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  • Same old problems :(

    So, brief little summary:

    I had Premature ejaculation my whole life, didn't realise it was a problem till a year and a half ago - started doing start stop technique to whilst distracting myself to lower my arousal. 2 months later had sex with what is now my ex and it was the first time I ever lasted longer than 3 minutes. Went for about half an hour and made her cum twice. At the time was really drunk so thought it was the drink that was giving me this power and used it as a crutch for the next 5 months which at the time was great and brought us so close, but eventually I couldn't do that anymore and the relationship took a turn.

    I've always been insecure about my dick (think watching lots of porn from an early age fucked me up - as I know what a big dick can do to a girl. Yes if you work it right you can still be great in bed which I've learned, but I want the feeling of knowing I can handle ANY girl, not just certain types of girls. Also the idea of being with another girl who's had guys bigger than me again is just something I don't want to face). I think if I hadn't seen so many success stories of guys growing their dicks on here I would be more willing to accept my current size, but I can't.

    Last year I bought a sizegenetics extender after seeing goodlookingloser's reviews on it. I was very naive and stupid with the extender and didn't take any safety precautions at all. Giving myself an ulcer and later some small swelling on the side of my shaft just below the glans where the strap was. This happened at the same time my ex broke up with me and it was probs one of the lowest times in my life. I always had PE as a crutch to make me feel good enough and now that was potentially gone forever with this unknown lump on my dick.

    For like 2 months I was so anxious about what was on my dick and if I'd ever be able to do PE again - depressed, sleepless nights and so on. Eventually I saved up enough money to see a specialist who told me it was nothing to worry about, just trapped lymphatic fluid. Biggest relief ever meaning that my dream and goals of who I want to be weren't dead.

    Also - during the whole lockdown I found a cure to my Pre-E and have recently had some of the best sex in my life and got lots of good feedback, but the way I manage to put in these performances is not sustainable (every 2 weeks I do a one day on, one day off, one day on, one day off stretching and jelqing routine which gets my length from 6.2 to 6.5... 6.75" if they are really good sessions) and take cialis before the sex to get my dick rock hard and as big as possible. But if I carry on this routine, the gains go back to my original size. I did this day on day off routine religiously for a year and saw some great gains but they never lasted and were so unpredictable. I'd do one session and be at 6.5" length, then do another session, thinking it went really well and I'd be back down to 6.2"

    I then found a new routine from a guy called fat tony who has had a similar PE journey to me. The routine is great, the only problem is I cannot maintain a high enough erection level for the jelqing without porn. But my Pre-E was caused by watching too much porn it fucks up my arousal And at the end of the day I would rather be my current size with great stamina, than a guy in the process of getting the dick he wants who's a 2 pump chump.

    After the small swelling on my shaft went down and I found out it was harmless, I decided to give the quick extender pro a go after reading a couple success stories & due to the fact I find the manual exercises so frustrating. Started today, the extender is great, no problems or pain at all, but surprise surprise the swelling has grown after just 4 hours of use. I'm not freaking out this time cause I know it's harmless, but if the swelling has grown after just 4 hours use. There's no way I'm gonna be able to persevere with this thing.

    This last week I've been sliding back into depression, because I'm a good looking guy, I'm funny, I'm confident, I'm good at talking to girls, I have loads of friends, I have great people skills, I've fixed my Pre-E, but I can't ever get into a relationship with a girl until I'm happy in myself, and I feel like I'll never be truly happy within myself until I have a bigger dick.

    I'm at a point now where I really don't know what to do. My ex is beautiful, like model beautiful and is out there being a hoe and I can't do the same cause I'm just not where I want to be.

    Do I just get through this last year of uni with my 2 week routine and only have great sex with girls I don't know or sacrifice my arousal and stamina and solely focus on my dick with fat tony's routine for the next 6 months. I think also due to my past experiences with PE I expect failure as I have never had any long term results with it despite so much time and dedication. Honestly at this point my head is fucked and I don't know what to do - seeking some motivation or anyone who has felt the same pain I'm feeling right now.

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    To be fair after taking the device off - the swelling has gone after an hour so I think we're all good lol - see how these next few days go

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    • #3
      Damn man...helluva story, but you need some tough love right now.

      Your dick is fine. You can please ANY woman. I know guys smaller than you that would give you a run for your money. A larger dick won't make you better or more superior in the bedroom. Girls really don't give a shit about dick size (disregarding the extremes of too big and too small). Tell a girl that you grew your dick an inch, they'll probably laugh. It's not that important to them.

      About your PE journey, you seem to be the overzealous type and this is what happens. 99% of PE is mental. I stand by that. You put too much of your value into your dick size. Stop that. Porn is not real. What you have seen in porn...is not real. You KNOW that you used to watch and believe in porn and that it has messed you up mentally. You are also an adult and it's time to repair your mind FIRST.

      You put too much of your self-worth into your dick. Yes, I said that twice. Think about it. You are slipping into depression because of your own perception about yourself. You could have a 9" and probably would still be in this same situation. PE will not work until you are solid with yourself. I take that back...there have been tons of people who have found "happiness" through making their dick bigger. It sounds silly. The reason they are happy is because their dick is bigger...

