Considering quitting sex until I'm bigger. Major insecurities

[DeMi-GoD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DeMi-GoD]

I'm considering not having sex anymore until my penis is bigger. Last time I measured I was 6.8 bpel 4.6 mid girth and I have an inch fat pad. It looks so tiny to me. I'm mostly upset over the girth. I feel like I'm gonna have the skinniest dick of all the guys the woman has been with. I've only slept with 12 women. Never any complaints but before sex I'm practically having an anxiety attack. I haven't had sex in 5 months. There's a woman coming over tonight and it might happen. I do want it.. But at the same time I'm terrified. I've been hanging 10 lbs religiously daily with the LG hanger and also clamping. I just did 4 sets of 5 min clamps. Probably wore it out so much I wouldn't be able to get hard anyway. This is just depressing as fuck because I'm missing out on so much sex because I'm SO insecure over this. I guess I'm just venting but if anyone has advice I'm all ears :/

[bigplayre Senior Member Member of the Month June 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close bigplayre]

Relax, take a deep breath. I'm guilty of this too, creating a worst case scenario in your head and beating yourself up over it badly constantly to the point where it cripples and prevents you from doing anything else. No complaints so far and you've slept with 12 women. That should tell you something on its own! Look at all the things you got going for you. You can have sex! There are people that aren't able to get laid if the world depended on it! You're a part of PE gym which makes you miles ahead of anyone else in the world who thinks that PE is impossible and what you got is what you got.

Don't avoid sex because of an insecurity, that's only going to make the insecurity rule you even more. You must fight against it.

I notice you're having a strong case of body dysmorphic disorder and that's pretty normal, especially if you're on this forum. Even I wrestle with that constantly because I tend to see the numbers 8x6+ thrown around so much that I feel like I'm way below average with a short skinny dick. You have to come back to reality and understand from a standpoint of what a true average is and where you stand relative to that.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Sounds like you need to speak to a professional. You're well above average on length and only just slightly under in girth, you've never had any complaints and still feel the way you do. It's definitely head issues you need to work on. PE will yield much greater results if you enter it with a clear mind and focus on improving yourself. If you're rushing to grow then you will more than likely do more harm than good.

Just have sex, relax and enjoy the moment. If the girl is nasty and says something then kick her out your place naked and watch as she runs down the road embarrassed . Okay probably took that last bit too far but you are big enough to satisfy a woman and should enjoy the sex while you can and if you make gains then enjoy them as they come. No rush.

[D6ggy9tyle Senior Member Member of the Month April 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close D6ggy9tyle]

My advice is to spend time learning about how to really please a woman. Learn about foreplay, buildup, eating pussy, erogenous zones, tantra, etc..

Porn lets us think all sex is about getting off. Instead try to make it about them, about her. What does your dick size matter if you were the best in bed she's ever had?

Honestly, most women will care more about the cleanliness of your bedroom and bathroom than the size of your dick.

[IdealPenis Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close IdealPenis]

Psychotherapy.

[DeMi-GoD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DeMi-GoD]

Thanks for responding. But just knowing I'm actually below average in girth is devastating to me. I feel less of a man. I wonder how quickly I can change this.

[6inDongNotForLong Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 6inDongNotForLong]

Don't let something you had no control over ruin your ability to enjoy sex & experiences.
You're on the gym, you're doing exercises, you'll gain over time.

I recently met a woman who told me her worse sex with with a man who was 9 inches, and the best was with a man with 3 inches.

You're fine my friend. Learn to please women in multiple ways too!

[DeMi-GoD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DeMi-GoD]

So we just had sex. It definitely wasn't the best. I struggled to stay hard enough to get the condom on. Took two different condoms to get it to work and I was maybe 6/10 hard.... Like usual the vagina felt loose to me. Must be bcuz of my below average girth. Sigh. I came within 2 minutes. I think all the clamping I did earlier tired my dick out way too much and also only 5 days no pmo. All of that combined I was bound to fail. I'm new to clamping and I did 4 5min sets. I'm also not used to condoms. All my exes were on bc. Anyways I thought I'd feel good breaking my 5 month streak but now I sort of feel even more discouraged.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

You just need a slap upside the head is all ..
There are worse things than an average penis.

