On the 7th of December I'll be living with my parents for a little over a month for Christmas holidays. I could try NoFap then by it bringing any lube home with me, but then that's an issue because if the urges are too strong I'll end up masturbating dry.Quote:
Originally Posted by ThatGuy34
Are you sure you're experiencing blue balls and not pelvic pain? Do you get morning wood and spontaneous erections? I suppose today I will read this whole thread. How exactly did you train your PF to not want to ejac?
This experience was nearly 2 months ago, but I am sure it was blueballs because the feeling stopped after I decided to ejaculate.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay1983
I get morning wood. Haven't had spontaneous erections In like 4+ years.
I did 2 periods where I was doing way too many erect kegels and 0 work to keep the PF relaxed. I can't remember how long these periods were.
I don't think I ever really learned how to masturbate properly. When not using lube I just keep stroking even while I'm ejaculating. So when I do use lube my glans is far too sensitive when I'm near PONR, so if I keep stroking it it becomes too sensitive in a bad way and doesn't feel good, but if I focus on the shaft I don't feel much at all with lube because my shaft is conditioned to dry stimulation.
I'm assuming you also get involuntary kegel spasms during stimulus? Have HF symptoms? You need to keep up with the stretches and rewire with lube. No death grip. I always fapped dry growing up, light grip rubbing the shaft and corona, while kegeling. It can be reversed. Use porn if you want, just don't abuse it. Relax bro. Stroke fast in the beginning if you have to, to transition, just don't forget the end goal, mimic real sex.
Yes but they're nothing like how they used to be. They used to be insanely strong like 1000% strong IK's that would last less than a second each and happen in a series. Now it's like my pelvic floor just pulls into a weak IK, holds it while I stroke down and then becomes an even weaker IK when I stroke upwards.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay1983
Can I reverse any of the damage I've caused my penis? I think it's really desensitized on the shaft given that I've done 6 years of mostly dry masturbation. It normally takes me at least 20 minutes to ejaculate now. And I don't feel much sensation for most of that time. Like the first minute or so feels good, and then the sensation reduces a lot, and then starts to come back a bit, and then I ejaculate with no orgasm.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay1983
Some people claim that moisturizing the penis helps, but I don't know.
And I really hate myself for this, it's all my fault.
It'll come back, you just gotta leave it alone and give it time. It's not only physical but it's also mental.
I go back to my parents place for a month or so starting nest week. If I get a natural urge to masturbate before I go, should I - a) thrust into a fleshlight; b) use a fleshlight but move it along myself as if masturbating; c) masturbate slowly with lube; d) not masturbate at all?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay1983
And when I go, should I bring lube with me or not? Because if I don't, that should act as a deterrent to stop me from masturbating because I wouldn't be able to do it healthily BUT if I cannot resist an urge then I'd relapse into an unhealthy way of masturbating again.
Fleshlight, lube, shove it under your mattress and thrust into it. No more fapping, since fapping is what you're wanting to stop.
Okay. And what about when I am at my parents house for the month or so over the holidays? Abstain? Or use lube? It's hard to stay in the moment back home because at my mum's house my brother is always shouting on the console downstairs which makes lots of noise, and at dad's house I can only ever masturbate in the bathroom because me and my brothers share a room there :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay1983