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  • Hi everyone - my girl friend thinks I have ED.

    Hello everyone!
    It's really good to be here find a such a relevant resource to my issues.
    I wnet to see my girl friend. For some reason she believes I have erectile dysfunction/premature ejaculation.
    She reasons:
    1. because I after I come it takes me a while to get hard. She believes I should get hard in 5 minutes but it takes me at least 15 - 30 minutes.
    2. Also it takes me some time to get hard - if she's feeling me up I'd mostly be soft. If we were making out heavily and she was getting turned on and would feel me up I wouldn't be hard.
    3. Whenever she;d get on top I'd lose my erection.
    4. I'd come quite quickly when she'd suck me off. I'd come if we were making out and I'd grind on her.
    I'd come while trying to put condoms on.
    5. I could only get semi-hard. Even that I wouldn't get harder I'd just lose my erection.

    I don't think I have ED or Premature ejaculation. I think the premature ejaculation thing was simply because I'm not use to having sex or masturbating at all.
    Prior to visiting my GF i hadn't been sleeping well or even eating. There'd be days where I barely ate, and when I ate it was crap.

    Interesting thing is on my own I can get hard fine and can maintain the erection.
    Anyway I am extremely keen to improve myself for the sake of our mutual enjoyment in the bedroom.
    I am consdering visiting a GP or something to see if they can confirm anything too. But undecided.

    Anyway, I am happy to be here and I am looking forward to picking up tips.
    Thanks guys!!
    FFFred

  • #2
    Nope you don't have ed. Now how old might you be? You can tell me; I won't tell anyone.
    The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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    • #3
      to the Gym FFFred!


      Don't miss this thread!!





      You are correct, you don't have any problems, she must be confused about this.

      1. That is normal, unless you are experienced with Multiple Male Orgasms (special technique that requires training), there is something called a refractory period, where it is very hard for a male to achieve another erection before a certain time passes, different from one to another.

      https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/677...geing-etc.html


      2. Maybe its anxiety, or you simply just need your time, an erection can't just be willed, you are human.

      3. Again, very normal, happens to many males, try to keep your chest up on a pillow or something that may help.

      4. Nothing out of the norm, you get excited and orgasm, if that is inconvenient for you, try to read the stuff we have in the Premature Ejaculation Forum, strengthen your pelvic floor and learn how to better control your arousal for increased stamina and better EQ.

      5. Stamina exercises and PE do improve penile health and raise EQ, in addition to size gains bonus, please read ahead for more info.


      If you haven't already done so, please read the START HERE thread and focus on safety.

      Then pick one of the manual beginner routines to follow for at least 90 days to condition your penis, most members here choose JP90.



      Pay attention to your PIs, your penis is trying to tell you if you are over working, or you are in the growth zone, aim for positive PIs, and steer away from the negative ones.

      Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

      What to Expect....A Beginner's Guide


      Maybe invite her to join us and learn more about males sexual health.

      Good Luck!
      A real man never hurts a woman. The woman came out of a man’s rib, not from his feet to be walked on, and not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. - Mrs. workin_4_it

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      • #4
        Hey! Welcome to the gym! I would think simply doing the PE exercises will increase the control you have over your member. I'd try the JP90. Combine that with edging after your workout because what it sounds like to me is that you lack experience closely monitoring sensation and its interrelationship with your arousal.
        My Log: From Zero...to Hero

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        • #5
          Hiya FFFred and welcome to the forums!

          I think part of the challenge may be that both you and your girlfriend know very little about the human sexual response cycle especially when it pertains to the male. For example, as MrB8 indicated, there is a very normal and natural refractory period that occurs following ejaculation in males. Please be sure to read the link he recommended about it.

          Also, I am wondering since you can achieve erections and orgasm quite easily alone if maybe the negative comments from your girlfriend are now generating sexual performance anxiety for you?

          Perhaps it may help to give the following threads a read:

          https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...l-anxiety.html

          https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...e-anxiety.html

          https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...tml#post894598

          Finally, should you require it, there are also some helpful and supportive ladies available on the forum too who are more than willing to offer their insight and wisdom. We can often be located in the following forums:

          A Woman's Perspective

          Relationship Forum

          The Gym

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          • #6
            I think your girlfriend's attitude is unacceptable. She needs to educate herself on male sexuality before making these kinds of assumptions. I don't have ED either, but if my wife pressured md to get it up again the moment I ejaculated, it would make things much harder.
            Focus on the positive :D
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            • #7
              Originally posted by CUSP82 View Post
              Nope you don't have ed. Now how old might you be? You can tell me; I won't tell anyone.
              Hi mate. I am 27

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              • #8
                Originally posted by MrB8 View Post
                to the Gym FFFred!


