The HANS Protocol
Hardflaccid And Neuromuscular Syndromes
My way of treating hard flaccid and pelvic floor dysfunction.
-For those with a little tension all the way to those who have full blown hard flaccid.
-This can also be helpful in treating Premature Ejaculation
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Reviews and Success Stories:
"Your protocol is a game changer. I'm currently using it. Thx"
-Capalus
"For anybody who starts treating hard flaccid now know that there is hope, the exercises from this thread helped me to fix my own hard flaccid"
-lx187
"Thank you so much for this thread btw"
-A Weekend
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2/13/2017
READ THIS FIRST!!!
THREAD INSTRUCTIONS:
The reason this thread may seem disorganized is because this thread was originally a progress log when I had hard flaccid and pelvic pain (see date above my name) and I would like to keep it that way so you guys can see the progress I had made over time and that is why the info you need is spread out among the first 3 pages. As will be mentioned later in this thread, read through the whole thing, the exercises (stretches, yoga, and other tips) are in either brown or red on the log. This is only three pages compared to the other hard flaccid thread that was almost 400 pages. Take notes and get committed to a routine. I am happy to help but, I can only help those who help themselves, and that is also a life motto of mine. I spent many hours writing this and went through a lot of pain and psychological hell for this thread to exist and it's important that you please take the time to read everything and do the work. I am happy to answer questions about the thread or if you are struggling to fully understand something but as previously mentioned, give it a glance or two.
Thanks.
Disclaimer:
If you think you have an actual PF dysfunction. I suggest that you pursue a PT if you can. Although I feel everyone has the right to read this, this is primarily intended for those either living in a country where PF physical therapy is inaccessible or for people who can't afford the treatment. I will not disclose who I got this therapy from for privacy purposes so please don't ask.
Thanks and happy squatting!
Table of contents:
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Signs of a pelvic floor dysfunction:
Frequent urination
uncomfortable sitting
painful urination
urinary retention
sore perineum
sore rectum
straining to defecate (which may seem like constipation) or flatulate (NEVER STRAIN IF YOU ARE CONSTIPATED (or ever, tbh)!!! This can result in nerve damage, take stool softeners!!!)
pains in penis, testicles (dull ache), and urethra (usually burning or stinging)
pelvic pain (pains in crotch) could be pins and needles, burning
Erectile dysfunction
Premature Ejaculation
hyper contracted genitals (hard flaccid)
pain around thighs, buttocks, hip (usually from sitting)
tension in lower abdominals ("sucking in")
lower back pains
Severe depression, stress, and anxiety
fatigue which may come in bouts
symptoms alleviated upon awakening in the morning
symptoms worsening throughout the day
due to the muscle tension, you may have trigger points that can cause referred pain due to the nerves and spinal cord.
numbness, most likely due to tension on the nerves (possibly the pudental nerve)
Definitions
EQ- erection quality, how good your erections are
ED-erectile dysfunction, (low EQ) doesn't just apply to old people, can define weak erections or inability to maintain erections without constant stimulation. This is usually the result of over masturbation
PF-pelvic floor
PC muscle-Pubococcygeus muscle
BC muscle-Bulbospongiosus muscle
IC muscle-Ischiocavernosus muscle
Levator Ani muscle-Levator ani
K- kegel
Rk- reverse kegel
IK- involuntary kegel
Pre E-premature ejaculation
PE- penis enlargement or premature ejaculation (depends on context)
Edging- a method of stamina training to make you last longer in bed
HF- an internet-based term that is completely alien to the medical field as is pf dysfunction. It happens when the penis and scrotum become hyper contracted due to a restriction of blood flow to the penis, causing erectile dysfunction. Common causes include exercise and severe anxiety. Chronic Hard Flaccid is the problem people face where the genitals remain in a hyper contracted state. Common causes are pf tension, severe anxiety, stress, depression etc that is consistent and doesn't go away. The people who have this are usually tense, anxious, an worst of all, completely unaware that their psyche might be responsible for most of it.
more to come.
Despite my hard flaccid being cured I was still suffering from CPPS or at least something of similar nature. My urologist said it was most likely a pelvic floor injury due to the excessive amount of kegeling I had been doing from years of masturbation and intentional kegeling. My main problems now involve straining with bowels and pain in the genitals.
I decided to make this thread because there are still some people suffering from HF and there is a minuscule amount of phys therapy threads on this forum. I will try to update as much as possible and discuss what actions have been taken.
Feel free to ask me any questions regarding therapy, I will do my best to answer.
EDIT 1/2/2017:
I have decided to bold all the important info so you don't have to look through everything. My pleasure
Be on the lookout for more updates as I am trying to be as specific as possible and include as much info as possible.
♂-indicates updated info,
You may want to reread the thread in case you missed some of them because they will be removed as time goes by to keep things more orderly.
THINGS TO REMEMBER:
1)The 3 most important exercises should only be seen as "fillers". i.e. do them when you have free time.
Do the belly breath combos whenever you can throughout the day.
2)The rest of the yoga and stretching should be done at least once a day.
Note that this is bare minimum. What I've come to learn is, the more the merrier. I recommend atleast 2-3 times a day. BUT.... 5 is better than 3... just saying.
3)You don't have to abstain from sexual activity but you may if you think it will help. You should masturbate no more than 4 times per week.
When you masturbate or have sex, do some squatting afterwards.
4)Obviously, NO KEGELS or PE while you have an overractive pelvic floor.
5)I have found porn to be more harmful than helpful. DO NOT use it for edging as it is a distraction from focusing on keeping things relaxed, and it desensitizes your dopamine receptors and also causes PreE, ED and Performance Anxiety.
Please watch this informational video on Porn Addiction. (Thanks Big Al)
6)I would reccomend against any heavy lifting, as this can cause tension.
7)If you are NOT SEEING IMPROVEMENTS in your PF, then you may have to change things up. Reduce other exercises and sexual activity, do more belly breath combo or squatting etc.
8) Once you have found relief, DO NOT STOP. You must maintain your relief by continuing with whatever you were doing to make it this far in the first place. You run the risk of the tension returning.
9)Although most of this applies to the individuals with hard flaccid/CPPS/PF dysfunction, it can still benefit the one who just have a little tension (like maybe you just have a few bad PF habits that need to be cut out) as the situation usually varies from person to person. You may not need to do everything, but it has helped me so hopefully it will help you as well.
10) Keep your stress and anxiety levels under control because it will aggravate the condition. Self Awareness is key here. It's easy to repress stress and therefore become unaware of it.
11)Just because your doctor is confused doesn't mean he is an idiot, if he suggests counseling and he is the 8th doctor you've seen, see the counselor.
12) Feel free to add other poses if you wish (you really should). Just make sure to do them correctly and time your implemented belly breath combos correctly.
Some of these poses include:
1) child's pose
2)reclined butterfly
3) downward dog pose
(thanks Pegasus)
13) I suggest doing the stretches and yoga on a bed of some sort, i get a much better stretch on a cushioned surface.
14) It is possible to over stretch the pf muscles, if you feel some soreness in your muscles after the hindi, do less next time. You don't want soreness. (thanks Pegasus)
15) A lot of soreness you have in your perineum can be eliminated via tennis ball massage.
*16) Start the stretching 3 weeks after the first day you think you strained a PF muscle, this ensures that the strained muscle has healed.
Make sure to look through the whole thread to get all the exercies to do, I am not putting them here because I want you to read through everything. Everything is important.
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BAD PF HABITS
I am also going to address some bad PF habits that may apply to you if you have an overactive pelvic floor and need to be cut out.
1) kegeling to get the last drops of urine out-do rks after urination, requires LOTS of focus
2)constant kegeling while engaging in any form of sexual activity--this can causes Pre Ejaculation and a sore perineum. Again, do belly breath combos (breathing reverse kegel) while edging, traditional masturbation, or sex. You don't have to be perfect, but if your muscles get sore then you are over doing it.
I've noticed that it's better to treat these with the Isolated Reverse Kegel mentioned lower (advanced).
