Penis and Genitals numb and tight

[Frenchboy76 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frenchboy76]

Hello guys,

Sorry for my bad english but i'm french

I'm 39 and have big genital/sexual problems since i'm 22.

I use porn for masturbation since i'm 15 (soft porn from 15 to 18, harder and harder from 18 until now)

Here are the steps of my issues :

1- no problem at all until 22. Nude women pictures and "soft" porn made my excitation grow very fast, had perfect erections and ejaculations with great pleasure. I was masturbating once or twice a week approximatively.

2- Near 20-22 i began to watch harder porns each day and masturbate more frequently "thanks to" internet, at least once or twice a day. At this period i was student, was smoking and drinking frequently and never had real sex with girls (for the context). One day i woke up with a strange feeling : my penis was numb, no feeling, no sensation, as if it was "empty" or "disconnected" from the rest of my body. I was very stressed by this situation. I decided to reduce masturbation frequency, but the issue was still there. I began to panic... I decided to stop masturbation during 2-3 weeks approximatively. Then one day i recovered very good feeling and sensations again and was so happy (thinking the problem could be solved with time) that i masturbated twice, one time just after the another, and then the nightmare began...

3- Just after the second masturbation, i felt something was wrong. This masturbation was made without pleasure, was "forced" and my penis wasn't really erected (still recovering from first masturbation). Then i ejaculated again and my scrotum/testicles became very tight and high, and my penis very retracted and small and numb again. So after these 2 masturbations, i was again with a numb and insensitive penis but in addition, i had very tight scrotum and testicles, numbness and low sensations in all the genital "region" (testicles + penis). Since then, my penis is always very retracted, shrunk, and testicles are always very retracted too, high, and scrotum very tight... It's like when it's cold or when you are feared of something, but always... I feel like if my penis and testicles are always in post ejaculation posture, as if they are always "tired" and "recovering", if it means something...

Sometimes after a very hot shower, my penis and testicles are less retracted, and more "loosy", but all day long, they are retracted and numb. The worst situation is after defecation, it's like all the muscles are tighting and penis and testicles are very tight too and retracted after peeing or more often after defecation...

4- I made several tests with doctors during all these years : neurologic, organic, doppler for vascularisation, etc... But nothing was really found, i was just said : "maybe anxiety, in your head, etc..."
I have to note that the doppler results were showing that even with an injection of Papaverine 8mg (to provoque erection), i had a very bad and incomplete erection... Can anxiety provoque such a thing ? Can anxiety reduce arterial flux during doppler ? I dont know, maybe... What i am sure about is that i developped very important anxiety and even panic disorder...

5- I had real sex with a girlfriend i staid with from 25 yo to 32, but without any pleasure (no real good sensations), bad or no erections, etc...
She finally left me, and i think this problem was the first reason...
I was so sad not being able to satisfy her and not even more satisfy myself with sex anymore...

6- During all these years, i was able to have erections but only bad (weak) ones, never when standing up, and only with porn and masturbation. And even with porn, the erections doesn't last very long. The base of the penis is still flexible during erection and i could even have a pee in this state, what i could'nt do with full normal 100% hard erection... No spontaneous erections, no noticeable "morning wood". No full erection like before, no pleasure in ejaculation, and as soon as it is finished, the penis shrinks and retracts.

7- I already tried to stop masturbation during few months when i was with my GF. Only result was nocturnal ejaculations which woke me up and made me very sad of my situation without true sexuality. But i don't remember if i totally stopped porn and visual excitations at this period.

8- Conclusion -
I'm totally lost and i need your help...
I want to test totally stop porn and masturbation and try to "reboot".
I've stopped porn and masturbation since 7 months now. Sometimes i feel it's better (i have morning wood each day, even if still numb), but sometimes i feel like nothing changed... Up and down...

What could be my problem ? :
- anxiety, panic which induce ED and tight pelvic floor ?
- porn addiction which need recovery ?
- organic problem ?

Sorry again for my bad english, and my very long text, hope everything's clear and someone will read it and give me some advices or share his own experience which could help me (same symptoms, etc...).

Thank you for reading,

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Yeah this .

What could be my problem ? :
- anxiety, panic which induce ED and tight pelvic floor ?
- porn addiction which need recovery ?
- organic problem ?

