is and doesn't need to be reassured that he adequate is a very attractive thing.

I'm rooting for ya!

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

Hey man, don't take the average comment as it meaning you are small and shes trying to make you feel better. I'd say 5x5 is pretty damn average, a shade below average length and above average girth. You have an honest girl, shes not BSing you when evaluating your penis size, so why don't you believe her when she tells you she doesn't want you to increase the size of your weiner?

We are similar in many ways - I'm about 5'10 190 with low body fat and started PE because I felt that my penis, which was about 5.5 x 5.0 not bone pressed, simply wasn't cutting it compared to the rest of my body. I say go for it dude, start up the beginner routine, and I guarantee you'll be happy with the results.

[Martyparty Member Find all posts View Profile Close Martyparty]

all i can say is wow, all your insights are truly magniicient and i already feel very welcome here. As for the comment made by unicorn tamer, that is a really great point and i couldnt agree with you more. The physical self does not determine ones worth, our bodies only house our essence and i should accept and embrace myself for all my intricacies and self percieved flaws because they in turn make me who i am and i should love, and accept my body and everything about it. Allysatran i appreciate your opinion as well. he was a really shitty guy and treated her horribly theres no doubt about that and i think she may atribute that to cockyness, so she may be afraid of me turnig into an egotistical maniac..i can understand that BUT im not going to change my personality because i become larger, thats not me. Her fear of this is largely due to her poor self esteem. My girlfriend is incalculably gorgeous, and i love her to death. During the course of this past year shes put on about fifteen pounds. Whats strange is that i dont pressure her in any way to lose it or even see it as a huge deal because that woman is pure light and i love her with every fiber of my being.If she thinks im perect,hell, maybe i should think so too becuase to me she is perfect as well. i guess what im trying to say is that maybe thats how she looks at me, im not monstorusly endowed but i love her.. i treat that girl like gold and i think she is perfectly content with me and who i am. That being said i am still going to strive for excellency and turn my out of shape penis into a fit one im not trying to break any records but if i can boost my confidence for me AND my girl i think it will bring a new found joy in my life and our relationship.Peskeptic, whats going on man? a fellow liter eh? very nice. i know shes being honest its just a hard concept to accept when you see yourself as soooooo below the bar ya know? haha I had my first session today with jps beginner routine and it was amazing!! ive got to get up early so i wont start a log today but ill start tomarrow. It could just be the whole psychological aspect of it all but i swear i can feel a difference in just my overall hang and feeling of fullness. too stoked thanks everyone and i look forward to being a member here you guys are so inspiring muuuccchhh love my friends, much love.

[alyssatrans82 Member Find all posts View Profile Close alyssatrans82]

he he member...he said member...uuhhh heh heh member

[engleangle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close engleangle]

hey man dont sweat it trust me my girlfriend was with bigger but god awful at sex... one of my best friends tells me her guy is hung and is just as bad and ask me for sexual advice. my girlfriend has only been with one other guy who was sitting at 7.5" from what she says so i know the feeling your talking about its one of the worst feelings i have had to deal with and was very upset about it for awhile. but i didnt make a big scene towards her and put up a confident front (fake it till ya make it) anywho i joined the site for the same reason and i have gotten a nicw confidence boost from it. but it helps if ya just say i am how i am and im ok with that. shoot i was even a virgin when i joined the site. i have come along way and so will you it just takes time and patience. if ya need to discuss anything your welcome to pm me cause i know 100%
where your coming from. confidence is key though it truly is. anywho welcome to the gym dude and get to exercisin!!!

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

there are a lot of woman who find sex with a 10 incher ALOT less pleasing than sex with a 5 incher, nobody likes to be ripped open. Usuall the only people that look like they enjoy it are woman of porn and they are the very small percentage of woman. I am not saying that all woman who like big cocks are porn stars, just sayin that most woman could not handle one that big and would not enjoy it any how. You said previously that they didnt do the deed either. So now, she didnt want the monster all that bad, sounds like she wants yours over his, cool thing is you can make yours bigger and he is stuck with something that he still has to figure out how to operate, and you got the hottie so you are as mr. Sheen would say, WINNING. Good luck, enjoy the sight and keep the faith brother cause this stuff works. Patience, patience, and patience

[Martyparty Member Find all posts View Profile Close Martyparty]

you guys are so legit hah i know i sound like a broken record but thank you! just got done with my second day and can already notice a dfference in my EQ they feel stronger than ever and i feel much more filled out. ill post back when theres some measurable diference but im a believer thats for sure.This is truly miraculous, noone ever has to live their life worrying about their sub -par equipment because it can be altered, and it makes sense..once the tissues are broken down they build up larger and stronger, much like muscle fiber so over time you can completely reconstruct the composition of your dick! wow. its safe to say my mind is blown. BIgopimp, youre exactly right. i think most of the time its the men who are more concerned about their own size than girls are! you really have to look at it from their perspective, if i was a girl i wouldnt want to be railed by a giant dick, ya know? haha charlie sheen is a funny basterd i cant believe they fired him from two and a half men. noone will ever be able to replace that guy he was a god of sit -com .eraneagle, it sucks doesnt it? all you can do is try and look past it because dwelling on it will only bring you down, thats what all you guys have help me come to realize. However, what the most exciting thing like you said is that this WORKS, this a completely credible means of enlarging your manhood, what could be better?!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Well the first thing to do is stop thinking of yourself as subpar. Maybe one of the women folk can explain things from their end. ( and don't take that last sentence the wrong way!)

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

Start up a log dude

[engleangle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close engleangle]

yes def start a log