3)omitted
4) kegeling when laying down on stomach-this is most likely caused by TMS (yourbrainonporn.com) and/or #2, do (cobra pose) with belly breath combos
5)kegeling when leaning forward-may be caused by pressure on the perineum, belly breath combos when leaning forward...keep doing the yoga
6) Catching your rectum or any of your pf muscles tensing and having to consciously relax them- This is the primary bad habit of a PF dysfunction, it is a clear indication that you need to start on the yoga and rks. The tense rectum might be levator ani syndrome.
The term used to describe what you are doing in each of these is called an Involuntary Kegel or IK. It's a very common habit that forms when one learns about contracting his PC muscles consciously or maybe even subconsciously. These kegels can be either a light contraction/spasm all the way to a hard clench depending on your habits. Mine used to be clenches. These need to be cut out ASAP to ensure a balanced (healthy) pelvic floor.
Belly breath combos=very important
Lots of focus, consistency, and motivation is required to break these habits.
Understand that there is a various degree of tension involved with the IKs. There's a simple spasm, and there's a clench. Technically speaking, a kegel is a clench, and a light kegel is a spasm. Although both are bad, spasms aren't necessarily harmful per se. To put this into perspective, a spasm can happen during sex, but even if it's causing Pre E, it's not actually hurting the individual. If the individual is actually clenching and even holding the clench, he will end up with the sore perineum. This is where it gets harmful.
Note: some light spasm are normal (bulbocavernosus reflex)
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FOCUS
It is very important to maintain a large degree of focus when doing all of this. Think of it like this, you are simply "telling/reminding" your pelvic floor to relax because it thinks it is supposed to tense. This means that your are going to have to catch yourself tensing up in your everyday life and do some belly breath combos to "remind" your pelvic floor to relax. If you're driving, do the belly breath combos, if your sitting down at your job, belly breath combos.
It is also important to make this become a routine so you can get into a habit, which is what PF dysfunction is, a bad habit,or better yet, a series of bad habits.
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MY STORY (HF Theory)
I get a lot of questions on how I cured my hard flaccid and to be quite honest the answer is....
Nothing. That's right, I did absolutely nothing. It went away after 2 weeks of me just trying to get by and move on with my life. It's hard to say why it turned out this way, but I have three theories.
I am almost certain that I strained a BC/PC muscle in my pelvic floor due to penile stretching while kegel clenching because my PF was overractive in that sense. (see "tug of war theory" in the pink section) In my opinion, i think it's best to make sure that when you do PE, you only kegel when required, like if your actually trying to engorge the penis because it's needed for a certain exercise such as clamping. Keep everything relaxed while you do your exercises (with a balanced pelvic floor, of course).
After the hard flaccid went away I had an actual cramping feeling in my perineum that eventually went away as well, I did some external massaging. So, onto the theories:
1) Due to the strain, blood flow was restricted to the penis because as we all should know, the PF has control on penile blood flow.
2)When a man is under severe psychological anxiety and worry, this restricts blood flow as well and causes a hard flaccid because again, the restriction of blood flow.
3) (most likely cause) It was BOTH. The anxiety along with the tense PF cause an EXTREME restriction of blood flow, causing the HF.
Hopefully this helps explain things better, if you have questions, PM me.
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POSTURE
Make sure to keep good posture when sitting down and standing. If you notice when you sit up straight, it's much easier to keep a relaxed pelvic floor. When sitting, keep your feet flat on the floor, chair scooted up to the desk and keep your back straight. Tailbone also needs to be close to the back.
You may want to consider seeing a PT/Chiropractor to make sure that your hips are aligned properly. This can cause PF issues. Review the links below and you will see that there seems to be a correlation between having slouched postures and PF tension. Note that correlation doesn't mean causation however.
I will bold the posture stuff in this thread brown.
Another aspect of posture that I want to point out is pelvic tilts, primarily the
Anterior Pelvic Tilt. There appears to be a positive correlation between anterior pelvic tilt and there is a lot of research on this for me to post info about it here.
here is a link explaining this: Wait, What? Kegels DON’T Work? | It's All In How You Move. (thanks Helloboy)
here is another thread also explaining the correlation of bad posture and PF problems: (thanks Epoh)
♂Prolonged Sitting is NOT your Friend
Studies have shown (ok, this is hearsay but it is still important) that it is bad for your health to sit down for more than 30 mins at a time, especially for your pelvic floor and prostate. With sedentary lifestyles these days, postural and pelvic floor issues are on the rise, so it is in my best interest to advise you guys on some healthy habits to combat these issues that may arise. What I am about to discuss will be a pain in the prostate to do routine wise, but it will be very healthy ,especially if you have CPPS.
The HANS RK-Posture Supersets
So the idea is that this will incorporate the avoidance of sitting with doing postural work and Reverse Kegels. It's nothing special but just a little recommendation I have come up with with the help of physios.
1) Set a timer for 30 mins and continue work at your desk
2) When 30 mins is up, spend about 5 mins (use the timer if you want) to do some posture work, I recommend wall angels and upper back stretches, if you have APT then you can do some stretching for that as well, whatever is best for yourself, but it has to be something to keep the posture good
3) now, you will sit in a different position this time.
positions include (you will probably end up doing all of these if you must sit for several hours:
-sitting at the edge of the chair (maybe on a pillow if hard surfaces cause pain
-sitting with a pillow behind your back
-kneeling with a cusion of some sort under your knees
-standing desk
4) Do RKs (the amount of RKs you do will depend on conditioning, but I recommend doing them sitting if sitting causes tension.. you can end up doing more during the 30 if necessary)
5) Set timer for 30 mins and rinse and repeat
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Tennis ball massage (external massage)
There is no correct way to do the tennis ball massage. The only correct way is whatever gives you a good massage. The way I do it is i sit down on carpet, and I put my legs out and keep them slightly bent like I'm sitting in a bathtub. I place the tennis ball under my perineum and use my arms to lift my body over it and move upper body around over the tennis ball. I recommend starting with no more than 60 seconds as to much may be excessive. You should feel an alleviation of your symptoms.
Another variation is to put your legs up any way you see comfortable (wall happy baby or your just lay on the floor and prop your knees up on something and let your legs dangle) and just role the tennis ball around your perineum.
Fingers
You may also simply use your two fingers and just feel around for tenderness and massage. I massage vigorously and can get instant alleviation however I don't recommend you start off like that. (Start off gently, especially if it is shortly after a muscle strain)
Another good idea is to massage while erect so there is less skin (thanksDrjohn)
These massages are great for BC muscle injury, but can also be done anywhere on the perineum as well, if you have cramping in the muscle like I did.
NOTE:
This is for temporary relief only, rest and retraining of the muscles is paramount for a cure.
Here is a thread for massaging for trigger points in the genitals (Thanks whatsthestory)
♂Internal Massage
For internal massage, you can use a therawand or just your fingers (which I recommend)
Pretend your rectum is a clock, the prostate is 12 o' clock and the tailbone is 6 o' clock. Avoid these areas. Stick your fingers inside and try to feel where the soreness is, and apply gentle pressure on the area for about 10 seconds max. I have found that "sweet spots" can be anywhere from half an inch to almost 3 inches deep, so don't be afraid to go further inside if need be, the point is to find the spot and apply gentle pressure to it.
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Your mental state
I have added this section in because I think it is important to mention that you need to be relaxed. Without relaxation, you will not achieve an erection. When you are worried and anxious of the state of your penis, your body engages in a flight or fight response and blood is restricted from the penis and put elsewhere in the body, this type of phenomena happens when you are nervous and is part of performance anxiety. Anytime you are nervous, your penis shrivels.
In your case, your worry tightens your PF, so you are dealing with a tense PF and restriction of bloodflow, and you are incessantly nervous. This creates a tension cycle that prevents people from getting better. Until you relax and calm down your symptoms will persist.
The other issue is that a lot of stress and anxiety is subconscious, making the sufferer unaware of the stress he is really under, this needs to be addressed as well, that is why I recommend a stress management counselor or a sex therapist, explain to the counselor that your symptoms resemble a tension headache, but it's in your pelvis, this will get them to understand better.
