is 7" really above average?

**bambamm89** · 06-18-2020

I know that this is a bit late, but 7" is considered large, even in porn. I remember years ago thinking that every guy in porn had 9" or better. Then I remember watching a bunch of different films where they measure the guys on camera. Most of them were between 7-8". Camera angles, lighting, and a professional crew can make things seem more accentuated than they actually are. Keep in mind that most of the nudity you see in the form of entertainment or even sales is there to sell you a fantasy.

**Ultimate Burrito** · 06-19-2020

Here's a funny thing about porn. I used to watch a girl get it doggystyle and think to myself that she had a weird shaped ass but the guy's cock is massive. Then there would be a different part of the scene where her ass looked normal. That's when I concluded it was the lenses being used. I guess they have several different cameras set up and each is set up differently (lense, aperture, etc.). It's mostly smoke and mirrors.

**incogneeetoe** · 06-20-2020

I posted this little anecdote on my own thread, but I think it provides some perspective on size:

My wife has this "friend", a woman in her mid to late thirties (who looks older), whose daughter is the same age/same class as our son. This friend is going through a long drawn out divorce. She cheated, he cheated, it's all very melodramatic and childish. Long story short, she and her husband are together for their daughter. He has a girlfriend, she has a few boyfriends. She is essentially looking for a good FWB who will become her sugar daddy later.

Anyway, one of these FWB guys was being pissy towards her. I do not know the back story, but in the end he bought her "a toy" and gave it to her as a sort of "...here, use this instead of me you loose slut" insult.

This woman later confided in my wife about the toy. She was insulted, mortified, etc. The reason being is she says "...the toy is absurdly large." With the insult being that she "...is really loose", both literally and figuratively (This is a common thing in Korea, women being concerned about their tightness. Men complaining about wives being loose after childbirth, etc. My sister-in-law had surgery to tighten up).

My wife tried to just gloss over it, basically saying TMI. But her friend was not letting go, saying "It's really big, you have to see it", and she pulls it out to show my wife just how big it is. My wife said it was about the size of a tube of toothpaste.

After comparing, we figured it is about 7x5.25.

So here is a woman, sexually active and who has had 6 partners (that I am aware of). To her mind, 7 inches is so large that it is absurd. One can surmise that not only has she never seen one that size, the implication that she would want one that size is insulting to her. She is not "that loose" so as to need anything that big.

**GettingOverIt** · 11-27-2020

I am 7" bpel. My wife doesn't think it's big or large. I am the 3rd guy she's been with. Her last was a Congolese guy (Google that btw). When we first started having sex she and after I found out about her ex, I asked her and she said he was longer and thicker.
She knows I PE and the other we were talking and she said, "don't know why you're stressing, you're average!"
- OUCH!
This is why I can't really stay consistent with PE. I have no idea what length or girth would impress her. It sucks big time.
I'm afraid I may need to be 8" for her to notice any difference... from her ex.

To add insult to injury... She's only ever had to rub her clit during sex since being with me. She admitted once she's never had to before but said she didn't know why... I can take a good guess.

She's claims she feels me like she felt her ex, and gets up to orgasm the same way as she did with him... but there's been many occasions she' missed the orgasm. She's never missed one with him.
Now although she says she loves me way more etc. I conclude that at least physically in terms of size, it makes a difference to her.

I'm really struggling with this for years... it comes and goes but when it comes back to nag me, I PE and I feel really crap cos she knows my self esteem is down due to her ex being bigger.

I avoid sex with her most of the time and she's super sexy... so she knows I'm just shying away from her... but worse of all she probably knows it's because of you know who.

Anyway... so in my effed up world of sex, 7" is average and not impressive at all and cannot bottom out.

**Jay1983** · 11-27-2020

7" is average? I call bullshit.

**Pegasus** · 11-28-2020

Originally Posted by GettingOverIt

I am 7" bpel. My wife doesn't think it's big or large. I am the 3rd guy she's been with. Her last was a Congolese guy (Google that btw). When we first started having sex she and after I found out about her ex, I asked her and she said he was longer and thicker.
She knows I PE and the other we were talking and she said, "don't know why you're stressing, you're average!"
- OUCH!
This is why I can't really stay consistent with PE. I have no idea what length or girth would impress her. It sucks big time.
I'm afraid I may need to be 8" for her to notice any difference... from her ex.

To add insult to injury... She's only ever had to rub her clit during sex since being with me. She admitted once she's never had to before but said she didn't know why... I can take a good guess.

She's claims she feels me like she felt her ex, and gets up to orgasm the same way as she did with him... but there's been many occasions she' missed the orgasm. She's never missed one with him.
Now although she says she loves me way more etc. I conclude that at least physically in terms of size, it makes a difference to her.

I'm really struggling with this for years... it comes and goes but when it comes back to nag me, I PE and I feel really crap cos she knows my self esteem is down due to her ex being bigger.

I avoid sex with her most of the time and she's super sexy... so she knows I'm just shying away from her... but worse of all she probably knows it's because of you know who.

Anyway... so in my effed up world of sex, 7" is average and not impressive at all and cannot bottom out.

The bigger dick ex is a very common method women use to destroy male confidence , Usually no truth to it but there doesn't need to be.

**Physdoc** · 11-28-2020

I didn't go through all 26 pages of this post, so maybe this is a repeat. Anyway, I just went on two credible dick size sites that use data from many credible penis length studies. They both produced the same figure - a 7" dick is larger than 98.6% of all dicks, and that's bone pressed. 7" non-bone pressed is bigger than 99.9% of other guys. Even if you question that data, what's your adjusted figure - 90%, 80%? Still much larger than average. The other consistent thing in studies is that both women and men tend to way overestimate length based only on visual estimations. So, next time some girl is trying to honestly estimate some guys dick length, she's probably high by an inch. Then add on the tendency to exaggerate the truth.

**GettingOverIt** · 11-28-2020

So... How common is 7" out there or more even? So far for my wife... it's 2 out of three. One far eastern, one African and me. Both her previous were bigger.

You might be wondering why I'm so bummed about it.... This is my second marriage. My ex wife also commented that her ex was longer and felt bigger.

So after the divorce, I avoided women and sex for four years. Then when I finally met my current wife... this happens. I thought my big dick ex worries were behind me.

**GettingOverIt** · 11-28-2020

Originally Posted by GettingOverIt

So... How common is 7" out there or more even? So far for my wife... it's 2 out of three. One far eastern, one African and me. Both her previous were bigger.

You might be wondering why I'm so bummed about it.... This is my second marriage. My ex wife also commented that her ex was longer and felt bigger.

So after the divorce, I avoided women and sex for four years. Then when I finally met my current wife... this happens. I thought my big dick ex worries were behind me.

Mr Play it safe was afraid to fly, waited his whole damn life to take that flight, and when the plane crashed down he thought, well isn't this nice.