You have porn addiction which causes issues you will have to stop this completely for awhile before seeing any results.
You have pelvic floor issues a physio who does lmale pelvic floor work can help with this.
You have anxiety that needs to be dealt with

[SoraSora Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SoraSora]

I used to have a totally numb and turtled penis too. I'm maybe 30% to full recovery right now, and should make good headway in the next 3-6 months.

It sounds very likely that you, like me, have a tight pelvic floor, which is either putting pressure on your pudendal nerve and hence reducing sensitivity in your penis and testicles (and also, likely, anus, you just haven't noticed), or reducing blood flow to the penis and scrotum by putting pressure on the vessels which supply them, which could also reduce sensitivity, much as your hand would be less sensitive if you cut off circulation to it.

There are three main solutions to the problem you're facing.

First, like Pegasus says, you'll wanna work on your mind, and look to become happier in yourself and in the moment. If you're in a bad mindstate, not only will your muscles tense reflexively, but you'll also be much less patient and willing to let the process of recovery take the time it needs. You've had it for so many years now, it makes sense you might think it irreversible, so knowing your condition can be cured will get you halfway there to peace of mind. The other half will come from contentment in the present moment, understanding how you perceive things, etc. Reading books like The Art of Happiness, or reading up on The Five Hindrances on Wikipedia may help a lot.

Secondly, more directly related, is fixing your anterior pelvic tilt, which you probably have. Especially as you can't get erections standing up, it suggests your posture is a key component. Anterior pelvic tilt can lead to your pelvic floor becoming constantly tensed over time due to the poor posture, which can put pressure on the nerves and blood vessels leading to the penis. As you likely have tight hip flexors, stretching your hip flexors with stretches such as Lizard Pose, and this foam roller stretch, can help your pelvic tilt to become more neutral, and allow your pelvic floor to relax.

The third solution is to directly work on releasing your pelvic floor. Hindi squats coupled with diaphragmatic breathing can help a great deal with this.

If you find your body is too tight to comfortably get into Lizard Pose and Hindi squats, get a foam roller, and start releasing all the tight muscles you have. Glutes, hamstrings, calves, quads, upper back (not the lower back, foam rolling that can be dangerous; do stretches for it instead). Releasing those tight muscles will help you do the stretches you need to even easier.

Your condition is very solvable. It'll take a good few months of dedicated routine to see a stable change in your condition, but things will likely improve slightly enough after a few sessions to encourage you that it's solvable. Do the foam rolling, followed by stretching routine once a day in the morning, and by next year, if you're consistent, healthy-minded, and patient, your condition will likely be reduced enough that it barely matters to you, or fully cured. Good luck man

[zaratustra Member Find all posts View Profile Close zaratustra]

If you did doppler and hormonal exams and said you are fine then you are fine. ACCEPT it. Read my last post when you have the time...It will help you...

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

If you did doppler and hormonal exams and said you are fine then you are fine. ACCEPT it. Read my last post when you have the time...It will help you...

There are a range of issues and combinations of issues guys can have , I suspect anxiety is only part of this .

[zaratustra Member Find all posts View Profile Close zaratustra]

I agree Pegasus but if someone is medically checked out and cannot find anything it is extremely likely that it is psychogenic, especially if he is young. And psychogenic ED is A LOT MORE than just anxiety, it can become very deep...Now I am not saying for sure that this is the case with our friend here but there is a strong possibility, especially when he mentions panic attacks etc.

[zaratustra Member Find all posts View Profile Close zaratustra]

And something else. Organic problems don't cure themselves for a while and then reappear. If you have organic ED that's it , period. And also you can't be numb one day and not after 2 weeks and then again and so on, it is quite difficult...Now about pelvic floor issues I admit I have no idea...But I know FOR SURE that all the symptoms our friend has CAN be psychosomatic. Yes, the mind can make you numb, yes the mind can retract your penis, yes it can make you completely asexual for years. At least it happened to me.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I agree Pegasus but if someone is medically checked out and cannot find anything it is extremely likely that it is psychogenic, especially if he is young. And psychogenic ED is A LOT MORE than just anxiety, it can become very deep...Now I am not saying for sure that this is the case with our friend here but there is a strong possibility, especially when he mentions panic attacks etc.