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Penis Enlargement and The Pelvic Floor
This section is going to give advice about doing PE and keeping your pelvic floor healthy, should you decide to do it. I don't know how many of you reading this are ready for PE yet, but I figured it's good to mention these things in case you decide to do it later on or if you've just joined the site and you already have a balanced pelvic floor and are just doing your necessary research on PE before engaging in it. Penis enlargement is safe if done correctly, but correctly is a very vague term in this context so I am going to define what correctly actually means.
The first thing to understand about PE is that your penis is not the only thing that is prone to injury. Your pelvic floor is too. Although this is uncommon, don't let that discourage you from taking this seriously. The consequences of PF injury are troublesome, and there is a whole thread about it and you are reading it now. I am going to be giving you information here that most male enhancement sites don't tell you so consider it a privilege that you've stumbled upon the PEGym. Although it will take time for this message to get out and it will certainly take time for the medical field to get their heads screwed on tight and actually learn about PF dysfunctions, we will just have to keep the community strong on here. So, enough of my raving and ranting, let's get started.
When doing your actual PE exercises, it's important to be aware of your pelvic floor. A lot of people tense their PF muscle when touching their penis as mentioned previously. Although this isn't detrimental and in some circumstances it may be normal, it needs to be acknowledged when stretching. A lot of you will start off with a routine such as JP90 which is a really good routine, but there are some instructions in there that I truly believe need to be challenged. What I am referring to is kegeling while stretching. This is very risky in my opinion. The reason this is so is because when you pull on your penis and tighten your PC muscles (kegel) simultaneously, you are putting an extraordinary amount of stress on your BC muscle which lies in front of your PC and behind your genitals. Think of it as a tug of war between your penis and PC muscle, your BC is right in the middle of all this and is being pulled on from both side. I call this the "Tug of War Theory." This may not happen with the light kegels he mentions, but with kegel clenching (long, hard kegels) you will be putting stress on those BC muscles, plus, in the big picture, light kegels aren't necessary and it can be argued that they are potentially excessive. When there is this much tension in the PF from the kegeling while stretching the penis, that BC muscle may give out, if this happens, then you WILL be looking at hard flaccid. This can yield Levator ani syndrome, Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and a host of other psychological problems that will affect your well being. Now, I am not trying to scare you away from PE as I have done it, made gains from it and intend on doing it in the future. It is safe as long as you do your research and take heed of this thread. I am only trying to save you from injuring your pelvic floor which, when doing PE, you already run the risk of penile injury if you are not careful. The the moral of this story is, don't kegel while stretching. The same can be applied to hanging and pumping. With clamping, the rules are a little different. You need to make sure that you keep your pelvic floor relaxed. Since by now you should be aware of the reverse kegel (if not look at the links in the section above). Later on in this passage, I will discuss proper kegel etiquette, explaining when and how they should be done.
The pelvic floor as we all know, controls blood flow to the penis, which is why people with tense pelvic floors may have some form of ED. So this is why it is important to make sure that it is fully balanced when doing PE. If you have ED, then you have low erection quality or EQ. EQ is the primary indicator of getting good gains. It is the message that is quietly preached on this site. I am attempting to turn up the volume and make it more clear. A lot people go into PE with low EQ, and this can be due to physical anomalies, stress and anxiety, overactive pelvic floors, lack of proper diet and exercise, or desensitization due to porn and masturbation addiction. It should also be noted that excessive masturbation and frivolous ejaculations have been known to hinder gains. This all contributes to the rule that one must not have any underlying physical, mental, or emotional anomalies before starting their PE journey.
So, analyze those things before starting PE. This is because of the impact EQ has on gains. Bad EQ, bad gains, good EQ, good gains. So, where am I going with this? Well I am going to further discuss a way to improve you EQ while keeping a healthy pelvic floor so you can maximize both your penis gains but also your PF gains.
More info here ==>Being Prepared for PE
If the previous things mentioned are in good order, then you will want to begin a...
STAMINA TRAINING ROUTINE (for EQ Improvement and lasting longer) Note that I did not write this routine, (Big Al) did and deserves the vast majority of the credit. I am just going more in depth to ensure it is done correctly so you can get the best results without risk of injury.
Because stamina training helps with EQ, it will help you maximize your gains while simultaneously helping you last longer in bed. This is why stamina training is important to do along with your enlargement exercises and it should always be done regardless if you don't feel like doing the PE exercises that day. It is like leg day, you just can't skip it.
Stamina training should be done after your enlargement exercises, before the warmdown. If your EQ is really poor, consider only doing stamina training, just make sure to warmup. Your warmups and warmdowns should be done with either a hot washcloth, heating pad, rice sock, or a hot bath/shower. Massage your penis on the warmdowns.
Start off doing erect kegels, 5 second hold. These will strengthen the PF muscle and allow for more blood to flow in to penis. All kegeling should be done while erect, and you should always reverse kegel afterwards to remind your pelvic floor to relax even though you have just tensed it. You are only kegeling to strengthen and tone the muscles, so you need to tell you pelvic floor that staying relaxed is still the rule. You will do this by incorporating a 30% to 70% kegel to reverse kegel regimen. 30% kegels 70% reverse kegels hiindis etc.
LJMatey's Push/Pull Concept
I was PMing with a guy who brought up a very brilliant idea. What you will do is 1 erect kegel, then right after you will do 1 reverse kegel. This will put futher emphasis on the reminders we give our PFs to relax. You wll do this 4 more times, so 5 erect kegels and 5 reverse kegels. It will look like this:
EK/RK/EK/RK/EK/RK/EK/RK/EK/RK
Trust me you will only want to start off with 5, erect kegels are very intense and kegeling in general is the most abused form of male enhancement. This is due to several reasons: They are easy and convenient, they engorge the penis increasing its size temporarily, they increase feelings of pleasure, they are habit forming, but most of all, there is very unclear instructions about doing them on the internet. People need to realize that sometimes that lack of clear, detailed information can hurt somebody, it is sheer laziness. If one can't be specific enough to tell someone to simply only kegel outside of their training until they train for MMO (which by that time you will know what you are doing and will have full control of your muscles) then they have no business giving male enhancement advise! But that is what I'm here for.
You need to add 1 erect kegel per workout as long as everything goes as planned and there's no soreness. Work your way up to 50 and then start over but do towel raises. I don't recommend exceeding 50 towel raises from the start as you can simply increase the length of time you are clenching so instead of 5 second do 10 maybe. The rule of thumb with these is this, less is more. Make sure to do more reverse kegels and hindis to live up to that 30% 70% rule. Hindis should be started off with 5 mins then work your way up to 15 mins. More than that may be excessive and you should work on Iso's Squat (video in the important exercise #2.5 section).
After doing your kegels and reverse kegels you will do your
Stop and Starts.
Stop and starts are a type of edging where you stimulate yourself through lubricated masturbation with a soft grip, a flesh light, or a partner. Note that hand edging (masturbation) will be easier than sex/flesh light. You will want to try to ultimately work up to 20-25 mins. To do this you will stimulate yourself until you reach the PONR, then STOP until the feeling subsides, then your will START back again. This is 1 stop and start. Do 10-15 of these and time yourself to see how long you can go. You should try to atleast add on 30 secs each session so make sure you are keeping a log of your time like every good PE'er does. You goal should be 20-25 mins in 3 stop and starts. Anything more than 20-25 mins is excessive and possibly counter productive. I can't stress this enough, no kegeling while stimulating!
Make sure that if you are edging on your own you are using fantasy instead of porn, this is training, and we aren't training to watch porn!
Whether or not you should ejaculate afterwards depends on how much you ejaculating outside of your training. If you are not sexually active you may ejaculate in your training, but if you are sexually active you may want to save your ejaculations until then because over ejaculation hinders gains.
Finally do your warmdown.
Hopefully I've covered everything about doing PE while keeping a good healthy PF. PM me if you have any questions and I will do my best to respond promptly. Hopefully if most of you are still further back and not at this point yet, you will get here eventually. As for the people I've just mentioned and the ones who have good PFs and are looking for gains, I wish you the best of luck and as always, happy gains and happy squatting!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Ok, so in this section I want to emphasize the way to actually cure all of this. Technically, this would be a hard flaccid cure, but most likely the hard flaccid will go away before you end up curing an overactive pelvic floor so this is mostly considered to be the cure for overactive pelvic floor. If you notice, I didn't title this, and that's becasue if I did, everyone will skip down and read this and nothing else. The way you cure this condition is by applying all the info you have previously learned, which is why you have to read everything.