                Don't miss this thread!!





                You are correct, you don't have any problems, she must be confused about this.

                1. That is normal, unless you are experienced with Multiple Male Orgasms (special technique that requires training), there is something called a refractory period, where it is very hard for a male to achieve another erection before a certain time passes, different from one to another.

                https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/677...geing-etc.html


                2. Maybe its anxiety, or you simply just need your time, an erection can't just be willed, you are human.

                3. Again, very normal, happens to many males, try to keep your chest up on a pillow or something that may help.

                4. Nothing out of the norm, you get excited and orgasm, if that is inconvenient for you, try to read the stuff we have in the Premature Ejaculation Forum, strengthen your pelvic floor and learn how to better control your arousal for increased stamina and better EQ.

                5. Stamina exercises and PE do improve penile health and raise EQ, in addition to size gains bonus, please read ahead for more info.


                If you haven't already done so, please read the START HERE thread and focus on safety.

                Then pick one of the manual beginner routines to follow for at least 90 days to condition your penis, most members here choose JP90.



                Pay attention to your PIs, your penis is trying to tell you if you are over working, or you are in the growth zone, aim for positive PIs, and steer away from the negative ones.

                Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

                What to Expect....A Beginner's Guide


                Maybe invite her to join us and learn more about males sexual health.

                Good Luck!
                Thank you mate for your feedback.
                It;s good to hear that my behaviour is normal. I am extremely excited to be here now and I try all those these things you've mentioned.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by aBone2pick View Post
                  I think your girlfriend's attitude is unacceptable. She needs to educate herself on male sexuality before making these kinds of assumptions. I don't have ED either, but if my wife pressured md to get it up again the moment I ejaculated, it would make things much harder.
                  I agree, I've told her to be more supportive. I am an extreme novice so If I accidentally pull her hair or elbow her she'll scream obsecnities - she doesn't mean it of course. But when she does this it's an instant boner kill.
                  She means well and I love her, will marry her. Just need to ease the tension a bit.

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                  • #10
                    Okay well you have been given great advice, especially from the guy above me. Read it and if you have more questions just ask. You don't have ed at your age unless something is really wrong medically.
                    The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by John_Clark View Post
                      Hey! Welcome to the gym! I would think simply doing the PE exercises will increase the control you have over your member. I'd try the JP90. Combine that with edging after your workout because what it sounds like to me is that you lack experience closely monitoring sensation and its interrelationship with your arousal.
                      I will look into this. I would like to learn about kegels too. But I just can't seem to know if I am doing it right. I think I need video examples. I can easily stop and start the flow of urine but now when trying to do the exercise I am trying to understand what I should be trying to lift.
                      Also with edging, it's recommended that one doesn't watch porn right?

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                      • #12
                        Hi Passionate wife.
                        Thanks for your reply. I agree with you wholeheartedly. We definitely know very little, especially myself.

                        You ask: Also, I am wondering since you can achieve erections and orgasm quite easily alone if maybe the negative comments from your girlfriend are now generating sexual performance anxiety for you?

                        I definitely feel this is true. Sometimes she would call me an old man, or get so upset and say we are incompatible - basically she would say very hurtful things - she was sick at the time to support her. On the last couple days of my visit her health improved and I was performing much better. But still she says I am shit so I am trying hard to work on that.
                        When she says things like: "its ok baby I love you so much we don't need to have sex" it really gets to me, so I am here trying to lift my game.

                        Thanks for all these links too!
                        Thank you

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                        • #13
                          No offense, but she sounds like a real beeyotch. Don't let her issues become your issues, but it does sound like you could improve in the bedroom. She could help you, but seems to want to only tear you down.
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                          • #14
                            And you're going to marry this girl? Okay have a nice life!!!
                            The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                            • #15
                              You may have a SHY pocket rocket. It needs to be reassured that everything is okee dokee, and it will not suffocate if put somewhere new and unusual. Tell it you are both partners for life, and he should trust you.

                              to the forum!
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