Ok I put up 3 possibilities and of course i suspect an interaction of more than 1 .
Hormones . Docs get this wrong all athe time I have several threads explaining this . A doc ,uro ,endo (or several of each)telling you your hormones are "normal" means nothing.
Pelvic floor doc,uro ,endo are clueless on this . In recent times the cuting edge of physio has started treating the male pelvic floor and this is who you need to see. Of course most guys would not think of it .
Third the head issues which you covered in your thread.

The short of the above is highly educated medical pros can repeatedly miss the obvious,

[zaratustra Member Find all posts View Profile Close zaratustra]

You are right BUT these things you mention don't happen OVERNIGHT. That's all I am saying. Hormones don't get messed up in one second. As for the pelvic floor I don't know...I am talking about cases of young men that SUDDENLY get ED when they were previously fine. Now I am sorry but unless you are injured that is extremely unlikely to be organic of any nature. You know when I developed ED I had 2 choices. The first was to believe that I had something that the whole medical science could not find or that it was psychogenic. I chose the first back then haha. I mean man has managed to get to the moon but he can't find what is wrong with your dick. Ok maybe and this happened to you. From all the billions in the world it happened to you. You see what I mean? I don't have great respect for doctors too, most of them are scum and they don't give a fuck but tests are tests my friend. And yes, when you have had plenty of them and can't find a damn thing, maybe it is all in your head, you like it or not. And most people don't. They just can't accept this possibility. Trust me I 've been there...

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Sigh pelvic floor issues can and do happen overnight . While some physio know tests for it ,gp,uro,endo are likely to look at you blankely when you ask about it . Now how many guys thinj to go to a physio for their dick?

As stated previous gp,uro,endo consistently get the hormone thing plain wrong .

You should not generalise your own experience to all guys onsite . I am sure there are many in a similar situation to yourself but also other who are not .

The idea that all ed is a head issue should be disgarded . The idea that the medical guys can correctly diagnose any and all physical issues should also be disgarded they plainly don't. Moreover as medical science moves forward they regularly discover things they thought were head issues are physical . Why should current times be any different.

[zaratustra Member Find all posts View Profile Close zaratustra]

I do not in any way generalise my own experience to all guys onsite. And MOST cases of ED are unfortunately organic in nature, that is true. But happening overnight and not being able to diagnose? I am sorry I disagree...But it is just my opinion, I am not here to debate...

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I do not in any way generalise my own experience to all guys onsite. And MOST cases of ED are unfortunately organic in nature, that is true. But happening overnight and not being able to diagnose? I am sorry I disagree...But it is just my opinion, I am not here to debate...

I liked your thread and think it has value for many onsite . As stated i think head issues are at least part of the issue.

[Frenchboy76 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frenchboy76]

Thank you very much for your replies guys. It helps me a lot not feeling alone with this horrible problem i have since so long years (i don't even know how i made to support this so long....).

I want to be more precise if it can help you to give me more advises...
I really need your help guys, i feel so bad currently...

The evolution of my case (psycho + physio) :
- UNTIL 18yo : everything fine
- 18 TO 22yo : little depressed and anxious personality, not much social relations => more masturbations with porn to feel better, but absolutely no sexual issue.
- 22yo internet at home = a lot more masturbations (even without real desire) just to calm anxiety and more hardcore porn. + more parties with alcohol and smoke (tabacco), more tired (still high anxiety) => 1ST SYMPTOM appeared during this periode : numb penis with loss of sensitivity. Glans less sensitive and hard to fill. Less erections.
- 23yo Very anxious with this situation, i stoped masturbation during few week and sensitivity reappeared one day with a good erection. I fapped 2 times this precise day. The second was just after the first and i forced it by forcing kegel to maintain blood flow. When i ejaculated, my penis was small, erect but in an hard flaccid state if that makes sens... As if it was not really ready to ejaculate again. As if i forced the refractory period..... my balls were very high (inguinal position). I felt that something went wrong when i noticed my balls didn't return low and were not hanging as usual after a fap. It was like a cramp was maintaining them high and with a tight scrotum. I went to pee and i felt the numbness of penis was back, but this time with numb balls and always tight scrotum. No more pleasure when touching my dick or my balls, when i want to touch them they shrivel.

- Had a girlfriend from 25yo during 7yo (i don't know how....). Bad erections, few sex with her. No improvement, total failure => felt very bad. No medical help (all tests didn't find the problem). I felt totally lost (no possibility to be happy, to feel normal sexual sensations as i did, to really satisfy a girl, to project myself in a future). As a consequence, i developped panic attacks during 6months and saw a psychiatrist. No more panic attacks after 6months but no improvement for my genital issue (it was 8 years ago)

- November 2018, i heard about nofap theory.

