New here, need help

[Mr. Shoe]

I hope this is the right place to get help on this, so here goes.

I think I have ruined myself (at least the whole sex drive thing) and I'm only 22 years old. Virgin, never kissed etc. and lately it seems my erections have become pitifully weak - in fact I'm writing this less than half an hour after getting off being barely erect enough to fap because it just wouldn't get up. I used to get off to literotica / H manga frequently and be hard as steel the whole way through, now neither of those sources seems to get me passed semi-erect. Reason I always used these sources of material is because real porn is too gross / fake / staged to even get my attention, and I've avoided the real stuff so much I can't even get hard to it - that with the fact my usual stuff not working I now find it very difficult to get as hard as I used to so I don't even masturbate daily anymore I go like once a week sometimes less. And I may be paranoid but I'm pretty sure my erections have lost some length despite doing some of the exercises on this site and having used an extender off and on for a while. In all I remember measuring to just slightly above 6 inches (erect) when I was like 16-17 now that I'm 22 I'm seeing just over 5 inches (erect), girth and flaccid length have gone up a little though despite the loss of erect length.

So guys, any help? Will these exercises/programs help my erections become normal again? What do I do about my disinterest in porn now? My being an introvert and having trust issues from a previous relationship makes it difficult to approach women so getting a girlfriend may be too much to ask for now so please no "just get a gf / laid" replies.

Sorry for disorganized post, any help appreciated. If this is not the right site for this drama please let me know. Thanks.

[not2big]

Hey Shoe!

Welcome to the Gym.

First things first. Be sure to read https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...cess-here.html

No guaranty, but some guys have found that jelqing (not too hard) improves EQ.

it would be a good idea to start with a beginner's routine like the JP90 and see what happens.

MrB8 should be on here shortly to provide additional recommendations,

[MrB8]

to the Gym Mr. Shoe!


Don't miss this thread!!

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...t-mindset.html

And if you haven't already done so, please read the START HERE thread and focus on safety.


You have come to the right place, I believe that if you quit porn (real and hentai alike) and started PE, you will notice a huge improvement, including your self confidence.

Bad masturbation habits and porn lead to premature ejaculation and performance anxiety among other side effects, like ED and/or DE for example, please read the following threads for more information.

Adolescent Brain Meets Highspeed Internet Porn

Don't RELY on porn for an erection!

Greetings from the Fairy Pornmother

Therapeutic Help For Porn Addiction

The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence: Part 1



When done correctly, PE will greatly improve your penile health and increase your EQ, in addition to size gains, but you need to be consistent, patient and persistent, please do as much research as you can, ask questions, follow safety and exercise instructions carefully and remember that PE is a long term process, don't rush it up.

Starting a journal in the progress forum is a good idea, to track your progress and get feedback, also for motivation!

I recommend you first condition your penis by following a beginner's manual routine for at least 90 days or until you stop gaining - whichever comes last. Most members here start with JP90, and gain fine from it, being an intense beginner's routine, you may want to consider starting slow and gradually increase workload!


Pay attention to your PIs, your penis is trying to tell you if you are over working, or you are in the growth zone, aim for positive PIs, and steer away from the negative ones.

Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

Helpful jelqing Information


Good Luck!

[Mr. Shoe]

Wow these were some really fast replies, thanks guys.

You have come to the right place, I believe that if you quit porn (real and hentai alike) and started PE, you will notice a huge improvement, including your self confidence.

Bad masturbation habits and porn lead to premature ejaculation and performance anxiety among other side effects, like ED and/or DE for example, please read the following threads for more information.

Just a quick question on this point, I recently purchased a fleshlight to get away from using my hand due to something called death grip syndrome - so in my first post when I mentioned I was barely hard enough to fap I meant barely hard enough to get in and out of the FL without my penis bending slightly - so should I go back to my hand or stick with the toy? I realize you gave me lots of links to look at but I don't have time to read right now, but I do plan to look at them all later on. And I tried the JP90 earlier today, I rushed it a little but I will stick with it it seemed like a good workout.

[MrB8]

There is no rush, take your time, and read them when you can, they basically explain matters in details and offer solutions.

If you are accustomed to the death grip, then it is not unlikely to not be able to get a hard erection without it, as your penis is used to a certain type of stimulation, your goal is recondition your penis to be able to function properly under normal circumstances, like when using a normal/light grip or a fleshlight, as well as replacing porn with your imagination, fantasize all you want, that should engage and encourage your imagination to grow!

You are welcome and good luck!

[kickinthemebs]

Follow MrB8's links and people's advice on the forum and you should be able to resolve any of the problems you have been having over time. Welcome to the gym

[TPW]

Hiya Mr. Shoe and welcome to the forums!

We are glad you joined us. The guys have given you some great information to get you started so I just wanted to let you know that should you require it, there are also some helpful and supportive ladies available on the forum too who are more than willing to offer their insight and wisdom. We can often be located in the following forums:

A Woman's Perspective

Relationship Forum

The Gym

Best wishes on your PE journey!

[Mr. Shoe]

Okay hoping for a quick reply since I'm freaking out a little, so I just did some PE stuff (exercises found here: https://www.pegym.com/forums/success...nner-read.html) and I am having a bit of an issue after finishing like 20 minutes ago. So I just looked down and about mid-shaft to my corona is really swollen? And on the bottom side two veins are really popping out? I followed the warnings and tips very closely and warmed up for over 10 minutes with hot water and a wash cloth, and used pretty light pressure while doing jelqs, did I do something wrong? How do I get the swelling down - or is it a non-issue?

[MrB8]

If you are referring to the doughnut effect, I recommend a temperature treatment, alternate between cool and warm water for less than 3 minutes each and massage between sets until it dissipates.

It would help in the future if you roll back your skin while you jelq.