Hey everyone,
This is my first time posting but I've checked out this forum for a few years now. I have to say, it seems like a pretty cool community of people who generally want to help each other out.
I'm having a bit of a problem right now with keeping my erection. I recently started dating this girl that I really like, the first time we had sex it was great. She's not on the pill so I wore a condom, which often give me issues, but there were none the first time. We Had sex for about 15-20 minutes, broke a few condoms, changed positions, went fast, went slow, never once had anything but a flagpole erection.
The next weekend I went to visit and I couldn't keep it up. We tried three times, but about a minute after putting the condom on and going in, I would lose it. I brushed it off and offered to go down but she said it was fine but we ended up having sex without a condom for about 20 minutes and then went to sleep (no problem with the erection also didn't finish). Next morning we woke up and had sex with a condom on, only lasted 5 minutes, but no problems. (better to finish early than not get it up, I think)
Over the next week I decide to eat some pepitas (pumpkin seeds) and take some nitric oxide supplements to make sure this problem doesn't happen again. All week, high school level erections at the slightest turn on. My girl and I go out to dinner and I'm hard all through dinner. We get back to her place, hard all through foreplay. I put the condom on and go limp within a minute. I get nervous and we go back to foreplay. Nothing can really get me up and hard again. We eat dinner and watch a movie, no hard on. Go to bed and have foreplay, no hard on. Next morning we have sex twice and I'm fine, but I was nervous about losing my erection so we did it in a position that makes me finish, so I only had sex for about 3 minutes each time.
Little backstory about me:
If I have a problem it's with not finishing at all. I can have dry orgasms so if I don't ejaculate, I'm still good. Sometimes girls get self concious about it but it's not a huge problem. Occasionally though, I lose my erection during sex or just don't have a very firm one. Things like changing positions or even certain positions (lying on my back) can cause me to go limp but not always. Condoms are always a huge problem for me though. I'm well experienced in bed but not with wearing a condom. I have a slightly large member so I've found that wearing wider condoms is more helpful, but even still, it's always a crap shoot as to whether or not I'm going to keep it up if I'm wearing one. I hate it because with a condom, I usually go as fast and hard as I can to finish before going limp, which isn't an enjoyable way to have sex.
It's probably a lot of stuff in my head. I'm healthy 28 year old and I do deep breathing daily and light exercise, but I have some OCD and anxiety issues.
What I would love is be able to maintain a great erection for the entire time, like I did the first time I had sex with this girl. I could go incredibly slow or fast, or just keep it in her and pulse lightly with a kegel while we kissed, it was great. Getting an erection isn't difficult (lately a little but it's because it's on my mind) and when I get one, it's pretty firm at first, but then it wanes and or falls completely. Where can I get started? How can i develop an erection that will stick around for as long as I'm interested?
Thanks in advance for any advice. I'd love to build up some confidence in this area and give my girl a great time,
Garf310
Also, I rarely watch porn and usually masterbate once a day. Sometimes when i masterbate, however, I get distracted and check my email or something. I've since stopped doing that, but it may be part of the problem as well.
This is my first time posting but I've checked out this forum for a few years now. I have to say, it seems like a pretty cool community of people who generally want to help each other out.
I'm having a bit of a problem right now with keeping my erection. I recently started dating this girl that I really like, the first time we had sex it was great. She's not on the pill so I wore a condom, which often give me issues, but there were none the first time. We Had sex for about 15-20 minutes, broke a few condoms, changed positions, went fast, went slow, never once had anything but a flagpole erection.
The next weekend I went to visit and I couldn't keep it up. We tried three times, but about a minute after putting the condom on and going in, I would lose it. I brushed it off and offered to go down but she said it was fine but we ended up having sex without a condom for about 20 minutes and then went to sleep (no problem with the erection also didn't finish). Next morning we woke up and had sex with a condom on, only lasted 5 minutes, but no problems. (better to finish early than not get it up, I think)
Over the next week I decide to eat some pepitas (pumpkin seeds) and take some nitric oxide supplements to make sure this problem doesn't happen again. All week, high school level erections at the slightest turn on. My girl and I go out to dinner and I'm hard all through dinner. We get back to her place, hard all through foreplay. I put the condom on and go limp within a minute. I get nervous and we go back to foreplay. Nothing can really get me up and hard again. We eat dinner and watch a movie, no hard on. Go to bed and have foreplay, no hard on. Next morning we have sex twice and I'm fine, but I was nervous about losing my erection so we did it in a position that makes me finish, so I only had sex for about 3 minutes each time.
Little backstory about me:
If I have a problem it's with not finishing at all. I can have dry orgasms so if I don't ejaculate, I'm still good. Sometimes girls get self concious about it but it's not a huge problem. Occasionally though, I lose my erection during sex or just don't have a very firm one. Things like changing positions or even certain positions (lying on my back) can cause me to go limp but not always. Condoms are always a huge problem for me though. I'm well experienced in bed but not with wearing a condom. I have a slightly large member so I've found that wearing wider condoms is more helpful, but even still, it's always a crap shoot as to whether or not I'm going to keep it up if I'm wearing one. I hate it because with a condom, I usually go as fast and hard as I can to finish before going limp, which isn't an enjoyable way to have sex.
It's probably a lot of stuff in my head. I'm healthy 28 year old and I do deep breathing daily and light exercise, but I have some OCD and anxiety issues.
What I would love is be able to maintain a great erection for the entire time, like I did the first time I had sex with this girl. I could go incredibly slow or fast, or just keep it in her and pulse lightly with a kegel while we kissed, it was great. Getting an erection isn't difficult (lately a little but it's because it's on my mind) and when I get one, it's pretty firm at first, but then it wanes and or falls completely. Where can I get started? How can i develop an erection that will stick around for as long as I'm interested?
Thanks in advance for any advice. I'd love to build up some confidence in this area and give my girl a great time,
Garf310
Also, I rarely watch porn and usually masterbate once a day. Sometimes when i masterbate, however, I get distracted and check my email or something. I've since stopped doing that, but it may be part of the problem as well.
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