Hard Flaccid - girlfriend and abstaining

[mikecares Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mikecares]

So, how long until my girlfriend dumps me for abstinence? Serious question lol.

I plan on not masturbating or having sex until all symptoms subside and I get 100% quality erection. I feel like most people still have problems because they keep jerking it and having sex and keep "testing" to see if it works. I don't plan on making this mistake.

Really sucks from using a 7 by 5.5 inch penis daily and giving my girl 3 orgasms a session to having a dysfunctional dick. Whats your guys experiences with girlfriends and hard flaccid?

[aceshigh1 Member Find all posts View Profile Close aceshigh1]

I wanted to know same thing tbh. If I keep doing tre, yoga and stretching how long it will take if I lead a normal sex life with my girlfriend. If I do these practises enough I would love to know if ejaculation seven or eight times a week would overpower my healing or not

[aceshigh1 Member Find all posts View Profile Close aceshigh1]

Keep is positive though mate, i hope you make a full recovery

[Thatbdd Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thatbdd]

So, how long until my girlfriend dumps me for abstinence? Serious question lol.

I plan on not masturbating or having sex until all symptoms subside and I get 100% quality erection. I feel like most people still have problems because they keep jerking it and having sex and keep "testing" to see if it works. I don't plan on making this mistake.

Really sucks from using a 7 by 5.5 inch penis daily and giving my girl 3 orgasms a session to having a dysfunctional dick. Whats your guys experiences with girlfriends and hard flaccid?

I'm in the same boat. I dont know what kind of excuse I can come up with. Been battling this exact thing and what to do for several months now. There will undoubtably Be pressure coming from her, and even if she's ok with it there will still be tension in the air. And ive been with mine for almost 8 years, and already kinda had a slip up with her a couple months ago the last time I tried abstaining.

I mean I can just keep going down on her and using fingers and stuff but eventually shes gonna grab at me.

Ive been thinking of running away

[Thatbdd Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thatbdd]

I also think that this exact thing is part of the fear that keeps this stupid vicious cycle going

[mikecares Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mikecares]

I also think that this exact thing is part of the fear that keeps this stupid vicious cycle going

Well good news is I told my gf and she understands. I had big massive throbbing errections when we were hooking up tonight --> the glands appeared to fill up as well...but this is from 2 weeks of abstinence and extreme horniness. WE used a vibrator and I made her cum like 4 times in an hour...you should grab one of those lol

[mikecares Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mikecares]

So you didn't abstain 100%? The thing is if she wants to end it with me, I will let her because I need to get back to 100% no matter what.

[mikecares Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mikecares]

I wanted to know same thing tbh. If I keep doing tre, yoga and stretching how long it will take if I lead a normal sex life with my girlfriend. If I do these practises enough I would love to know if ejaculation seven or eight times a week would overpower my healing or not

I think it would man. How long have you had it for and have you abstained 100%? I've had it for 1.5 weeks and haven't done shit. I hooked up with my girl tn and told her already about it and she understands. I have a vibrator and made her cum like 4 times. Orgasms were even stronger then with my bigger dick lol (vibrator was like 5 inches, I'm like 7)

[aceshigh1 Member Find all posts View Profile Close aceshigh1]

Damon I tried four weeks of nothing. Ejaculate last week and since then been pretty bad hard flaccid.had it about month and a half now.I am travelling atm so don't have chance to see girlfriend for another two months. Gonna try and stay abstinent till then. Thing is before I came out here I was giving her cervix services five times a day or so so that's what she will expect ha I think this was part of the cause

[Thatbdd Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thatbdd]

So you didn't abstain 100%? The thing is if she wants to end it with me, I will let her because I need to get back to 100% no matter what.

The longest I've abstain for was about 3 weeks. What's considered 100% ? And of course they say if you dont use it you lose it. So I mean what the hell are us hf guys to do? Abstain and risk "losing" it, or keep yourself getting erected so you dont atrophy? So many contradictions.

[mikecares Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mikecares]

The longest I've abstain for was about 3 weeks. What's considered 100% ? And of course they say if you dont use it you lose it. So I mean what the hell are us hf guys to do? Abstain and risk "losing" it, or keep yourself getting erected so you dont atrophy? So many contradictions.

By abstain, I don't mean 100% not sure using it. You should still try and get 2-3 erections a week. This is enough to maintain. Last night, I had throbbing erections for 20 minutes...seems to help with blood flow. I feel like ejaculating just restarts the whole healing process. and 100% means being back to what you were.