I am going to keep this a simple as possible, you cut out the bad habits, you maintain focus, you isolate the reverse kegel, stretched your PF muscles, and most importantly you get into a routine. That is what this is all about my brothers. Being in a routine, that is the key. When you change your lifestyle you become focused, and that is required, and I will explain why.
So where am I going with this? Here's the thing. Pelvic floor physios treat, they don't cure, no bit of therapy will ever cure you, not mental or physical. This is because they help you receive the tools (knowledge for mental and exercises for physical) to cure yourself. The only person that can cure you is you.
Physiotherapy usually will only help decrease tension, and teach you the exercises, but it won't eliminate it because of one simple fact. The problem exist within. The reason you have/had hard flaccid is because you have transferred your stress and anxiety to your PF instead of a healthy location. That is why the tension is still there. Stress can manifest itself in numerous ways, both consciously and subconsciously. You probably don't even think you are stressed, most people with this don't, their stress is repressed and they are unaware. You have to eliminate it not by eliminating stress, but by detaching your stress from your PF. The way this is done is by again, using everything we have learned, you need to always be thinking of your PF and it's tension. You have to reverse kegel non stop, whenever you can reverse kegel. Driving is a perfect time to do this, but try to remember to do this most of the day. You are reversing a bad habit so you will have to constantly tell your pelvic floor to relax. You must eliminate any mental barriers from standing in your way. I used to be afraid of revere kegeling because deep down I knew that if I was tense then it would just remind me of it and I was too afraid to face it. That's bullshit. Let nothing stand in your way from reverse kegeling, make a game out of it, do whatever, just reverse kegel like your life depends on it. Yoga can also help and squatting is a must. You have to keep the muscles stretched so you can keep killing it with the reverse kegels
Change your mindset, obsess over the reverse kegels, theoretically speaking, it is the only way to cure this. I kept having tension come and go and this is the conclusion that I drew, and it's how many people feel about this. This is you actually retraining the pelvic floor.
The other thing you will need to do is relax in other aspects. A lot of people tense their shoulders, neck, jaw, legs, throat, pretty much any body part. You just have to constantly try to relax, create a habit that you will relax, get in that mindset, get in the routine. Learn some meditative and relaxation techniques.
Never give up, you are fighting for your well being, your comfortability so your ass doesn't hurt when sitting anymore, so your PF isn't sore after sex. Even when things are gone (my symptoms come and go) keep doing it because the stress could come back. Keep going until it doesn't. Hopefully I have motivated you to endeavor on this, but do it after you have learned to isolate your reverse kegels.
Another word of advice is to eliminate your stressors in your life, or at the least, learn how to manage stress. This is the only alternative to the above advice as I have come to learn that it is the easiest way. It will be very difficult to give examples on how to do this so you will need to do it on your own. One I can think of right off the bat is if you have emotinal issues, like you have trouble handling situations and get distressed easily, then work on things like that. You will be more mature mentally and I truly believe that this example is very common in people with hard flaccid, whether they realize it or not.
Acquiring self awareness is paramount in this, do it. It is also one of the most important qualities one can possess.
MY Final Take on hard flaccid.
11/3/2017
There is also another etiology behind hard flaccid, and that is the mental component. This is just merely a theory that starkly compliments my situation and I am truly confident that it will compliment yours too. There is more info in this thread==>
Hard flaccid and PF Dysfunction-mental or physical
Here it goes: When you get erect you have to be aroused or have some sort of sexual desire, but when you have hard flaccid, your sexual desire is warped into some sort of fear, and part of this is the worry of having hard flaccid and for whatever reason this has been ingrained into the back of your mind. Every time you try to get erect, your mind has been trained to think about the hard flaccid and whether it will come up or not. This in and of itself is an erection killer. The way to recovery is to either forget about it or acquire self awareness to dig deep and figure out what and why you are so afraid, this is why sex therapists are good and why they are referred when people have this issue or pelvic pain, as pelvic pain also a similar etiology.
I hope all of you are able to make a full recovery. I wish you well and as always... Happy squatting!
Mindfulness
One relaxation technique to use is very similar to meditation. It's called mindfulness because it used the mental aspect of meditation to relax the brain. Doctors examined individuals who meditated and discovered what the meditators were doing and narrowed it down to a couple simple steps.
Here's what to do:
Sit or lay down, set a timer on your phone for 5 mins. Close your eyes and do belly breath combos. Make sure your exhales are longer than your inhales!! Here is the key, only focus on your breathing and nothing else. Your brain will fight you and start throwing in a bunch of different ideas and things to distract you, don't feed in to it. It will be difficult at first but do your best to stay focused on only your breathing. Like everything, it takes practice, you don't learn how to kickflip the first time you ride a skateboard, give it time and consistency.
Doing this will clear your mind and relax you sometime afterward. Doctors did brain scans on individuals who did this and there were noticeable differences in the brains of the "mindfulnessers" and the control group after a few weeks. Everyone try this.
Another alternative is to focus on relaxing every part of your body when doing this, scanning from your toes up to your head and repeat. This is great to do before bed as it actually is possible to tense while asleep.
♂Other techniques:
Nose breathing, peripheral vision training(soft eyes)
Attentive training Technique from Metacognitive Therapy (google this)
https://soundcloud.com/jono-roberts/...y-adrian-wells
Day one:
I was evaluated and discussed all of my symptoms including the hard flaccid and
after evaluating me she believes the muscles are over active.
Today we started by doing some breathing exercises for relaxation. (belly breath combos) --{breathing reverse kegel}
She had me lay on my back with my hand over my belly, and told me to breath in through the nose like using my diaphragm, and then breath out through my mouth. While doing this, time the belly breath with the reverse kegel. So breath in through your nose, blow up your belly like a balloon, and your PF will expand. Finally, just exhale through your mouth. She said to focus on using my lower abdomen to breath instead of my chest. She said do this for 5 mins everyday.
So basically, the belly breath combo is when you time your reverse kegels to your breathing. It is like training wheels for your reverse kegels.
REMEMBER: You will do belly breath combos while squatting,yoga, and stretching, this is why they are important!
You will also do these throughout the day
The theory behind this is that you are using the belly breaths to "tell" your PF to relax while you are putting your body in different positions. This will cause your PF to become retrained in a variety of aspects since PF dysfunction is a variety of bad habits.
This is also called "diaphragmatic breathing",it is the default way humans breath. if you are a human, you can do belly breath combos.
Another thing to remember is that you are never "forcing" anything, you aren't trying to pass a stool while constipated, you are relaxing the muscles. Another way to look at this is to "paralyze"(keep this concept on your mind) your pelvic floor muscles first, then begin the belly breathing. If done enough, your belly will eventually cause entire PF to relax in conjunction with the breathing, yielding a normally tonic PF.
♂Here is a thread I created on how to do the breathing reverse kegel better:
Belly Breaths vs. Front/Back R/Ks
Information on Kegels/Reverse kegels:
Different Kegel Exercises (only read "Reverse kegels/root lock" and the bottem paragraph)
Important Exercise #1
Next, she had me do a knees-to-chest stretch while breathing. 20 sec holds, 3 sets. 2 times per day
Another good stretch is the single knee to chest stretch. Lay on your back and pull one leg back so your knee is to your chest (same concept but just one leg instead of both)-(thanks Drjohn)
You can also pull your knees inward diagonally to get a glute stretch.
These are good for stretching the PC muscles
Finally, she discussed proper posture for toilet. Slightly lean forward with back relatively straight, not slouched. Put hand on belly to make sure I'm not straining, also do 5-10 "belly breaths" before straining.
Hardflaccid And Neuromuscular Syndromes
My way of treating hard flaccid and pelvic floor dysfunction.
-For those with a little tension all the way to those who have full blown hard flaccid.
