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I'm trying to "cure" My PE and always see people say that when you edge to not use porn. Why is that? I can last quite awhile without porn and sometimes even lose my erection after about 20 minutes but looking at like 10 seconds of porn will get me back. Isn't it better to try to edge with porn since it excites you so much and sex will excite you more? If I'm edging and practicing to control my pe without porn as soon as I have sex the excitement will just be too much
Cause it messes you up. Using Porn myself
When I took a series of classes with a somatic sex coach, some of the edging exercises she has me do involved meditation, reflection, breath, and using my imagination A LOT. Some of it was similar to tantric practices also. She told me to try and do without porn, but it was OK to mix it in on occasion; especially when trying to ween off of it. She was not strictly against it. I have had a subscription to Playboy magazine since I was in college (yes, old school porn), and my wife and I still enjoy looking at it together, and we subscribe to the Playboy+ website in addition to a few adult websites for watching couples videos. I do a lot of edging when she is away on business to build up for her return. In my experience I get the best edging results by far when only using my imagination, the next best success for me is when I watch slideshows of pictures of PB models. Looking at the pictures lets my imagination paint a story about the women, and I enjoy letting their bodies excite me. The least effective results for me are when I watch videos and try to edge. It is more one dimensional and not as deep an experience for me with video. I really do enjoy the slideshows, but just plain imagination is the best.
Porn is overwhelming for me. I cannot get into the scene while I edge and not ejaculate. Especially if I am sitting on a chair with angle where I can feel my weight pushing me into ejaculation. I prefer to edge by doing some strokes then stopping and repeating. Then when I get bored I stop and I don't ejaculate. I feel like ejaculation makes my penis recover slower from PE.
You create a conditioning effect when you stimulate yourself to a particular substance.
The following article goes into this in detail: The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence
Ok, quick question. If I'm edging without porn should I be using my Fleshlight or my hand? To be honest hand + lube is way more intense for me, so is it best to use that instead?
You can use either. The general advice given for manual edging is to attempt to duplicate what you'd expect to experience during sexual contact.Quote:
Originally Posted by Couchdog
I am using porn too, and it is not easy to quit.. I keep watching stuff on https://mega.porn every day, and I just can't stop. I am not sure if it is bad for me or not. So far, everything is alright I think
My pre e has always been from 2 factors . Arousal level, and pelvic floor.
A persons brain is not built for the explosive Arousal response porn can create . A typical female either wont create the same response or youll havw that response and lose it .
On the physical side of things if your always that aroused chances are you be sporting a 100-110% eq ...
Thus over strengthening your bc and ic response.
Without being able to control your pelvic floor or mental arousal with a real women you are defeating yourself.
Right now im weaning and at pic none p in v stuff ....