is 7" really above average?

[Pegasus]

I definitely agree that mean women do this. My ex wife was definitely a dragon force to deal with. Very sadistic indeed. She's killed a bunny in her life out of jealousy towards her sister. So that's the height of mean for a girl that is.

I think my current wife probably perceived her ex longer and thicker since he was so ripped and probably had much less fat pad to hide his length. But then why can't she cum as easily as she did with him? Like 7by5 said, we're having hot sex and everything seems like it's going to hit, then splat, nothing, or a weak quick one. So for me, not bottoming out leaves room for doubt regarding her perception of size and feeds the myth.

Sounds like you have some head issues to deal with . I would start thinking of her sexual issues as a problem created by her.

[Jay1983]

My EX is tight. My EX was more active during sex. My EX would ride me like I was a pogo stick. My EX couldn't get enough of my dick. My EX couldn't keep her hands off me. My EX didn't cheat. My EX has nice tits, that she loved to massage my dick with. The way my EX twirled her tongue around my glans and banjo string was heavenly euphoric. My EX cherished my love juice, she didn't treat it like it was nasty food and just swallow it. My EX has extreme confidence and would shove her pussy in my face demanding me to make her cum with my tongue.

My EX...

[VIIby5]

I totally get what you feeling. Although I think for you, at least you bottom out so you know length isn't the issue. It could be a girth issue and that's easier sorted than gaining length.

Your length seems fine especially if you are bottom out. ULIS, erect bends and v jelqs or clamping can really do the job well. Also try the bundled stretching. I increased my girth quite well with these.

I know how it feels when everything is going well and you're thinking she's definitely going to cum and then poof it doesn't happen.

Did your wife allege that she had bigger or thicker?

Bolded. Nope thats not a factor at all. She was a virgin when we met.

[VIIby5]

If she orgasmed 80-90% of the time ten years ago and not now, the reason for the change is not likely the size of your dick. Women (and men) can get bored with their sex life and need something different to get off. Doesn't have to be a different mate, just something new sexually. It could also be female orgasmic dysfunction (FOD) that affects women of all ages, but can manifest more commonly in women over 45. It's estimated that 40-60% of women over 45 have some noticeable degree of FOD. Causes are all over the board, as are fixes. But a larger dick is rarely the answer and often just causes pain and/or worse FOD.

Try new things to turn her on. Make sure to give her clit attention, as alot of women can't orgasm from just PIV. But if you're bent on the dick size thing, buy a penis sleeve extender off Amazon - they're not expensive. Just a smaller one can get you easily to 8x6". I bought one for fun and she didn't like it. In fact, she thought I was nuts to buy it since I was already as big as she wanted. I ended up cutting it up into ball sack extender sleeves.

Reference FOD. That could definitely be a factor. She is 49. Another weird thing is she could never orgasm from PIV until she was about 38 but I do suspect she could have long before that though because she has told me she used to get the she has to pee/ pressure sensation during sex. From my understanding this is a common sensation in women when building up to an orgasm. She told me she would do stuff during sex to make the sensation go away because it felt to weird.. So it sounds like she used to sabotage her own orgasm. She has also told me she has never masturbated so her first was with me during sex.

About a sleeve. I did try one before. Didn't do anything for her. Same with a 8x6 realistic dildo. Didn't care for it but she did cum once on it though. She says its too thick and doesn't feel real enough.

I dont know what to think. For a near 10 year span orgasms came pretty easily for her. Sometimes within minutes of entry. She even had the occasional gushing orgasm and ones where I could strongly feel her contractions. Now the majority of the time she gets right to the edge and then it just doesn't happen. Then I keep mind f***ing myself thinking a big dick would have pushed her over the edge.

[Big Al]

If she orgasmed 80-90% of the time ten years ago and not now, the reason for the change is not likely the size of your dick. Women (and men) can get bored with their sex life and need something different to get off. Doesn't have to be a different mate, just something new sexually. It could also be female orgasmic dysfunction (FOD) that affects women of all ages, but can manifest more commonly in women over 45. It's estimated that 40-60% of women over 45 have some noticeable degree of FOD. Causes are all over the board, as are fixes. But a larger dick is rarely the answer and often just causes pain and/or worse FOD.

Try new things to turn her on. Make sure to give her clit attention, as alot of women can't orgasm from just PIV. But if you're bent on the dick size thing, buy a penis sleeve extender off Amazon - they're not expensive. Just a smaller one can get you easily to 8x6". I bought one for fun and she didn't like it. In fact, she thought I was nuts to buy it since I was already as big as she wanted. I ended up cutting it up into ball sack extender sleeves.

Fitness is usually an issue as women get older and the vagina isn't as fit as before. A Kegel regimen (which can be performed during sexual contact) can offer great benefits to women looking to improve their tightness and ability to orgasm.

[Physdoc]

Fitness is usually an issue as women get older and the vagina isn't as fit as before. A Kegel regimen (which can be performed during sexual contact) can offer great benefits to women looking to improve their tightness and ability to orgasm.