-This can also be helpful in treating Premature Ejaculation
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Reviews and Success Stories:
"Your protocol is a game changer. I'm currently using it. Thx"
-Capalus
"For anybody who starts treating hard flaccid now know that there is hope, the exercises from this thread helped me to fix my own hard flaccid"
-lx187
"Thank you so much for this thread btw"
-A Weekend
See more
2/13/2017
READ THIS FIRST!!!
THREAD INSTRUCTIONS:
The reason this thread may seem disorganized is because this thread was originally a progress log when I had hard flaccid and pelvic pain (see date above my name) and I would like to keep it that way so you guys can see the progress I had made over time and that is why the info you need is spread out among the first 3 pages. As will be mentioned later in this thread, read through the whole thing, the exercises (stretches, yoga, and other tips) are in either brown or red on the log. This is only three pages compared to the other hard flaccid thread that was almost 400 pages. Take notes and get committed to a routine. I am happy to help but, I can only help those who help themselves, and that is also a life motto of mine. I spent many hours writing this and went through a lot of pain and psychological hell for this thread to exist and it's important that you please take the time to read everything and do the work. I am happy to answer questions about the thread or if you are struggling to fully understand something but as previously mentioned, give it a glance or two.
Thanks.
Disclaimer:
If you think you have an actual PF dysfunction. I suggest that you pursue a PT if you can. Although I feel everyone has the right to read this, this is primarily intended for those either living in a country where PF physical therapy is inaccessible or for people who can't afford the treatment. I will not disclose who I got this therapy from for privacy purposes so please don't ask.
Thanks and happy squatting!
Table of contents:
Page 1 (all on post #1)
- Reviews and Success Stories
- Thread Instructions
- Disclaimer:
- Signs of a pelvic floor dysfunction:
- Definitions
- Things to remember
- Bad PF habits
- Focus
- My story
- Posture & Sitting (HANS RK-Posture Supersets) ♂
- Tennis ball massage & Internal Massage
- Moving Forward
- Your mental state
- Penis Enlargement and The Pelvic Floor
- Mental Aspects and Techniques
- belly breath combos and knees to chest stretch (important exercise #1)
Page 2
- Hindi Squats (important exercise #2) (post 14)
- Happy baby and wall happy baby (important exercise 3) (post 22)
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Signs of a pelvic floor dysfunction:
Frequent urination
uncomfortable sitting
painful urination
urinary retention
sore perineum
sore rectum
straining to defecate (which may seem like constipation) or flatulate (NEVER STRAIN IF YOU ARE CONSTIPATED (or ever, tbh)!!! This can result in nerve damage, take stool softeners!!!)
pains in penis, testicles (dull ache), and urethra (usually burning or stinging)
pelvic pain (pains in crotch) could be pins and needles, burning
Erectile dysfunction
Premature Ejaculation
hyper contracted genitals (hard flaccid)
pain around thighs, buttocks, hip (usually from sitting)
tension in lower abdominals ("sucking in")
lower back pains
Severe depression, stress, and anxiety
fatigue which may come in bouts
symptoms alleviated upon awakening in the morning
symptoms worsening throughout the day
due to the muscle tension, you may have trigger points that can cause referred pain due to the nerves and spinal cord.
numbness, most likely due to tension on the nerves (possibly the pudental nerve)
Definitions
EQ- erection quality, how good your erections are
ED-erectile dysfunction, (low EQ) doesn't just apply to old people, can define weak erections or inability to maintain erections without constant stimulation. This is usually the result of over masturbation
PF-pelvic floor
PC muscle-Pubococcygeus muscle
BC muscle-Bulbospongiosus muscle
IC muscle-Ischiocavernosus muscle
Levator Ani muscle-Levator ani
K- kegel
Rk- reverse kegel
IK- involuntary kegel
Pre E-premature ejaculation
PE- penis enlargement or premature ejaculation (depends on context)
Edging- a method of stamina training to make you last longer in bed
HF- an internet-based term that is completely alien to the medical field as is pf dysfunction. It happens when the penis and scrotum become hyper contracted due to a restriction of blood flow to the penis, causing erectile dysfunction. Common causes include exercise and severe anxiety. Chronic Hard Flaccid is the problem people face where the genitals remain in a hyper contracted state. Common causes are pf tension, severe anxiety, stress, depression etc that is consistent and doesn't go away. The people who have this are usually tense, anxious, an worst of all, completely unaware that their psyche might be responsible for most of it.
more to come.
Despite my hard flaccid being cured I was still suffering from CPPS or at least something of similar nature. My urologist said it was most likely a pelvic floor injury due to the excessive amount of kegeling I had been doing from years of masturbation and intentional kegeling. My main problems now involve straining with bowels and pain in the genitals.
I decided to make this thread because there are still some people suffering from HF and there is a minuscule amount of phys therapy threads on this forum. I will try to update as much as possible and discuss what actions have been taken.
Feel free to ask me any questions regarding therapy, I will do my best to answer.
EDIT 1/2/2017:
I have decided to bold all the important info so you don't have to look through everything. My pleasure
Be on the lookout for more updates as I am trying to be as specific as possible and include as much info as possible.
♂-indicates updated info,
You may want to reread the thread in case you missed some of them because they will be removed as time goes by to keep things more orderly.
THINGS TO REMEMBER:
1)The 3 most important exercises should only be seen as "fillers". i.e. do them when you have free time.
Do the belly breath combos whenever you can throughout the day.
2)The rest of the yoga and stretching should be done at least once a day.
Note that this is bare minimum. What I've come to learn is, the more the merrier. I recommend atleast 2-3 times a day. BUT.... 5 is better than 3... just saying.
3)You don't have to abstain from sexual activity but you may if you think it will help. You should masturbate no more than 4 times per week.
When you masturbate or have sex, do some squatting afterwards.
4)Obviously, NO KEGELS or PE while you have an overractive pelvic floor.
5)I have found porn to be more harmful than helpful. DO NOT use it for edging as it is a distraction from focusing on keeping things relaxed, and it desensitizes your dopamine receptors and also causes PreE, ED and Performance Anxiety.
Please watch this informational video on Porn Addiction. (Thanks Big Al)
6)I would reccomend against any heavy lifting, as this can cause tension.
7)If you are NOT SEEING IMPROVEMENTS in your PF, then you may have to change things up. Reduce other exercises and sexual activity, do more belly breath combo or squatting etc.
8) Once you have found relief, DO NOT STOP. You must maintain your relief by continuing with whatever you were doing to make it this far in the first place. You run the risk of the tension returning.
9)Although most of this applies to the individuals with hard flaccid/CPPS/PF dysfunction, it can still benefit the one who just have a little tension (like maybe you just have a few bad PF habits that need to be cut out) as the situation usually varies from person to person. You may not need to do everything, but it has helped me so hopefully it will help you as well.
10) Keep your stress and anxiety levels under control because it will aggravate the condition. Self Awareness is key here. It's easy to repress stress and therefore become unaware of it.
11)Just because your doctor is confused doesn't mean he is an idiot, if he suggests counseling and he is the 8th doctor you've seen, see the counselor.
12) Feel free to add other poses if you wish (you really should). Just make sure to do them correctly and time your implemented belly breath combos correctly.
Some of these poses include:
1) child's pose
2)reclined butterfly
3) downward dog pose
(thanks Pegasus)
13) I suggest doing the stretches and yoga on a bed of some sort, i get a much better stretch on a cushioned surface.
14) It is possible to over stretch the pf muscles, if you feel some soreness in your muscles after the hindi, do less next time. You don't want soreness. (thanks Pegasus)
15) A lot of soreness you have in your perineum can be eliminated via tennis ball massage.
*16) Start the stretching 3 weeks after the first day you think you strained a PF muscle, this ensures that the strained muscle has healed.
Make sure to look through the whole thread to get all the exercies to do, I am not putting them here because I want you to read through everything. Everything is important.
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BAD PF HABITS
I am also going to address some bad PF habits that may apply to you if you have an overactive pelvic floor and need to be cut out.
1) kegeling to get the last drops of urine out-do rks after urination, requires LOTS of focus
2)constant kegeling while engaging in any form of sexual activity--this can causes Pre Ejaculation and a sore perineum. Again, do belly breath combos (breathing reverse kegel) while edging, traditional masturbation, or sex. You don't have to be perfect, but if your muscles get sore then you are over doing it.