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Damon I tried four weeks of nothing. Ejaculate last week and since then been pretty bad hard flaccid.had it about month and a half now.I am travelling atm so don't have chance to see girlfriend for another two months. Gonna try and stay abstinent till then. Thing is before I came out here I was giving her cervix services five times a day or so so that's what she will expect ha I think this was part of the cause

You got your dick hard enough 5 times a week to have sex with hard flaccid? Doesn't seem like a huge problems lol

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Consider yourselves all slaped over the back of the head.

[m3232 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close m3232]

Ok guys, I think what you have is the same as me. After the initial injury your dick turtles to say leave me alone.
When you find you can get an erection dont prematurely analyse it.
I was out for 4 weeks.
Obviously everything voodoo says is correct but applies more so to very long term chronic cases.
Dont fuck around too muchwith your pelvic floor as its easier to make it worse than better. Yess relax it but trying to isolate muscles within it to exercise can be harmful because you do not know your problem.
Like everyone here my dick is one of, if not my best fuckin buddy.
The main problem I have seems to be a very weak feeling pc (general, the whole pump system is out of whack) muscle- I cant seems to pump blood into my dick like I could before just by thinking and flexing doesn't awaken that feeling of horniness. It actually feels like I just dont get horny anymore.
However.
If I am close and intimate with my partner I find that arousal does happen, i get an etection,its just that I have much less control when I do, and comes as a bit of a surprise, It is smaller than it was and im way premature on the cannons.
But thats good.
This is what you should be focused on (passively of course not obsessively)
I had a minor rupture of the superficial dorsal vein (false penile fracture) and was treated 'conservatively' by the doctor, meaning they did fuck all.
Remember your penis is not a muscle its a complex collection of tissues.
Anything that interferes with its pressure capacity will fuck with you butIit really is mostly in the head.
Your penis was not made for you to think about tits and get erect or whatever. It can feel like nerve damage because there is a lack of sensation but most people say that although libido is low and they cant get 'on demand' erections like they used to, if you start to arouse your partner, relax and get your fingers wet the trigger will happen.
On demand erections are not natural and not to be confused with spontaneous erections.
On demand erections are what most people look for in the cure of hf, its like hey if I do this, that doesn't happen.
The voluntary flex of the pc muscle is not there to give you an erection, it is to piss and shit. You can learn to control it again with very light, half kegals,(half kegals also activate reverse kegal muscles. It won't fill your dick up like it did pre injury but dont make that the focus. The focus is very gentley getting control and power back into that muscle.
Chill out, enjoy and use the intimate erections you can get. Be gentle, dont try to be a marathon man, (which will be hard anyway because your dick is weak!
Forget what your dick was before.
With pe we have increased the volume of the penis. Injury stops the penis from reaching that volume.
Dont think about how your dick was before injury, think about before you began pe.
Its easy to forget how much pe transformed your dick and an injury takes you back to that point and not to before the injury.
Its not a muscle its tissue.
When I think back to before I started pe I had hard flaccid and turtling sometimes Anyway. I Hadnt heard of hard flaccid and it didn't make me anxious in the slightest. I had less control of ny erection and much lower libido.
All the stuff voodoo and othets prescribe is good but it can make it sound a little like the only cure is yoga nidra, re and tre, sspecial suppliments and smoothies.they are practices that allow your body to relax into acception of your situation.
You can just basically accept this stuff anyway.
Tell your partner you injured your dick for a start.

[m3232 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close m3232]

Something else to consider and understand is what you have come to expect from your dick.
While I don't consider myself a 'wanker' I would probably say I would bash one out maybe one a day maybe a little less or more or have sex prior to injury.
Most of the wanking most guys do is not actually to achieve the necessary primal release every boy discovers in his youth how you would feel if you didn't wank for 3 week.
Most wanking is out of boredom ir different levels of porn abuse and addiction. This kind of erection is not primal and nor is the ejaculation. It is the result of having conditioned yourself to 'on demand erections' rather than your body gets one and releases when it needs to.

'CANT GET SPONTANIOUS ERECTION' is an oxymoron.
Like:
DONT TALK ABOUT CHRISTMAS.

Dont think that your penis doesn't work and you need to 'fix it'
Think, my penis is functioning differently to how it did before nearly pulled it of/exploded it/trapped it in a car door while dogging. (Delete as appropriate))

Hard flaccid is two words that have become a self fulfilling prophecy for too many guys.
Stop it.
It's basically all anxiety