hello all...im 28 years old and have been suffering from premature ejaculation since i was a teenager. this problem has completely ruined my sexual confidence and has me scared to death every time im with a new partner....the sexual anxiety practically kills me, to the point where half the time i don't even want to have sex with anyone. i would like to overcome this problem somehow, or at least up my time considerably so i don't feel so down on myself and embarrassed.
i've read that many factors can cause PE whether it's mental or physical....so i'll just give a few examples of my problem to maybe help my diagnosis. i don't really have a problem with it when im masturbating....seems like i can go forever sometimes and almost have to force myself to ejaculate (unless im watching some good porn, then its a lot easier). but whenever i enter a woman, i just can't seem to hold it back to save my life....most of the time it wants to go in less than a minute...sometime i get so excited that i barely even make it to the vagina. there have been a few tricks i can do to help my time.....masturbating an hour or 2 before i think ill be having sex really does help.....but the sex kinda loses its intimacy when i do that and feels more like work instead of pleasure for me, but at least i can go for quite some time. it also seems that if i have sex right after i wake up in the morning, i go for a lot longer than if it was before bed....not sure why exactly.
now im not exactly sure what angle to take on this...go see a doctor? medication or herbal supplements? kegal exercises? the kegals interest me, but im unsure whether i need them or not seeing as i dont know if this is a mental or physical thing. is the goal of kegals to have dry orgasms and be able to keep going? or to not even have an orgasm till you want to? i also heard they have some negative effects, so i dont want to jump the gun and do them if they wont help me.
please...any help would be greatly appreciated....i've passed up so many opportunities because of this :-(
i've read that many factors can cause PE whether it's mental or physical....so i'll just give a few examples of my problem to maybe help my diagnosis. i don't really have a problem with it when im masturbating....seems like i can go forever sometimes and almost have to force myself to ejaculate (unless im watching some good porn, then its a lot easier). but whenever i enter a woman, i just can't seem to hold it back to save my life....most of the time it wants to go in less than a minute...sometime i get so excited that i barely even make it to the vagina. there have been a few tricks i can do to help my time.....masturbating an hour or 2 before i think ill be having sex really does help.....but the sex kinda loses its intimacy when i do that and feels more like work instead of pleasure for me, but at least i can go for quite some time. it also seems that if i have sex right after i wake up in the morning, i go for a lot longer than if it was before bed....not sure why exactly.
now im not exactly sure what angle to take on this...go see a doctor? medication or herbal supplements? kegal exercises? the kegals interest me, but im unsure whether i need them or not seeing as i dont know if this is a mental or physical thing. is the goal of kegals to have dry orgasms and be able to keep going? or to not even have an orgasm till you want to? i also heard they have some negative effects, so i dont want to jump the gun and do them if they wont help me.
please...any help would be greatly appreciated....i've passed up so many opportunities because of this :-(
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