I've noticed that it's better to treat these with the Isolated Reverse Kegel mentioned lower (advanced).
3)omitted
4) kegeling when laying down on stomach-this is most likely caused by TMS (yourbrainonporn.com) and/or #2, do (cobra pose) with belly breath combos
5)kegeling when leaning forward-may be caused by pressure on the perineum, belly breath combos when leaning forward...keep doing the yoga
6) Catching your rectum or any of your pf muscles tensing and having to consciously relax them- This is the primary bad habit of a PF dysfunction, it is a clear indication that you need to start on the yoga and rks. The tense rectum might be levator ani syndrome.
The term used to describe what you are doing in each of these is called an Involuntary Kegel or IK. It's a very common habit that forms when one learns about contracting his PC muscles consciously or maybe even subconsciously. These kegels can be either a light contraction/spasm all the way to a hard clench depending on your habits. Mine used to be clenches. These need to be cut out ASAP to ensure a balanced (healthy) pelvic floor.
Belly breath combos=very important
Lots of focus, consistency, and motivation is required to break these habits.
Understand that there is a various degree of tension involved with the IKs. There's a simple spasm, and there's a clench. Technically speaking, a kegel is a clench, and a light kegel is a spasm. Although both are bad, spasms aren't necessarily harmful per se. To put this into perspective, a spasm can happen during sex, but even if it's causing Pre E, it's not actually hurting the individual. If the individual is actually clenching and even holding the clench, he will end up with the sore perineum. This is where it gets harmful.
Note: some light spasm are normal (bulbocavernosus reflex)
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FOCUS
It is very important to maintain a large degree of focus when doing all of this. Think of it like this, you are simply "telling/reminding" your pelvic floor to relax because it thinks it is supposed to tense. This means that your are going to have to catch yourself tensing up in your everyday life and do some belly breath combos to "remind" your pelvic floor to relax. If you're driving, do the belly breath combos, if your sitting down at your job, belly breath combos.
It is also important to make this become a routine so you can get into a habit, which is what PF dysfunction is, a bad habit,or better yet, a series of bad habits.
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MY STORY (HF Theory)
I get a lot of questions on how I cured my hard flaccid and to be quite honest the answer is....
Nothing. That's right, I did absolutely nothing. It went away after 2 weeks of me just trying to get by and move on with my life. It's hard to say why it turned out this way, but I have three theories.
I am almost certain that I strained a BC/PC muscle in my pelvic floor due to penile stretching while kegel clenching because my PF was overractive in that sense. (see "tug of war theory" in the pink section) In my opinion, i think it's best to make sure that when you do PE, you only kegel when required, like if your actually trying to engorge the penis because it's needed for a certain exercise such as clamping. Keep everything relaxed while you do your exercises (with a balanced pelvic floor, of course).
After the hard flaccid went away I had an actual cramping feeling in my perineum that eventually went away as well, I did some external massaging. So, onto the theories:
1) Due to the strain, blood flow was restricted to the penis because as we all should know, the PF has control on penile blood flow.
2)When a man is under severe psychological anxiety and worry, this restricts blood flow as well and causes a hard flaccid because again, the restriction of blood flow.
3) (most likely cause) It was BOTH. The anxiety along with the tense PF cause an EXTREME restriction of blood flow, causing the HF.
Hopefully this helps explain things better, if you have questions, PM me.
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POSTURE
Make sure to keep good posture when sitting down and standing. If you notice when you sit up straight, it's much easier to keep a relaxed pelvic floor. When sitting, keep your feet flat on the floor, chair scooted up to the desk and keep your back straight. Tailbone also needs to be close to the back.
You may want to consider seeing a PT/Chiropractor to make sure that your hips are aligned properly. This can cause PF issues. Review the links below and you will see that there seems to be a correlation between having slouched postures and PF tension. Note that correlation doesn't mean causation however.
I will bold the posture stuff in this thread brown.
Another aspect of posture that I want to point out is pelvic tilts, primarily the
Anterior Pelvic Tilt. There appears to be a positive correlation between anterior pelvic tilt and there is a lot of research on this for me to post info about it here.
here is a link explaining this: Wait, What? Kegels DON’T Work? | It's All In How You Move. (thanks Helloboy)
here is another thread also explaining the correlation of bad posture and PF problems: (thanks Epoh)
♂Prolonged Sitting is NOT your Friend
Studies have shown (ok, this is hearsay but it is still important) that it is bad for your health to sit down for more than 30 mins at a time, especially for your pelvic floor and prostate. With sedentary lifestyles these days, postural and pelvic floor issues are on the rise, so it is in my best interest to advise you guys on some healthy habits to combat these issues that may arise. What I am about to discuss will be a pain in the prostate to do routine wise, but it will be very healthy ,especially if you have CPPS.
The HANS RK-Posture Supersets
So the idea is that this will incorporate the avoidance of sitting with doing postural work and Reverse Kegels. It's nothing special but just a little recommendation I have come up with with the help of physios.
1) Set a timer for 30 mins and continue work at your desk
2) When 30 mins is up, spend about 5 mins (use the timer if you want) to do some posture work, I recommend wall angels and upper back stretches, if you have APT then you can do some stretching for that as well, whatever is best for yourself, but it has to be something to keep the posture good
3) now, you will sit in a different position this time.
positions include (you will probably end up doing all of these if you must sit for several hours:
-sitting at the edge of the chair (maybe on a pillow if hard surfaces cause pain
-sitting with a pillow behind your back
-kneeling with a cusion of some sort under your knees
-standing desk
4) Do RKs (the amount of RKs you do will depend on conditioning, but I recommend doing them sitting if sitting causes tension.. you can end up doing more during the 30 if necessary)
5) Set timer for 30 mins and rinse and repeat
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Tennis ball massage (external massage)
There is no correct way to do the tennis ball massage. The only correct way is whatever gives you a good massage. The way I do it is i sit down on carpet, and I put my legs out and keep them slightly bent like I'm sitting in a bathtub. I place the tennis ball under my perineum and use my arms to lift my body over it and move upper body around over the tennis ball. I recommend starting with no more than 60 seconds as to much may be excessive. You should feel an alleviation of your symptoms.
Another variation is to put your legs up any way you see comfortable (wall happy baby or your just lay on the floor and prop your knees up on something and let your legs dangle) and just role the tennis ball around your perineum.
Fingers
You may also simply use your two fingers and just feel around for tenderness and massage. I massage vigorously and can get instant alleviation however I don't recommend you start off like that. (Start off gently, especially if it is shortly after a muscle strain)
Another good idea is to massage while erect so there is less skin (thanksDrjohn)
These massages are great for BC muscle injury, but can also be done anywhere on the perineum as well, if you have cramping in the muscle like I did.
NOTE:
This is for temporary relief only, rest and retraining of the muscles is paramount for a cure.
Here is a thread for massaging for trigger points in the genitals (Thanks whatsthestory)
♂Internal Massage
For internal massage, you can use a therawand or just your fingers (which I recommend)
Pretend your rectum is a clock, the prostate is 12 o' clock and the tailbone is 6 o' clock. Avoid these areas. Stick your fingers inside and try to feel where the soreness is, and apply gentle pressure on the area for about 10 seconds max. I have found that "sweet spots" can be anywhere from half an inch to almost 3 inches deep, so don't be afraid to go further inside if need be, the point is to find the spot and apply gentle pressure to it.
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Your mental state
I have added this section in because I think it is important to mention that you need to be relaxed. Without relaxation, you will not achieve an erection. When you are worried and anxious of the state of your penis, your body engages in a flight or fight response and blood is restricted from the penis and put elsewhere in the body, this type of phenomena happens when you are nervous and is part of performance anxiety. Anytime you are nervous, your penis shrivels.
In your case, your worry tightens your PF, so you are dealing with a tense PF and restriction of bloodflow, and you are incessantly nervous. This creates a tension cycle that prevents people from getting better. Until you relax and calm down your symptoms will persist.
