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    So recovery was going well, managing to ignore the urge to look at porn. But the other day I ubfortuntely looked at 1 image and now i can feel myself slipping. Any advice to beat this horrible addiction once and for all would be much appreciated. Thanks.

  • #2
    What is the original reason why you stopped looking at porn?
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    • #3
      I did (technically still am) suffer from a porn addiction, I decided it was doing me far more harm than good and I didn't need that kind of negativity in my life. Stopped watching it in an attempt to beat the addiction

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      • #4
        My advice is to not stress over it. We create our own giants. Stay calm and do you best to minimize the problem in your head. The less of a threat it seems, the easier it is to manage it. You won't win every battle but if in your heart you really want to be free from this, the war you shall win.
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        • #5
          How do people become addicted and hurt from porn? I just started watching porn again and it's helped my workouts. I can even get erections easier and last longer in bed now that I started watching porn again. I don't even have to rely on it to get hard. If you don't want to watch porn, then stop watching it. I guess everybody isn't wired the same. Get from behind the screen and occupy yourself with something productive.

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          • #6
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            • #7
              Originally posted by BBC Action View Post
              How do people become addicted and hurt from porn? I just started watching porn again and it's helped my workouts. I can even get erections easier and last longer in bed now that I started watching porn again. I don't even have to rely on it to get hard. If you don't want to watch porn, then stop watching it. I guess everybody isn't wired the same. Get from behind the screen and occupy yourself with something productive.
              Porn addiction can ruin people lives. Just like alcohol or other drugs. If you can watch porn without problems, good for you, but please don't minimize the impact it can have on others.
              Chances are, if you watch too much porn , it will eventually hurt you ( this can take years). Take a look at yourbrainonporn.com

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              • #8
                Originally posted by NotSoBigAl View Post
                So recovery was going well, managing to ignore the urge to look at porn. But the other day I ubfortuntely looked at 1 image and now i can feel myself slipping. Any advice to beat this horrible addiction once and for all would be much appreciated. Thanks.
                We offer support with the 90 Day Anti-Porn here on our site.

                Take up the challenge and we will be happy to root you on.

                You can go to the thread HERE.

                Another option is to use your favorite search engine and look up "Forify Program" which offers tools to overcome this addiction.
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                • #9
                  I think that noone should avoid porn pernamently. That's how i think. I even think that it's a MUST each month at least once to enjoy it with your wnky. If your doing PE and edging withou problem, i don't think that u should pass the porn. For exaple, when i watch porn after 1 month of avoiding, my dick feels harder and wants to cum right away, but i control it and trying to avoid that and after 10-15 mins brust. Your getting ur dick all pumped and your heart feels like it will explode. (Try imagine that with girl when u had only fantasies for past months.)
                  I belive that if u don't have any partner and ur not watching porn once a while, when u find your half, u will cum all over her/him after few minutes. Afte all, you didn't saw naked body for months. At least do it in porn.
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                  • #10
                    Porn can easily induce weird kinks and fetishes that will result in total lost in interest in real-life sexual encounters, or if they exist, vanilla sex might seem too boring to even get an erection to begin with. I can speak from my personal experience. Porn made me develop a severe foot fetish and it got to the point where I couldn't even get hard without sucking my girlfriend's toes every time. I know it might sound funny, but in reality it was not. Luckily for me she was very understanding and actually into it, but hence if it was another chick that thinks it's weird and crazy and didn't let me do it, I'll be left without an erection and a great deal of shame. Who's to blame? Porn. Just my example from personal experience.

                    As for OP, I think the best way to do it, regardless about what people tell you at NoFap, is to quit porn, but continue masturbation. Never try to kick two addictions at the same time and porn and masturbation are vastly different and produce different withdrawal symptoms, despite going together for most people. Besides, being horny all the time because you've been abstaining for so long can increase your desire to view porn. Try masturbating without thinking about anything, just focus on the physical part, on what you're feeling while doing it, focus on the orgasm and enjoy it fully. Try to get hard without thinking about anything and masturbate to orgasm once. If it's not enjoyable because you didn't look at porn, then you indeed, are an addict and you haven't been masturbating for the physical orgasm itself (as it should be), but for the cheap dopamine kick you get while having one while staring at the screen.

