Can't get a proper erection after only a day of newbie routine..?

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Hello guys, sorry I didn't introduce myself in the Presentation Board. I'm worried because it's been 2 days since I tried the newbie routine and I can't seem to get erect anymore at the moment. I can still get erect (requires me some time, stimulation and porn) but can't mantain the erection for long.

I'm 23, I did try PE at 20 I think, when I felt a bit depressed, but I never had more than a two days of training. My actual girlfriend has been with bigger guys, and she innocently complained (jokes and comparisons outside the bed) more than a time about my penis size. So I felt depressed and tried to improve it... I came back to PE.

Two days ago, under the hot shower, I did some light stretches and some 2/3 jelqs. I'm confident about doing everything the right way. I didn't feel pain, I actually didn't even put effort into it, I was so gentle I thought "boy, this is not going to get me anywhere..."

Under the shower, everything went fine. I even got some erections while jelqing - I immediately stopped and waited for my penis to return flaccid before continuing. I think I did max 30, maybe 40 jelqs and just 2 minutes of stretches.

It's been since that shower that I stopped having erections, I don't even get the morning wood. I tried to masturbate two times, I succeeded but I lost my rock hard erection and it even hurt a bit when ejaculating - my penis also returned flaccid within seconds after finishing. Size is unchanged, I don't feel numb or sore, the guy just won't stand up. Since then, I need to urinate more often. When touching it, I feel some light pain on the left side, in the point between the base and the scrotum, which makes me think about a bad stretch in that direction took under the shower... Alright guys.
I'm worried. I am pretty sure at this point that the problem is physical and not mental, because yes it's true that I'm down (literally), but I should at least get the morning wood, shouldn't I? I'm just thinking about the problem, I mean, can just half a newbie routine mess you up this bad? Is human body really this fragile? I think the stress my penis felt could've been from a situation outside PE for instance, is it? If it's a nerve issue, will this injury ever heal? Is it permanent? I'm scared to have messed up big time... Big time.

Thanks for reading
Francesco

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A case of overtraining. Newbies are advised to monitor physiological indicators and erectioin quality. In the event there is dergredation in EQ or negative PI's, then that's the feedback you use to decrease your PE activities.
Rest for a few more days, no masturbation, meanwhile read and research. PE involves trial and error, self correction.You will recover, just allow time.

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A case of overtraining. Newbies are advised to monitor physiological indicators and erectioin quality. In the event there is dergredation in EQ or negative PI's, then that's the feedback you use to decrease your PE activities.
Rest for a few more days, no masturbation, meanwhile read and research. PE involves trial and error, self correction.You will recover, just allow time.

Thank you very much for your reply! I spoke with my girlfriend about the lack of erection, I had to tell someone. I will later tell on how I actually did the damage and why, I'm sure she will understand how much size is important for us and why it is not important to make jokes about it. Anyway, I'm feeling a lot better, motivationally speaking. I'm positive things will return back to normal, I will update my condition in the next days. Again, thanks a lot!

Francesco

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An update: this morning, half of the good ol' morning wood was back. More like a 90%, but that was okay. I went to a doctor (generic doctor) and he said that stuff like this can actually happen in men even for more days... Maybe the body is just telling you that he's tired. Still no erection during the day. I tried to watch some porn, I got to 75% but can't mantain it. I'm still a bit depressed about that size thing, I get to see my gf next week, hope the guy down there decides to show up. Anyway, not really sure if it's a psycologic at this point... I'll let you know

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Never jelq or PE under the shower, it has shown in various cases here on PEGym and elsewhere jelqing under the shower caused injuries for reasons not known. Let your penis rest, do not touch it for a couple of days. Always do a proper hot wascloth warming up treatment for 10 minutes before and after exercises. Abstain from porn fully, porn desensitizes the part of your brain which is responsible for giving you an erection. You will heal, don't worry. Just take rest, and do not masturbate or watch porn, and be safe next time you do PE. Perhaps do some physical exercises like bicycling or jogging, to improve blood flow to your genitals to hasten healing. The morning wood is an early indicator you are healing, everything will be fine. Good luck!

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Hello guys, I'm updating my condition as of day 4.

-Occasional morning wood, not 100%
-Pain from stretch (see first post). I kind of take it as a good thing because I didn't feel pain yesterday.
-Pain in the bladder - this one bugs me, because it seems unrelated
-Total lack of libido/sexual desire
-can't mantain the erection in the rare occasions I'm getting


Actions I'm taking:

-taking long walks, jogging, and some exercises (not pe)
-stopped smoking
-eating healthy, lots of fruit


My questions/worries so far:

I can't tell if I'm improving. I'm positive that I can't get an erection because I'm obsessed with the matter and I can't get excited. I'll have to wait my partner to come back from her holiday I guess. Anyway - the problem is: when I get an erection, I can't "trap" the blood by doing kegels. It just goes back to 50%. I don't think I caused a venous leak or that scary stuff. I just think my body needs to recover and refuses to get an erection. And that's okay. Also, my lack of libido should be totally unrelated with he injury. I *should* be able to think about sex even if I'm injuried, shouldn't I? Do you think (honestly) that I'm just obsessed by the fact that I have this injury, combined with my depression of inferiority complex and can't achieve an erection because of that? Because actually, having inferiority complex can turn you on. But it I'm just worried and obsessed by the matter now. Could be that my mind is blocking the erection and my penis is actually fine?