The other issue is that a lot of stress and anxiety is subconscious, making the sufferer unaware of the stress he is really under, this needs to be addressed as well, that is why I recommend a stress management counselor or a sex therapist, explain to the counselor that your symptoms resemble a tension headache, but it's in your pelvis, this will get them to understand better.
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Penis Enlargement and The Pelvic Floor
This section is going to give advice about doing PE and keeping your pelvic floor healthy, should you decide to do it. I don't know how many of you reading this are ready for PE yet, but I figured it's good to mention these things in case you decide to do it later on or if you've just joined the site and you already have a balanced pelvic floor and are just doing your necessary research on PE before engaging in it. Penis enlargement is safe if done correctly, but correctly is a very vague term in this context so I am going to define what correctly actually means.
The first thing to understand about PE is that your penis is not the only thing that is prone to injury. Your pelvic floor is too. Although this is uncommon, don't let that discourage you from taking this seriously. The consequences of PF injury are troublesome, and there is a whole thread about it and you are reading it now. I am going to be giving you information here that most male enhancement sites don't tell you so consider it a privilege that you've stumbled upon the PEGym. Although it will take time for this message to get out and it will certainly take time for the medical field to get their heads screwed on tight and actually learn about PF dysfunctions, we will just have to keep the community strong on here. So, enough of my raving and ranting, let's get started.
When doing your actual PE exercises, it's important to be aware of your pelvic floor. A lot of people tense their PF muscle when touching their penis as mentioned previously. Although this isn't detrimental and in some circumstances it may be normal, it needs to be acknowledged when stretching. A lot of you will start off with a routine such as JP90 which is a really good routine, but there are some instructions in there that I truly believe need to be challenged. What I am referring to is kegeling while stretching. This is very risky in my opinion. The reason this is so is because when you pull on your penis and tighten your PC muscles (kegel) simultaneously, you are putting an extraordinary amount of stress on your BC muscle which lies in front of your PC and behind your genitals. Think of it as a tug of war between your penis and PC muscle, your BC is right in the middle of all this and is being pulled on from both side. I call this the "Tug of War Theory." This may not happen with the light kegels he mentions, but with kegel clenching (long, hard kegels) you will be putting stress on those BC muscles, plus, in the big picture, light kegels aren't necessary and it can be argued that they are potentially excessive. When there is this much tension in the PF from the kegeling while stretching the penis, that BC muscle may give out, if this happens, then you WILL be looking at hard flaccid. This can yield Levator ani syndrome, Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome and a host of other psychological problems that will affect your well being. Now, I am not trying to scare you away from PE as I have done it, made gains from it and intend on doing it in the future. It is safe as long as you do your research and take heed of this thread. I am only trying to save you from injuring your pelvic floor which, when doing PE, you already run the risk of penile injury if you are not careful. The the moral of this story is, don't kegel while stretching. The same can be applied to hanging and pumping. With clamping, the rules are a little different. You need to make sure that you keep your pelvic floor relaxed. Since by now you should be aware of the reverse kegel (if not look at the links in the section above). Later on in this passage, I will discuss proper kegel etiquette, explaining when and how they should be done.
The pelvic floor as we all know, controls blood flow to the penis, which is why people with tense pelvic floors may have some form of ED. So this is why it is important to make sure that it is fully balanced when doing PE. If you have ED, then you have low erection quality or EQ. EQ is the primary indicator of getting good gains. It is the message that is quietly preached on this site. I am attempting to turn up the volume and make it more clear. A lot people go into PE with low EQ, and this can be due to physical anomalies, stress and anxiety, overactive pelvic floors, lack of proper diet and exercise, or desensitization due to porn and masturbation addiction. It should also be noted that excessive masturbation and frivolous ejaculations have been known to hinder gains. This all contributes to the rule that one must not have any underlying physical, mental, or emotional anomalies before starting their PE journey.
So, analyze those things before starting PE. This is because of the impact EQ has on gains. Bad EQ, bad gains, good EQ, good gains. So, where am I going with this? Well I am going to further discuss a way to improve you EQ while keeping a healthy pelvic floor so you can maximize both your penis gains but also your PF gains.
More info here ==>Being Prepared for PE
If the previous things mentioned are in good order, then you will want to begin a...
STAMINA TRAINING ROUTINE (for EQ Improvement and lasting longer) Note that I did not write this routine, (Big Al) did and deserves the vast majority of the credit. I am just going more in depth to ensure it is done correctly so you can get the best results without risk of injury.
Because stamina training helps with EQ, it will help you maximize your gains while simultaneously helping you last longer in bed. This is why stamina training is important to do along with your enlargement exercises and it should always be done regardless if you don't feel like doing the PE exercises that day. It is like leg day, you just can't skip it.
Stamina training should be done after your enlargement exercises, before the warmdown. If your EQ is really poor, consider only doing stamina training, just make sure to warmup. Your warmups and warmdowns should be done with either a hot washcloth, heating pad, rice sock, or a hot bath/shower. Massage your penis on the warmdowns.
Start off doing erect kegels, 5 second hold. These will strengthen the PF muscle and allow for more blood to flow in to penis. All kegeling should be done while erect, and you should always reverse kegel afterwards to remind your pelvic floor to relax even though you have just tensed it. You are only kegeling to strengthen and tone the muscles, so you need to tell you pelvic floor that staying relaxed is still the rule. You will do this by incorporating a 30% to 70% kegel to reverse kegel regimen. 30% kegels 70% reverse kegels hiindis etc.
LJMatey's Push/Pull Concept
I was PMing with a guy who brought up a very brilliant idea. What you will do is 1 erect kegel, then right after you will do 1 reverse kegel. This will put futher emphasis on the reminders we give our PFs to relax. You wll do this 4 more times, so 5 erect kegels and 5 reverse kegels. It will look like this:
EK/RK/EK/RK/EK/RK/EK/RK/EK/RK
Trust me you will only want to start off with 5, erect kegels are very intense and kegeling in general is the most abused form of male enhancement. This is due to several reasons: They are easy and convenient, they engorge the penis increasing its size temporarily, they increase feelings of pleasure, they are habit forming, but most of all, there is very unclear instructions about doing them on the internet. People need to realize that sometimes that lack of clear, detailed information can hurt somebody, it is sheer laziness. If one can't be specific enough to tell someone to simply only kegel outside of their training until they train for MMO (which by that time you will know what you are doing and will have full control of your muscles) then they have no business giving male enhancement advise! But that is what I'm here for.
You need to add 1 erect kegel per workout as long as everything goes as planned and there's no soreness. Work your way up to 50 and then start over but do towel raises. I don't recommend exceeding 50 towel raises from the start as you can simply increase the length of time you are clenching so instead of 5 second do 10 maybe. The rule of thumb with these is this, less is more. Make sure to do more reverse kegels and hindis to live up to that 30% 70% rule. Hindis should be started off with 5 mins then work your way up to 15 mins. More than that may be excessive and you should work on Iso's Squat (video in the important exercise #2.5 section).
After doing your kegels and reverse kegels you will do your
Stop and Starts.
Stop and starts are a type of edging where you stimulate yourself through lubricated masturbation with a soft grip, a flesh light, or a partner. Note that hand edging (masturbation) will be easier than sex/flesh light. You will want to try to ultimately work up to 20-25 mins. To do this you will stimulate yourself until you reach the PONR, then STOP until the feeling subsides, then your will START back again. This is 1 stop and start. Do 10-15 of these and time yourself to see how long you can go. You should try to atleast add on 30 secs each session so make sure you are keeping a log of your time like every good PE'er does. You goal should be 20-25 mins in 3 stop and starts. Anything more than 20-25 mins is excessive and possibly counter productive. I can't stress this enough, no kegeling while stimulating!
Make sure that if you are edging on your own you are using fantasy instead of porn, this is training, and we aren't training to watch porn!
Whether or not you should ejaculate afterwards depends on how much you ejaculating outside of your training. If you are not sexually active you may ejaculate in your training, but if you are sexually active you may want to save your ejaculations until then because over ejaculation hinders gains.
Finally do your warmdown.