                    Let me emphasize on that strong enough, if you don't masturbate for the orgasm itself and do not find it enjoyable to have one without porn, YOU ARE A PORN ADDICT. And your "sex-drive" is probably porn drive, but you don't even realize it.

                    Change that. Not only will it make your life, your sex drive and your confidence better, but you'll actually learn how to properly enjoy and use your penis better. Once you've kicked the porn habit for good, you can quit masturbation as well for the other benefits (although, they aren't as profound as kicking the evil curse that is pornography).

                    Hope this helps.
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                    • #11
                      Oh and also, a piece of advice. Try not to think about porn as well. The people on NoFap will tell you that you shouldn't think about anything sexual or have any sexual fantasies while "rebooting". That, while might speed up the process a little, can also be the down-spiral to relapse, and will almost surely result in a "flat-line" (a period where you've lost interest in sex for good, because you've removed it from your life and thougts). There's nothing wrong with having sexual fantasies with your girlfriend for example. Just don't think, or God forbid, watch porn.

                      Watching porn, your sex-drive will eventually be replaced by porn-drive. That's what porn addicts have and don't even realize it sometimes, your sex drive might literally be porn drive, when you're sitting in a room full of hot women and you're getting horny thinking about porn.

                      When you've been horny all day, but when the time comes and you are with your chick, suddenly the libido is gone. Then you go back, play a porn video and you're crazy horny again.

                      Sex is good. Masturbation with moderation is fine as well. Porn is evil.
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                      • #12
                        So I disagree with the no thinking about sex during no-fap thing. And I'm an avid believer in the practice. More so in semen retention than the no PMO no-fap thing.

                        But here's my experience. Somewhere between 7 and 14 days of No-Fap I notice a significant change in my sexual nature. This is around or shortly after the time when true, strong, natural and uninvoked erections occur.

                        When masterbating often, theres this cycle with porn. Use it to get it up, then get it off, enjoy a short bliss, spike in endorphins, tiredness. And at then a drop in these things and urge to do it over again.

                        But theres a point in retention where there is a shift. Maybe you wake up in the morning ready to cum just from rubbing against your sheets. At this point, there's a pit of "imagination porn". You kindof daydream. In this, for me at least, rather than some raunchy porn influenced ideas, are more sensual passionate ones. As opposed to desire to cum, theres actually more enjoyment in the sensations of trying to hold back from cumming. The enjoyment of being stimulated instead of coming to completion.

                        Holding back at this time can sometimes create some intense full body, dry orgasms. As well as in the day-to-day, a seemingly different energy level and emotional well being. As well as a certain tranquility, sense of self control, etc.

                        I think the easiest way to maintain avoiding PMO, is to focus on these things, whatever reactions you begin to experience that you fall in love with.

                        Theres a habit during masterbation, which gets you that short "high". Once you get to a point without it, that retention creates a certain "high" of its own.

                        Most people have a hard time tho. Going cold turkey is an awesome challenge, but defeating if you relapse.

                        I recommend working it up. 1 day of abstaining. Then 2, then 3, etc. Its also good to write these down in your calendar. I put an M for each time I masterbate. When you look at the calendar, count the days, etc, it can be motivating.

                        If you experience a wet dream, or HFO, I personally think thats perfectly okay. Your orgasming without self-stimulation of your hand.

                        I got off track but either way hope it helps. Cheers
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                        • #13
                          Thank you everyone for the advice. I want to RESTART PE now too as I think this will help keep me motivated. Can anyone recommend/ help with my routine? I enjoyed doing timed stretches and squeezes, but I'm not sure how long to hold for and how much work to do in general.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by NotSoBigAl View Post
                            Thank you everyone for the advice. I want to RESTART PE now too as I think this will help keep me motivated. Can anyone recommend/ help with my routine? I enjoyed doing timed stretches and squeezes, but I'm not sure how long to hold for and how much work to do in general.
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