Yes, fitness can be an issue in older women. Before they start any significant exercise regimen, they should be checked by their gyno for tissue condition (most of their gynos will have already noted the tissue degeneration in the last annual exam). Many of them have thinner, degraded vaginal tissues and hormone replacement therapy can be tried to help rejuvenate the tissue which will enhance the exercise benefits.

[hulkman]

I am 7" bpel. My wife doesn't think it's big or large. I am the 3rd guy she's been with. Her last was a Congolese guy (Google that btw). When we first started having sex she and after I found out about her ex, I asked her and she said he was longer and thicker.
She knows I PE and the other we were talking and she said, "don't know why you're stressing, you're average!"
- OUCH!
This is why I can't really stay consistent with PE. I have no idea what length or girth would impress her. It sucks big time.
I'm afraid I may need to be 8" for her to notice any difference... from her ex.

To add insult to injury... She's only ever had to rub her clit during sex since being with me. She admitted once she's never had to before but said she didn't know why... I can take a good guess.

She's claims she feels me like she felt her ex, and gets up to orgasm the same way as she did with him... but there's been many occasions she' missed the orgasm. She's never missed one with him.
Now although she says she loves me way more etc. I conclude that at least physically in terms of size, it makes a difference to her.

I'm really struggling with this for years... it comes and goes but when it comes back to nag me, I PE and I feel really crap cos she knows my self esteem is down due to her ex being bigger.

I avoid sex with her most of the time and she's super sexy... so she knows I'm just shying away from her... but worse of all she probably knows it's because of you know who.

Anyway... so in my effed up world of sex, 7" is average and not impressive at all and cannot bottom out.

When I first met my wife, I asked if she ever been with anyone who was well endowed. She replied with a name quickly. Years later I brought that up and she claimed to not remember saying that or why she would. She claims I’m the biggest she has had and sex was a joke before me. I still to this day truly believe she is lying and knows she had larger in the past. It can destroy your relationship. It did for me. When we split up and I started having sex with other women they all commented how big I was. I thought they were fucking with me. One i couldn’t fit inside her. One said she had to recover from sex with me. There was also a girl who had been with a lot of people. I made a joke about being small and she laughed and said no, I was a good size. So I didn’t think she was impressed.

Bottom line it depends who you’re with and I know how hard it can be but you can’t let that destroy you as it has destroyed me. Continue with pe to try and achieve your goals. Btw foreplay is usually key

[Anewlife]

My EX is tight. My EX was more active during sex. My EX would ride me like I was a pogo stick. My EX couldn't get enough of my dick. My EX couldn't keep her hands off me. My EX didn't cheat. My EX has nice tits, that she loved to massage my dick with. The way my EX twirled her tongue around my glans and banjo string was heavenly euphoric. My EX cherished my love juice, she didn't treat it like it was nasty food and just swallow it. My EX has extreme confidence and would shove her pussy in my face demanding me to make her cum with my tongue.

My EX...

sounds good why did you break up then?

[GettingOverIt]

When I first met my wife, I asked if she ever been with anyone who was well endowed. She replied with a name quickly. Years later I brought that up and she claimed to not remember saying that or why she would. She claims I’m the biggest she has had and sex was a joke before me. I still to this day truly believe she is lying and knows she had larger in the past. It can destroy your relationship. It did for me. When we split up and I started having sex with other women they all commented how big I was. I thought they were fucking with me. One i couldn’t fit inside her. One said she had to recover from sex with me. There was also a girl who had been with a lot of people. I made a joke about being small and she laughed and said no, I was a good size. So I didn’t think she was impressed.

Bottom line it depends who you’re with and I know how hard it can be but you can’t let that destroy you as it has destroyed me. Continue with pe to try and achieve your goals. Btw foreplay is usually key

Thanks. Sorry to hear you split up. My wife does say that too ie. " I don't know why I said that before."
It can really annoy you cos you're not sure if it's just to shut you up, or cos she's pitying you.

Though I lean a lot towards it being true maybe.

I measured today and the tape was touching 18.5cm and I think I had a 90% erection. So the erect length is catching up with my bpfsl. I've been resting the past 4 days.

I am starting to think that she may have not had bigger than this current measurement. It would be really flippant bad luck if she did cos surely this size is rare even for black guys.

I wonder if it will get to 19cm over the next few weeks. But my size now looks really long from the top view. When I reach down to the base to grab a ULI it looks very long.

Guess that's a positive. I think one day while we're doing it, and super hard, im gonna pull it out and measure it in front of her eyes so she can finally get it.... I just hope she's not like, so what or something stupid that will crush me.... But She couldn't have had longer.

[Pegasus]

Whats with the "black guy " thing ?
There is no cogent evidence I have seen that "black guys" have larger erections and I am a mod on a dick site .

i repeat you need to control your head issues cause that is what this is.