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    Hello my name is John.
    I'm having some self-esteem issue.
    My issue is about not being able to please women that care about penis size.
    I'm not small but I'm not big either. That's the problem.
    Not to sound too cocky(this site must be full of bad puns), but I'm pretty ambitious and I want to be a very good lover.
    When I found out that size matters I felt pretty much emasculated. I also felt a lot of anger.
    There's this theory I'm having... It's like women don't care that much about penis size, but a big benis is a treat, a treat they all secretly want even if they don't say it.
    A big tasty and exciting treat. And I can't give it to them. And That is fucking killing me.
    So here I am bear with me I know this might sound weird because im not very small but that's just how I feel.
    I'm 5.5 long and 5.3 girth.
    So what do you guys think?

  • #2
    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    Hello my name is John.
    Hello John. This is my opinion, but I think I've got every reason to feel confident of it, because I've attracted four women in the last couple of weeks (two of whom have offered sex already) without showing them my cock or telling them how big it is. I've given women orgasms that have shaken their worlds with my fingers, talk and tongue. Sometimes with my clothes all still on.

    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    I'm having some self-esteem issue.
    My issue is about not being able to please women that care about penis size.
    Ignore them, they're idiots. Yes women like the opportunity of having a huge one under their belt, but if they're into you it won't matter. Really. Honestly, really. Someone will pipe up soon and cry that it does I'm sure. But it doesn't. Most penises are average anyway, which it sounds like you are too. Now if you're only after party girls, and nothing meaningful, then yes it's more likely you'll meet the sort of girl that cares. Or yes it's more likely that you'll meet the sort of girl that also cares about you little enough to make a big deal of it.

    But those idiots are still not worth your time. Hang in there if you meet one of these, and it won't be for long, because you will still meet plenty of girls who don't really care, because sex that only consists of in/out, no kissing, no attention, no stroking, no brain fucking (dirty talk, eroticism, compliments), no oral, no fingers, no nothing else is shit sex no matter how big your penis is.

    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    I'm not small but I'm not big either. That's the problem.
    So you're average. Like most people. So it's fine. I'll say again, don't think for a second that the size of your cock is what makes sex good. The truth of the matter is that novelty aside, most women prefer average cocks. Small ones, ok, can be less satisfactory, but big ones can hurt her (women have different sized vaginas too) and she may not be able to give oral to a big cock. A lot of women like giving oral too.

    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    Not to sound too cocky(this site must be full of bad puns), but I'm pretty ambitious and I want to be a very good lover.
    When I found out that size matters I felt pretty much emasculated. I also felt a lot of anger.
    See above. It matters to idiots and some party girls. Most women will be quite happy with an average cock if it's attached to a sexy, confident man who is a good lover. Or a catch in some other way.

    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    There's this theory I'm having... It's like women don't care that much about penis size, but a big benis is a treat, a treat they all secretly want even if they don't say it.
    There may be some truth in this. But it's still not a requirement that will see you booted out and laughed at unless you're really unlucky, because if that's how a girl treats all average cocks, she'll get a lot less sex, and the competition would be fierce. Women like being fucked my friend, and an average cock attached to a good lover is more than capable of nailing her to the floor.

    Read around this site (and all over the net) to discover what women find attractive. And trust it when you hear time and time again that it's what you do with it. This doesn't get said a million times over for nothing. A big cock is just one thing that will appeal in different amounts to different women for different reasons. Women also find confidence, character, style/dress sense, eyes, status, wealth attractive in various amounts. She doesn't see your cock until you've already attracted her. Confidence is the golden one, and anyone can learn that.

    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    A big tasty and exciting treat. And I can't give it to them. And That is fucking killing me.
    Oh well, that sucks. You're not a movie star. You can't give them high grade cocaine in a Ferrari or a private flight to the caribbean either. So appeal in other ways, like the other 99.99% of us have to.
    Originally posted by Draft View Post
    So here I am bear with me I know this might sound weird because im not very small but that's just how I feel.
    I'm 5.5 long and 5.3 girth.
    So what do you guys think?
    It's fine. I think you should stop worrying about it. If you want a bigger cock for you, go for it and good luck. But get this crap out of your head that it's standing between you and success with women, because that'll eat you up, and it's not even true.