[tank0909 Senior Member Member of the Month Jan. 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close tank0909]

Quite a few men are smaller than you and are the best a lot of women have ever had. Work on techniques. Find out what she likes. It's a big confidence boost when you see them enjoying what you're doing to them and you know how to make it happen.

Get something to help with your erection quality. Yohimbe bark, viagra (small doses), whatever. It will help with your confidence and lessen your anxiety.

There is nothing wrong with your size at all. It will take time to overcome your insecurity and accept that fact. If you need professional help, get it. If you think you can overcome it, do it. If you need to take a break to figure out some things, do it. Living your life this way can make you miss out on quite a few things, not just sexually. When you finally do overcome your insecurity, you may look back and regret missing out on those things. Insecurity is like a virus that spreads to other aspects of your life. There really is nothing wrong with your size and many on here would be more than happy to have it.

"What makes you such and expert? Why should I listen to you?" First-hand experience on everything I said. (I didn't seek professional help but it would have made a positive difference.) You will be fine. You will get through this.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I had a 4.4” girth and kept my wife well satisfied for over 40 years. I am now 5.5” and it doesn’t feel that much different.

[BBC Action Senior Member Member of the Month August 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close BBC Action]

How do you know your insecurities won't stay even when you are bigger. What if you suffer from body dysmorphic disorder? I don't think you should avoid sex until you are larger, but you should probably avoid sex until you get your mind at peace. On the other hand, if you had no complaints from sex, what are you really anxious about? Your performance is obviously satisfactory as far as you're concerned.

[IdealPenis Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close IdealPenis]

So we just had sex. It definitely wasn't the best. I struggled to stay hard enough to get the condom on. Took two different condoms to get it to work and I was maybe 6/10 hard.... Like usual the vagina felt loose to me. Must be bcuz of my below average girth. Sigh. I came within 2 minutes. I think all the clamping I did earlier tired my dick out way too much and also only 5 days no pmo. All of that combined I was bound to fail. I'm new to clamping and I did 4 5min sets. I'm also not used to condoms. All my exes were on bc. Anyways I thought I'd feel good breaking my 5 month streak but now I sort of feel even more discouraged.

So, you have your girth on one side that gets all the blame for your insecurity.
Although size is something that is highly out of your control, even with PE because there is no guarantee that your routine/exercises/commitment will work in a predictable way to assure gains, you blame your insuccess on girth.

But you ignore all those things that are hundreds of times closer to your control. Your EQ. You can improve that a ton with kegels, rk, lifestyle, cardio, laying of the porn if you use that, avoid excessive masturbation, find a hobby that fucking relaxes your body and most importantly your mind, go into psychotherapy and get this insecurity fucker out.


At this point it is up to you if you will wine or if you will take action.
It seems to me that you already know what is going on and you are smart enough to see causes of the problem, thus you are able to see what needs to be done as well to take action.

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Haha, brilliant

You just need a slap upside the head is all ..
There are worse things than an average penis.

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

I double down on this response, couldn't have said it better myself.

So, you have your girth on one side that gets all the blame for your insecurity.
Although size is something that is highly out of your control, even with PE because there is no guarantee that your routine/exercises/commitment will work in a predictable way to assure gains, you blame your insuccess on girth.

But you ignore all those things that are hundreds of times closer to your control. Your EQ. You can improve that a ton with kegels, rk, lifestyle, cardio, laying of the porn if you use that, avoid excessive masturbation, find a hobby that fucking relaxes your body and most importantly your mind, go into psychotherapy and get this insecurity fucker out.


At this point it is up to you if you will wine or if you will take action.
It seems to me that you already know what is going on and you are smart enough to see causes of the problem, thus you are able to see what needs to be done as well to take action.