- Today : So i didn't fap (no masturbation, no porn, no sex) since 8months now. No major improvement, maybe a lot more morning wood (but not 100%, maybe 50-60%), and sometimes very few spontaneous beginning of erection but still numb, tight and "crampy" testicles (mostly the right one), never loose.


CURRENT SYMPTOMS AND SITUATION :
- Nofap since 8 months (no porn, no masturbation, no ejaculation)
- Numb genitals (penis + testicles-scrotum)
- Penis and scrotum always tight, i don't feel them loose and hanging like before. All the genital region looks and feels like it is stucked in refractory period, as if i was just ejaculating, while i didn't since 8 months !!!! The region feels empty of blood and dead. Even the colour of glans is not as before (now it is white when flaccid or purple when semi erect, while it was pink before). The glans is not spongy as before, it is more firm and not doesn't look healthy. I feel like kegel doesn't work as it was used to. Now the penis and testicles don't move when i kegel. Before when i kegeled, i felt the penis and the testicles moving (up), i could even feel the glans filling with blood and being able to maintain erection ; no more now. Kegel seems totally inactive today in comparaison.
- Erections are never 100%. At best the penis is horizontal and precum comes very fast and destroy the erection which fade away very fast. Kegel doesn't help, penis can't erect more, as blocking.
- Precum leaks every day, without reason and without any erection (i don't have spontaneous erection since my problem appeared, or very few recently, and not 100%, and only half morning wood sometimes, more recently, with nofap). Precum leak appears with no reason, i feel a quick contraction and precum appears.
- Genitals globaly feel like if i was on cold shower, everything retracted and refracted, with sometimes precum leak.

- All the symptoms of penis/scrotum tightness are much worse after peeing/pooping. It's easier for me to pee being sit, because kegel doesn't work well, and to finish the pee i push on the perineal region with my hand (not an obligation, but it feels more effective......)

+ All the symptoms of tightness are less present when : i take very hot shower, when i'm on my bed not standing up, in calm or semi asleep.

- But numbness is always present

- I met a girl recently and she comes to my house on monday... I know i'm not ready but i can't live without seduction, i need this even if i know it will end badly. My issue is still here and i know i won't be able to be happy as i could.

It's really sad guys, but i'm still alive and i will fight, and i need your help to keep me on the road to recovery...

[SoraSora Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SoraSora]

Thank you very much for your replies guys. It helps me a lot not feeling alone with this horrible problem i have since so long years (i don't even know how i made to support this so long....).

I want to be more precise if it can help you to give me more advises...
I really need your help guys, i feel so bad currently...

The evolution of my case (psycho + physio) :
- UNTIL 18yo : everything fine
- 18 TO 22yo : little depressed and anxious personality, not much social relations => more masturbations with porn to feel better, but absolutely no sexual issue.
- 22yo internet at home = a lot more masturbations (even without real desire) just to calm anxiety and more hardcore porn. + more parties with alcohol and smoke (tabacco), more tired (still high anxiety) => 1ST SYMPTOM appeared during this periode : numb penis with loss of sensitivity. Glans less sensitive and hard to fill. Less erections.
- 23yo Very anxious with this situation, i stoped masturbation during few week and sensitivity reappeared one day with a good erection. I fapped 2 times this precise day. The second was just after the first and i forced it by forcing kegel to maintain blood flow. When i ejaculated, my penis was small, erect but in an hard flaccid state if that makes sens... As if it was not really ready to ejaculate again. As if i forced the refractory period..... my balls were very high (inguinal position). I felt that something went wrong when i noticed my balls didn't return low and were not hanging as usual after a fap. It was like a cramp was maintaining them high and with a tight scrotum. I went to pee and i felt the numbness of penis was back, but this time with numb balls and always tight scrotum. No more pleasure when touching my dick or my balls, when i want to touch them they shrivel.

- Had a girlfriend from 25yo during 7yo (i don't know how....). Bad erections, few sex with her. No improvement, total failure => felt very bad. No medical help (all tests didn't find the problem). I felt totally lost (no possibility to be happy, to feel normal sexual sensations as i did, to really satisfy a girl, to project myself in a future). As a consequence, i developped panic attacks during 6months and saw a psychiatrist. No more panic attacks after 6months but no improvement for my genital issue (it was 8 years ago)

- November 2018, i heard about nofap theory.