    Ultimately no matter what you do, and what you excel at, some women will like you and some women won't. because they're all individuals. You can't please everybody. So please yourself and go out there and find somebody who agrees. There will be lots of them.
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    Last edited by spanky; 11-15-2011, 03:38 AM.
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    • #3
      Yeah I get it now.
      I shouldnt even care for those women that would reject it.
      I even think those women are weird.
      Because evolutionarily, women chose the average penis size for millenias.
      and if there was a big penis cult amonsgt women we would have huge penises.
      And those size queens probably have bigger problems than their taste of huge cocks.
      I mean, I saw somewhere that only 1-2% of women think size is very important,
      that's near the same percentage of women who have sexual paraphilias.

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      • #4
        You got it man. There's more than 1-2% of people we should all probably avoid for various reasons!

        edit: on size queens.. Big deal, a few women just want big cocks. There are also women who only want famous people. Or gangsters. Or models. And men who only want blondes. Or strippers. Or ... you get the picture. There are a small percentage of people who are choosy for selfish, shallow reasons. Screw them, they're idiots. Of course if one of those party girls wants you then why not.. it might even be great sex, just dont fall in love with her whatever you do!

        edit 2: on women. A lot of this stuff only matters for sleeping around anyway. I had a girlfriend a couple back for like 4 years, and I was shit in bed then. cumming too quickly, nervous, not adventurous. She said to me once "I'm a dirty bitch you know" and I never knew how to get it out of her. She still stayed with me for 4 years.
        spanky
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        Last edited by spanky; 11-15-2011, 08:30 PM.
        "I want to go to my death bed one day knowing that even when my heart led me into the fire, I fucking did it anyway, and I have the story to tell."

        Everything I know about Premature Ejaculation

        Your dick is almost certainly big enough. Relax

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        • #5
          You're perfectly average man. You're normal. You would like to be above average guys. That is nice, but nothing to make you worried or question your own existence in this dimension of time and space. You gotta think that within the female population, there are average parameters too, and they are aware of their limitations. Maybe some of them are like "Oh my God I wish my boobies were bigger than average to be the perfect pornstar looking lover" But that doesnt mean we reject or cant fall in love with an average girl. So don't sweat it that much. Stay here reading and learning the ancient secrets of enlarging your johnson. Priapus will observe you always. Take care of your body, train hard, eat well, rest, don't do drugs, don't drink alcohol, don't smoke, don't drink caffeine, don't take pain killers, antidepressants, anti anxiety , anti panic or any of that shit, and stay away from doctors as much as you can. Read about Tantra, read about the origins of Humans.

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          • #6
            Moderators close this thread, these 2 guys already answered his questions with authority!! LOL

            Great job guys!
            "Be not proud when victorious, do not give up when defeated."

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Jackxxx View Post
              ... don't do drugs, don't drink alcohol, don't smoke, don't drink caffeine, don't take pain killers ...
              Hahaha, I'm such a loser!
              "I want to go to my death bed one day knowing that even when my heart led me into the fire, I fucking did it anyway, and I have the story to tell."

              Everything I know about Premature Ejaculation

              Your dick is almost certainly big enough. Relax

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              • #8
                Originally posted by spanky View Post
                Hahaha, I'm such a loser!
                LOL well, you can use those things depending on what stage of illumination you are. But for an average human who has not reached a certain level of enlightenment for reason development, the use of these "things" are a "way out" of their failure to resolve problems. That's why for a human in a weak state of existence, I would recommend to stay away from all those "things", IF and only IF the entity is willing to take control purely with its multidimensional being of light and energy.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Jackxxx View Post
                  LOL well, you can use those things depending on what stage of illumination you are. But for an average human who has not reached a certain level of enlightenment for reason development, the use of these "things" are a "way out" of their failure to resolve problems. That's why for a human in a weak state of existence, I would recommend to stay away from all those "things", IF and only IF the entity is willing to take control purely with its multidimensional being of light and energy.
                  Wow. That certainly clears everything up.

                  As Batwoman has often said, "it is not the cock, but the person who is attached to the cock that women are interested in.

                  Don't over think your situation. Love is primarily emotional and only slightly physical.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by not2big View Post
                    Wow. That certainly clears everything up.

                    As Batwoman has often said, "it is not the cock, but the person who is attached to the cock that women are interested in.

                    Don't over think your situation. Love is primarily emotional and only slightly physical.
                    I concur with that. You get a rep.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Jackxxx View Post
                      LOL well, you can use those things depending on what stage of illumination you are. But for an average human who has not reached a certain level of enlightenment for reason development, the use of these "things" are a "way out" of their failure to resolve problems. That's why for a human in a weak state of existence, I would recommend to stay away from all those "things", IF and only IF the entity is willing to take control purely with its multidimensional being of light and energy.
                      That's the story of my youth right there.

