really starting to get depressed

**burtybasset** · 07-04-2014

Welcome to the gym loginthefire!

Your size is above average, you have nothing to worry about! Stop watching porn as MrB8 suggests, because it sounds like it's messing with your perception. With a dedicated, persistent approach you will make gains, but they won't happen overnight and less tends to be more with PE.

Also I believe that steroids won't benefit you in the long run as they have negative counter reactions. I don't know if you will be able to tell that your body is responding to PE effectively while taking them.

Either way I hope you get the results your after! Starting a log in the progress forum will help you stay motivated and help you track what works for your body.

Good luck, stay positive!

**TPW** · 07-04-2014

Hiya loginthefire and welcome to the Gym!

If I may ask, what do you mean specifically when you wrote that it "just feels like you have to put so much work into getting a reaction out of a girl?"

You also stated that no girl has ever said anything negative to you but you KNOW secretly what they are thinking. How is that possible? Unless you are a bonafide mind reader, you are simply making assumptions and negative ones at that. Please remember that when you do that you are not only underestimating the girl(s), you are severely underestimating yourself. You need to do as MrB8 and others have recommended and stop watching porn; it is an unrealistic depiction of size as well as sexual play. Remember it is designed to be a fantasy, not a comparative, so go easy on yourself, okay?

I also wanted to mention that should you require it, there are also some helpful and supportive ladies available on the forum too who are more than willing to offer their insight and wisdom. We can often be located in the following forums:

A Woman's Perspective

Relationship Forum

The Gym

Originally Posted by loginthefire

hi guys im 27 years old an really starting to get down about my size, its not so much the length but the girth, just feels like i have to put so much work in to get a reaction out of a girl, tried the whole jelqing thing nearly a year before but didnt see any difference whatsoever, i also watch a lot of porn and seeing the guys with big hefty tools and knowing the fact that the girls im sleeping with have had bigger too just puts me down, they never say anything about it to me but i know secretly their thinking it, im also on steroids as well so i have big muscles and some little twiglet of a knob, i just wanna know is there anything i can do to increase girth that actually works?
any help greatly appreciated

**Rasputine** · 07-04-2014

Porn gives a warped sense of unreality.Yes I know I said unreality!

**loginthefire** · 07-04-2014

Originally Posted by The Passionate Wife

Hiya loginthefire and welcome to the Gym!

If I may ask, what do you mean specifically when you wrote that it "just feels like you have to put so much work into getting a reaction out of a girl?"

You also stated that no girl has ever said anything negative to you but you KNOW secretly what they are thinking. How is that possible? Unless you are a bonafide mind reader, you are simply making assumptions and negative ones at that. Please remember that when you do that you are not only underestimating the girl(s), you are severely underestimating yourself. You need to do as MrB8 and others have recommended and stop watching porn; it is an unrealistic depiction of size as well as sexual play. Remember it is designed to be a fantasy, not a comparative, so go easy on yourself, okay?

I also wanted to mention that should you require it, there are also some helpful and supportive ladies available on the forum too who are more than willing to offer their insight and wisdom. We can often be located in the following forums:

A Woman's Perspective

firstly thanks for the replies, i dunno it just seems i have to hit a girl hard as an fast as possible to make her scream, where as on porno's all the guy has to do is stick the tip in and shes squeeling like a cat and all the things i've heard of normal girls i know in person saying they like it big combined with the porn have just kinda made me get low self esteem, another thing when im in the gym and i accidently catch a glimps of next mans penis they all just seem to be bigger than mine, ive never had a girl tell me mine was big ever and sometimes during sex i just feel like giving up because its like throwing a hotdog down a hallway, sometimes i blame the fact i've been on cocaine the last 10 years which made me skinny therefore my penis skinny but now i've put on weight and have gotten myself healthy and am getting a lot more girls i just feel like i cant satisfy a them even if they seem to be enjoying it, maybe your right it is all in my head.. ahhh i dunoo?

**Pegasus** · 07-04-2014

Originally Posted by loginthefire

firstly thanks for the replies, i dunno it just seems i have to hit a girl hard as an fast as possible to make her scream, where as on porno's all the guy has to do is stick the tip in and shes squeeling like a cat and all the things i've heard of normal girls i know in person saying they like it big combined with the porn have just kinda made me get low self esteem, another thing when im in the gym and i accidently catch a glimps of next mans penis they all just seem to be bigger than mine, ive never had a girl tell me mine was big ever and sometimes during sex i just feel like giving up because its like throwing a hotdog down a hallway, sometimes i blame the fact i've been on cocaine the last 10 years which made me skinny therefore my penis skinny but now i've put on weight and have gotten myself healthy and am getting a lot more girls i just feel like i cant satisfy a them even if they seem to be enjoying it, maybe your right it is all in my head.. ahhh i dunoo?

**MrB8** · 07-04-2014

The performers in porn are paid to act like that.

And maybe those "screams" are not from pleasure.

Most ladies don't know that telling you that complimenting you on your penis is important, so they don't say it.

Get the porn out of your head, and learn how to be a better lover, read as much as you can, and ask questions, the forum TPW kindly posted for you is a very good start.

**loginthefire** · 07-04-2014

Originally Posted by MrB8

The performers in porn are paid to act like that.

And maybe those "screams" are not from pleasure.

Most ladies don't know that telling you that complimenting you on your penis is important, so they don't say it.

Get the porn out of your head, and learn how to be a better lover, read as much as you can, and ask questions, the forum TPW kindly posted for you is a very good start.

no i hear you mate, porn stars have to be packing meat down there or they wouldnt even get the role, i know i can never compair to those guys and tbh i wouldnt want to, it looks like hard work having sex with a 2ft long tool, its just little thngs like out of the 30 odd girls ive slept with i've only made 2 of them cum, anyway ive uploaded some pics but bare in mind these pics were taken to send to girls so i've tried to make it look bigger than it actually is

**MrB8** · 07-04-2014

Don't compare to them nor to anybody.

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**Pegasus** · 07-05-2014

Originally Posted by Pegasus

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**BigO** · 07-05-2014

Welcome loginthefire.

Sound advice above. Don't let porn give you a false perception of what's reality, not only for yourself, but also for what women think. It's just a movie, like any other production, made to entice an audience with exaggerated circumstances.

As for her having bigger, you have to tell yourself this. If it was everything, then she wouldn't be with you now. The man makes the penis, not the other way around. Some time spent learning sexual knowledge and technique will not only benefit her pleasure, but yours as well.

For your question, a dedicated PE routine will add girth, but it will take time.

Best of luck on your journey.