- Today : So i didn't fap (no masturbation, no porn, no sex) since 8months now. No major improvement, maybe a lot more morning wood (but not 100%, maybe 50-60%), and sometimes very few spontaneous beginning of erection but still numb, tight and "crampy" testicles (mostly the right one), never loose.


CURRENT SYMPTOMS AND SITUATION :
- Nofap since 8 months (no porn, no masturbation, no ejaculation)
- Numb genitals (penis + testicles-scrotum)
- Penis and scrotum always tight, i don't feel them loose and hanging like before. All the genital region looks and feels like it is stucked in refractory period, as if i was just ejaculating, while i didn't since 8 months !!!! The region feels empty of blood and dead. Even the colour of glans is not as before (now it is white when flaccid or purple when semi erect, while it was pink before). The glans is not spongy as before, it is more firm and not doesn't look healthy. I feel like kegel doesn't work as it was used to. Now the penis and testicles don't move when i kegel. Before when i kegeled, i felt the penis and the testicles moving (up), i could even feel the glans filling with blood and being able to maintain erection ; no more now. Kegel seems totally inactive today in comparaison.
- Erections are never 100%. At best the penis is horizontal and precum comes very fast and destroy the erection which fade away very fast. Kegel doesn't help, penis can't erect more, as blocking.
- Precum leaks every day, without reason and without any erection (i don't have spontaneous erection since my problem appeared, or very few recently, and not 100%, and only half morning wood sometimes, more recently, with nofap). Precum leak appears with no reason, i feel a quick contraction and precum appears.
- Genitals globaly feel like if i was on cold shower, everything retracted and refracted, with sometimes precum leak.

- All the symptoms of penis/scrotum tightness are much worse after peeing/pooping. It's easier for me to pee being sit, because kegel doesn't work well, and to finish the pee i push on the perineal region with my hand (not an obligation, but it feels more effective......)

+ All the symptoms of tightness are less present when : i take very hot shower, when i'm on my bed not standing up, in calm or semi asleep.

- But numbness is always present

- I met a girl recently and she comes to my house on monday... I know i'm not ready but i can't live without seduction, i need this even if i know it will end badly. My issue is still here and i know i won't be able to be happy as i could.

It's really sad guys, but i'm still alive and i will fight, and i need your help to keep me on the road to recovery...

I'm not sure why you've posted all this. Just read the post I gave you, that's likely the solution to the majority of the problems you're facing. I've faced them too, and that's how I recovered.

[Frenchboy76 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frenchboy76]

If you want my own feeling and interpretation, i would say that it is not psycho. I'd say the anxiety worsen the problem but is not the first and main issue.
I have always been an anxious guy, very anxious even when i was in highschool near 17-18yo, and i never had such problems, everything worked perfectly.
It really seems to me as if i overmasturbated. I couldn't stop and i could feel the penis and testicles being overused. But i continued with more hard porn. The 1st penile numbness happened few time after i had internet (with Sega Dreamcast), and all the porn i wanted. AT THIS TIME I WAS NOT ESPECIALLY ANXIOUS OR MORE THAN BEFORE. The true change in my life was this access to infinite porn, source of more easy ejeculations.
Proof is that when i stopped masturbation during few weeks, sensations came back. But my mistake was to think that time could heal everything. So i did masturbate twice and then i think i worsened the already overused genitals.
My current problem is that time doesn't solve the issue it previously solved, as if i was stucked in perpetual refractory period.
Yes i had panic attacks, but how do you want not to be panicking when you can't access sexual pleasure during so much years ????
And panic attacks or not panic attacks, genitals symptoms are the same !! Whatever is my mental state, genitals are the same with the same issues....
When i was with my girlfriend (even wife guys, i was married), i had very very good times, i was loved, i felt fine with my life situation, but NO DIFFERENCE AT ALL WITH GENITALS...
If the issue was mainly mental, why is there no fluctuation in my sexual sensations, when it's mentaly better ?? Why is it the same when i had very good moment (not sexual) with my wife, and when i had panic attacks ?? Things should have worsened during panics attacks no ?
I'm so confused...
I just wanted to share my own interpretation, even if it diesn't give any solution...