                      Do I regret it? A little. But never look back. Every step forward on the journey is a step higher inside yourself
                      "I want to go to my death bed one day knowing that even when my heart led me into the fire, I fucking did it anyway, and I have the story to tell."

                      Everything I know about Premature Ejaculation

                      Your dick is almost certainly big enough. Relax

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                      • #12
                        To the op: you totally said what I feel. I am glad to know someone else has the same self-esteem problems, as perhaps we can work together to try and fix them. The realization that your gf (who loves you) has had bigger cocks and better sex with guys she never even thinks about (or cared about in the first place) can be devastating. "Love" in this case seems like a consolation-prize at that point, doesn't it? "The sex with him was AWESOME, but I LOVE YOU". Lol. I know I am not being helpful, but I just wanted to know that you are not alone in feeling this way dude.

                        Perhaps if guys like us can get our cocks to be a fair bit above average, we can be released from the bondage of being saddled with an average unit. Time to break-out the astro-glide and begin the up-scaling....

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by joeaverage View Post
                          To the op: you totally said what I feel. I am glad to know someone else has the same self-esteem problems, as perhaps we can work together to try and fix them. The realization that your gf (who loves you) has had bigger cocks and better sex with guys she never even thinks about (or cared about in the first place) can be devastating. "Love" in this case seems like a consolation-prize at that point, doesn't it? "The sex with him was AWESOME, but I LOVE YOU". Lol. I know I am not being helpful, but I just wanted to know that you are not alone in feeling this way dude.

                          Perhaps if guys like us can get our cocks to be a fair bit above average, we can be released from the bondage of being saddled with an average unit. Time to break-out the astro-glide and begin the up-scaling....
                          I think you should read my reply up there on the first page joeaverage. There's not really much more I can say about it. Women want to have sex with someone who turns them on, excites them emotionally and mentally, and they'll keep coming back if you're the right man for her at the right time. How deep you go, or stretching her vulva another 1/8th of an inch is not the difference between good sex and bad. I was told a number of times by my ex that I had been her best. Now she may have been saying that to boost my ego, but frankly I don't care. I am without a shadow of a doubt that she has had bigger cocks. I also know that her longest LTR had a smaller cock and used small size condoms because normal ones didn't stay on.

                          If your insecurity has even a grain of truth, ask yourself why she would do that? Possibly because your penis size isn't actually what matters? Please believe me.
                          "I want to go to my death bed one day knowing that even when my heart led me into the fire, I fucking did it anyway, and I have the story to tell."

                          Everything I know about Premature Ejaculation

                          Your dick is almost certainly big enough. Relax

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                          • #14
                            You know something you guys with low self esteem, I used to be one of you. I had always been a bit self conscious about myself and when I got divorced, I thought "shit, I'm now going to have to try and impress women with I don't have in the dick department". That was 7 years ago. I got into PE, stayed committed and dedicated to the program, ate right, got adequate sleep, so forth and so on all in the name of self improvement in the esteem and dick department. My focus and commitment to this rewarded me handsomely because I've got great self esteem, a big dick and I like who and what I see in the mirror every day of my life.

                            View this post as nothing more than a motivational tool. It worked for me, it can work for you too. You might also achieve success in these areas far sooner than I did as every guy is different. Through the above 7 years mentioned, I had setbacks, accomplishments, good days and shitty ones............but I kept going and saw this through and now I'm at a place in my life where I'm very, VERY happy internally and like who I am............and I even drink coffee and a daily jack and coke and get rock hard, wicked boners too.
                            It's a tough job being good looking and hung :-)

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Draft View Post
                              Hello my name is John.
                              I'm having some self-esteem issue.
                              My issue is about not being able to please women that care about penis size.
                              I'm not small but I'm not big either. That's the problem.
                              Not to sound too cocky(this site must be full of bad puns), but I'm pretty ambitious and I want to be a very good lover.
                              When I found out that size matters I felt pretty much emasculated. I also felt a lot of anger.
                              There's this theory I'm having... It's like women don't care that much about penis size, but a big benis is a treat, a treat they all secretly want even if they don't say it.
                              A big tasty and exciting treat. And I can't give it to them. And That is fucking killing me.
                              So here I am bear with me I know this might sound weird because im not very small but that's just how I feel.
                              I'm 5.5 long and 5.3 girth.
                              So what do you guys think?
                              I feel exactly the same dude!

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