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Your mind plays a huge role in your erections, so definitly yes it plays a role psychologically because you are too caught up on it. Did you think of taking L-Arginine together with L-Citrulline for example to improve blood flow to hasten recovery? You should do some research on that.

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1 week off. My dick is back with a vengeance.

I still feel a bit of stretch pain but it's going to recover, no doubt on it. Depression fucked things up for good anyway. If I learned something those days:


- Warm up is the most important thing to prevent injury. I feel like this wasn't disclosed enough in the site and that's why I'm here on the forums in the first place. Not trying to blame PEGym, just saying a newbie starts from the site and doesn't go to the forum straight

- It's incredible how anxiety about the matter and depression can totally shatter your boner. You won't believe it when reading it, I guess you have to find yourself in the situation, dealing with the fact that you screwed up (and maybe you didn't, it's just you thinking that over self diagnosis or reading other stuff here in the forum). I feel like if I didn't recover mentally from it I would've stayed like that for a good while



How I dealt with my injury
I'm writing this little paragraph just in case someone ends up here with a similar problem.

If you're scared about not having any erection anymore, you are not going to have any. I can't stress it enough: I couldn't believe it was my mind. I just sat there thinking about things that usually turn me on saying "Snake? Do you hear me? Snake! SNAAAAAKE!!" convincing myself that I had no problem whatsoever. You can fake thinking but your anxiety stays and interferes with the matter. You think you can't turn yourself on because the matter is physical (when maybe - in my case - it is not, it's actually psycological) and your body doesn't start the erection because you are stressed. Your body plays a huge role in this, guys. And your brain controls your body. When the problem becomes an obsession and it becomes part of you, you can't just shake it off from your brain. So it becomes automatic for your body to not turn you on. I were in the situation and thought "Yeah whatever, bullsh*t, I can turn me on if I strongly think about it." I couldn't. So if you find yourself in a similar situation and you happen to read this, here's how I dealt with it:

- I had to talk with someone. First I went to the doc. He said "Don't worry, it happens to everyone at some point. Don't stress yourself about it." "But doc, I feel pain" "It's normal, because you feel numb and the muscles don't work. Give it some rest."
Guess what, he was right. I actually overstretched myself but the injury itself was not that bad to prevent my erections for weeks. The real problem with it was my obsession, I thought I f*cked myself up for good, and that blocked my libido completely.
I spoke with my mom. I told her everything, leaving the fact that I tried to enlarge my unit. That was helpful. Speak with someone you trust. Someone you really, really trust, and can understand you. That is really important.
Then I text'd my girlfriend, which was on vacation. She laughed at first (lol, b!tch) and did not make a big deal out of it. But then she understood the problem was overwhelming for me, that was really my priority in life. I told her about my complex, about how I felt inferior to her ex partners. She told me to fuck off, because she never felt so good with someone under the bed. And then we started to talk dirty for a good hour. That turned me on after 5 days, and that's when my recovery really started. After I realized I could achieve an erection to rock hard and make it rock hard without the blood leaking out I had the confirmation that the problem was all in my mind. As of two days later, everything seems to be back to normal.

- Walk. Take long walks. Put on airplane mode your phone, plug in your earphones and take a good long walk. Listen to your favourite music, and think about yourself. It's good to open up with others, but it's just as important as open up with yourself. If you feel motivated, run - that's even better. I felt like those days all I really needed was a smile and a challenge to overcome for myself. I needed a 5vs5 at soccer, a game of basketball with my friends like the old times, something that made me sweat and alive, with the heart racing while you're on your knees catching breath. I really needed it.

- Read. But be aware.
You can read about similar problems BUT. BUT. Always remember - My body is different than yours, in a lot of ways. Some people die from car accidents at 35 mph, others survive crashing a truck on the highway. You can't read about venous leak and say "Boy, I got all the syntoms, I'm done for." That's just plain wrong, to self diagnosis on the internet. Remember that if you google your headache cause you may be leading up to cancer, the same goes for penis, with the only difference that you might be afraid to talk about it with someone. So don't stress yourself too much about it - I know it's difficult but you have to try it. Read informative articles without freaking out - go see a doctor if you think there's no help for it.

- Stay positive.
This is the most difficult part. Reading about it will be hard, and dealing with it will be harder. But if I did it, no f*cking way you're not going to.


Thanks for all the support, PEGym members. You guys learned how to rock and not to roll.

Francesco

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Never jelq or PE under the shower, it has shown in various cases here on PEGym and elsewhere jelqing under the shower caused injuries for reasons not known.

A sizable number of trainees have also mentioned feeling lightheaded after jelqing in the shower. it's been mentioned often enough to merit concern about this particular practice.