Hopefully I've covered everything about doing PE while keeping a good healthy PF. PM me if you have any questions and I will do my best to respond promptly. Hopefully if most of you are still further back and not at this point yet, you will get here eventually. As for the people I've just mentioned and the ones who have good PFs and are looking for gains, I wish you the best of luck and as always, happy gains and happy squatting!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Ok, so in this section I want to emphasize the way to actually cure all of this. Technically, this would be a hard flaccid cure, but most likely the hard flaccid will go away before you end up curing an overactive pelvic floor so this is mostly considered to be the cure for overactive pelvic floor. If you notice, I didn't title this, and that's becasue if I did, everyone will skip down and read this and nothing else. The way you cure this condition is by applying all the info you have previously learned, which is why you have to read everything.
I am going to keep this a simple as possible, you cut out the bad habits, you maintain focus, you isolate the reverse kegel, stretched your PF muscles, and most importantly you get into a routine. That is what this is all about my brothers. Being in a routine, that is the key. When you change your lifestyle you become focused, and that is required, and I will explain why.
So where am I going with this? Here's the thing. Pelvic floor physios treat, they don't cure, no bit of therapy will ever cure you, not mental or physical. This is because they help you receive the tools (knowledge for mental and exercises for physical) to cure yourself. The only person that can cure you is you.
Physiotherapy usually will only help decrease tension, and teach you the exercises, but it won't eliminate it because of one simple fact. The problem exist within. The reason you have/had hard flaccid is because you have transferred your stress and anxiety to your PF instead of a healthy location. That is why the tension is still there. Stress can manifest itself in numerous ways, both consciously and subconsciously. You probably don't even think you are stressed, most people with this don't, their stress is repressed and they are unaware. You have to eliminate it not by eliminating stress, but by detaching your stress from your PF. The way this is done is by again, using everything we have learned, you need to always be thinking of your PF and it's tension. You have to reverse kegel non stop, whenever you can reverse kegel. Driving is a perfect time to do this, but try to remember to do this most of the day. You are reversing a bad habit so you will have to constantly tell your pelvic floor to relax. You must eliminate any mental barriers from standing in your way. I used to be afraid of revere kegeling because deep down I knew that if I was tense then it would just remind me of it and I was too afraid to face it. That's bullshit. Let nothing stand in your way from reverse kegeling, make a game out of it, do whatever, just reverse kegel like your life depends on it. Yoga can also help and squatting is a must. You have to keep the muscles stretched so you can keep killing it with the reverse kegels
Change your mindset, obsess over the reverse kegels, theoretically speaking, it is the only way to cure this. I kept having tension come and go and this is the conclusion that I drew, and it's how many people feel about this. This is you actually retraining the pelvic floor.
The other thing you will need to do is relax in other aspects. A lot of people tense their shoulders, neck, jaw, legs, throat, pretty much any body part. You just have to constantly try to relax, create a habit that you will relax, get in that mindset, get in the routine. Learn some meditative and relaxation techniques.
Never give up, you are fighting for your well being, your comfortability so your ass doesn't hurt when sitting anymore, so your PF isn't sore after sex. Even when things are gone (my symptoms come and go) keep doing it because the stress could come back. Keep going until it doesn't. Hopefully I have motivated you to endeavor on this, but do it after you have learned to isolate your reverse kegels.
Another word of advice is to eliminate your stressors in your life, or at the least, learn how to manage stress. This is the only alternative to the above advice as I have come to learn that it is the easiest way. It will be very difficult to give examples on how to do this so you will need to do it on your own. One I can think of right off the bat is if you have emotinal issues, like you have trouble handling situations and get distressed easily, then work on things like that. You will be more mature mentally and I truly believe that this example is very common in people with hard flaccid, whether they realize it or not.
Acquiring self awareness is paramount in this, do it. It is also one of the most important qualities one can possess.
MY Final Take on hard flaccid.
11/3/2017
There is also another etiology behind hard flaccid, and that is the mental component. This is just merely a theory that starkly compliments my situation and I am truly confident that it will compliment yours too. There is more info in this thread==>
Hard flaccid and PF Dysfunction-mental or physical
Here it goes: When you get erect you have to be aroused or have some sort of sexual desire, but when you have hard flaccid, your sexual desire is warped into some sort of fear, and part of this is the worry of having hard flaccid and for whatever reason this has been ingrained into the back of your mind. Every time you try to get erect, your mind has been trained to think about the hard flaccid and whether it will come up or not. This in and of itself is an erection killer. The way to recovery is to either forget about it or acquire self awareness to dig deep and figure out what and why you are so afraid, this is why sex therapists are good and why they are referred when people have this issue or pelvic pain, as pelvic pain also a similar etiology.
I hope all of you are able to make a full recovery. I wish you well and as always... Happy squatting!
Mindfulness
One relaxation technique to use is very similar to meditation. It's called mindfulness because it used the mental aspect of meditation to relax the brain. Doctors examined individuals who meditated and discovered what the meditators were doing and narrowed it down to a couple simple steps.
Here's what to do:
Sit or lay down, set a timer on your phone for 5 mins. Close your eyes and do belly breath combos. Make sure your exhales are longer than your inhales!! Here is the key, only focus on your breathing and nothing else. Your brain will fight you and start throwing in a bunch of different ideas and things to distract you, don't feed in to it. It will be difficult at first but do your best to stay focused on only your breathing. Like everything, it takes practice, you don't learn how to kickflip the first time you ride a skateboard, give it time and consistency.
Doing this will clear your mind and relax you sometime afterward. Doctors did brain scans on individuals who did this and there were noticeable differences in the brains of the "mindfulnessers" and the control group after a few weeks. Everyone try this.
Another alternative is to focus on relaxing every part of your body when doing this, scanning from your toes up to your head and repeat. This is great to do before bed as it actually is possible to tense while asleep.
♂Other techniques:
Nose breathing, peripheral vision training(soft eyes)
Attentive training Technique from Metacognitive Therapy (google this)
https://soundcloud.com/jono-roberts/...y-adrian-wells
Day one:
I was evaluated and discussed all of my symptoms including the hard flaccid and
after evaluating me she believes the muscles are over active.
Today we started by doing some breathing exercises for relaxation. (belly breath combos) --{breathing reverse kegel}
She had me lay on my back with my hand over my belly, and told me to breath in through the nose like using my diaphragm, and then breath out through my mouth. While doing this, time the belly breath with the reverse kegel. So breath in through your nose, blow up your belly like a balloon, and your PF will expand. Finally, just exhale through your mouth. She said to focus on using my lower abdomen to breath instead of my chest. She said do this for 5 mins everyday.
So basically, the belly breath combo is when you time your reverse kegels to your breathing. It is like training wheels for your reverse kegels.
REMEMBER: You will do belly breath combos while squatting,yoga, and stretching, this is why they are important!
You will also do these throughout the day
The theory behind this is that you are using the belly breaths to "tell" your PF to relax while you are putting your body in different positions. This will cause your PF to become retrained in a variety of aspects since PF dysfunction is a variety of bad habits.
This is also called "diaphragmatic breathing",it is the default way humans breath. if you are a human, you can do belly breath combos.
Another thing to remember is that you are never "forcing" anything, you aren't trying to pass a stool while constipated, you are relaxing the muscles. Another way to look at this is to "paralyze"(keep this concept on your mind) your pelvic floor muscles first, then begin the belly breathing. If done enough, your belly will eventually cause entire PF to relax in conjunction with the breathing, yielding a normally tonic PF.
♂Here is a thread I created on how to do the breathing reverse kegel better:
Belly Breaths vs. Front/Back R/Ks
Information on Kegels/Reverse kegels:
Different Kegel Exercises (only read "Reverse kegels/root lock" and the bottem paragraph)
Important Exercise #1
Next, she had me do a knees-to-chest stretch while breathing. 20 sec holds, 3 sets. 2 times per day
Another good stretch is the single knee to chest stretch. Lay on your back and pull one leg back so your knee is to your chest (same concept but just one leg instead of both)-(thanks Drjohn)
You can also pull your knees inward diagonally to get a glute stretch.
These are good for stretching the PC muscles
Finally, she discussed proper posture for toilet. Slightly lean forward with back relatively straight, not slouched. Put hand on belly to make sure I'm not straining, also do 5-10 "belly breaths" before straining.
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