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    hello all...im 28 years old and have been suffering from premature ejaculation since i was a teenager. this problem has completely ruined my sexual confidence and has me scared to death every time im with a new partner....the sexual anxiety practically kills me, to the point where half the time i don't even want to have sex with anyone. i would like to overcome this problem somehow, or at least up my time considerably so i don't feel so down on myself and embarrassed.

    i've read that many factors can cause PE whether it's mental or physical....so i'll just give a few examples of my problem to maybe help my diagnosis. i don't really have a problem with it when im masturbating....seems like i can go forever sometimes and almost have to force myself to ejaculate (unless im watching some good porn, then its a lot easier). but whenever i enter a woman, i just can't seem to hold it back to save my life....most of the time it wants to go in less than a minute...sometime i get so excited that i barely even make it to the vagina. there have been a few tricks i can do to help my time.....masturbating an hour or 2 before i think ill be having sex really does help.....but the sex kinda loses its intimacy when i do that and feels more like work instead of pleasure for me, but at least i can go for quite some time. it also seems that if i have sex right after i wake up in the morning, i go for a lot longer than if it was before bed....not sure why exactly.

    now im not exactly sure what angle to take on this...go see a doctor? medication or herbal supplements? kegal exercises? the kegals interest me, but im unsure whether i need them or not seeing as i dont know if this is a mental or physical thing. is the goal of kegals to have dry orgasms and be able to keep going? or to not even have an orgasm till you want to? i also heard they have some negative effects, so i dont want to jump the gun and do them if they wont help me.

    please...any help would be greatly appreciated....i've passed up so many opportunities because of this :-(

  • #2
    Hey six2midnight, Welcome to the GYM!
    You are at a right place to cure Premature Ejaculation. You need to be determined and patient in order for these natural remedies to work. They are harmless and permanent. I suffer from Premature Ejaculation myself. I have been doing these exercises and have seen some positives.

    You should check out all the stickies in the Premature Ejaculation forum. Seems like you have a lot of reading to do ahead of you. One thing, have no regrets in life. Whatever gone is gone, only strive to make your future better. I'd love to post some links here for you, but I really don't know how to do it. You should check other people's logs and you'll find a similar pattern in each of them.

    I know how it feels to suffer from Premature Ejaculation. I wish you very best of luck on your journey!
    Cheers!
    Cris
    "When the seagulls follow the trawler, it's because they think sardines will be thrown into the sea."

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    • #3
      Welcome to the gym! Like cris said, check out the stickies in the Pre-E forum. Sounds like you have over-arousal symptoms, there is lots of info on there about how to train your brain to overcome this problem. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
      PEGym Theme Song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RH76tfDxm7Y

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      • #4
        sounds like i have my work cut out for me. thanks guys :-)

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        • #5
          I have been here for a few days and have similar issues. The JP90day program is quite interesting. I also just read ByggD's Guide to Controlling Ejaculation Response. That was an eye opener. Good luck, work at it, all good things take time. Or, the express elevator to success is broken, use the stairs, one step at a time.

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          • #6
            Welcome to the gym!

            We're here to help. I'm not an PE expert, but I can advice you to read a lot in our PE forum!

            I really hope you will overcome your problem!

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