      My advice:
      Lay off the porn
      Get your EQ right
      Stare at yourself in the mirror without feeling ashamed

      You.Got.This
      1 inch at a time
      GOAL: +1.5 BPEL, +1 MEG
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      • #4
        I can relate to some of your situation. I split up from my ex, who also was "model beautiful", as you say about your ex. It was tough at first thinking she was out there romping around. I started dating pretty soon after the split-up and then had PreE and ED sometimes for the first time ever! WTF, I thought! I was pretty depressed about the whole thing.

        Fortunately, I fixed the PreE/ED thing with the help of a little blue pill to help me stay up and go to round two fast. I was over that probably within a month as my confidence came back. As it turns out my ex, who I imagined romping around, was meeting guys she didn't like much and ended up calling me back up and we started having great ex-sex. I'm not saying this to suggest you have ex-sex with your ex, only saying that your imagined state of her life is probably way better than it really is. It wasn't long and I realized the divorce was the best thing we could have done because she was toxic and I was happy for her to be another guy's problem. We've stayed in touch from time to time over the many years, and my god, I'm glad she's not my problem now and that it ended before it could have been REALLY expensive.

        On your dick bump thing - I got an injury doing PE last year that scared the crap out of me. I thought I might have ruined by dick forever. I thought all the same things you wrote about. I have a medical related PhD with lots of sexual health experience and I still couldn't quite figure out what I'd done to Mr. Happy. I was too embarrassed to go to my doc and hoped it would heal. Guess what, like the other guys have said here about recovery, my unit was back to his own self in not long at all. Shouldn't have freaked out so much.

        You said in your post that you're confident. I'm guessing your confidence is at a bit of a low right now. My advice to you right now is to stand up tall, be that confident guy you are and realize things aren't as rosy for others as you think and not nearly as bad for you as you think. I look back at my experiences and just wish some buddy would have just given me a "man-up" slap to knock me back to own self faster.
        Physdoc
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        Member of the Month July 2019
        Last edited by Physdoc; 10-02-2020, 11:59 AM.
        Start: BPEL 6.75', EG 5.8", BPFL 4.5", FG 4.7", BPFSL 7.0"
        05/2021: BPEL 7.65”, EG 6.0”, BPFL 5.8”, FG 5.0", BPFSL 8.0"
        Goal: BPEL 8.0", EG 6.0", BPFL 5.75" FG 5.0", BPFSL 8.5"

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        • #5
          Yeah to be fair we linked up in July and had banging sex so I hear you on that one

          The relationship ended with me cumming quick and being needy so it was nice to fuck her for like an hour straight after all my hard work to fix my pre-e over lockdown and leave things on a good note - even made her say "this is how I'll remember you" whilst I was choking her and she was cumming lol

          We didn't speak for like 2 weeks after she told me she was seeing another guy, but then similar to with you she called up saying she didn't actually like the guy and she wanted to meet again, so I guess you're right about what I imagine and what's actually happening - but she's so hot and cold with me. She'll call me up being all nice and laughy for a few days then go cold again which ofc means there's someone new in the picture and I think thats just what's being getting to me, but yeah what I imagine in my head probably isn't whats happening to the extent I think it is.

          But yeah bro, thankyou so much for the advice so nice to know I'm not the only one who's feeling this way - you're right in everything you say - if 2 years ago someone said I'd be in the situation that I'm in now and achieved the things I have I wouldn't have believed, but that just the way we are as human beings - always want more lol - really appreciate that though bro wish you all the best x
          Berry1010
          Senior Member
          Last edited by Berry1010; 10-02-2020, 12:54 PM.

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          • #6
            Do you mind sharing how you fixed your PE during lockdown? I am sure a lot of guys reading (me included!) are curious.

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            • #7
              The issues you describe appear to be more of the mind than anything wrong with your penis.

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              • #8
                i understand you bro, i also cant accept my current size because of all the succes stories. i also want the feeling of knowing i can handle any girl.

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                • #9
                  Roadto18cm we're in this together broski

                  Just an update - turned out Physdoc you were right bro!!

                  She has been sleeping with other guys but didn't actually like any of them - she came to mine last week and I fucked her for like half an hour she had to tap out after she came a few times - been asking me to come hers none stop since so thanks for the advice bro made me feel a lot better and you were right

                  Need to get out of this routine of fucking every 2 weeks when my dick is at it's biggest - yeah the sex is great and it makes me feel good for a week or so, but then I just avoid them for 2 weeks before I fuck them again - if I could get to the point where my dick is consistently 6.75" I'll take it

                  I can now edge to porn without hitting PONR so might start up fat tony's routine again and give this PE thing one more go before I give up

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                  • #10
                    Man, look at how far you've come. Seriously. Compare yourself to the lover you were a year ago, and allow yourself to celebrate what you've achieved. You worked for that. You put your mind to it and got it done. My hat's off to you.

                    I'd like to echo what Big Al said: you need to turn your focus to mental mastery. More specifically, I think you're stuck in a "self-fulfilling prophesy" loop. Simply stated, the unconscious mind has a lot more control over your body than you think it does. And whatever you BELIEVE will happen, your unconscious has the power to make happen. I'm not gonna say it's an easy thing to change, but neither is PreE, and you kicked its ass. Your mental imagery is the key here. Arnold Schwarzenegger used to imagine his muscles blowing up and filling the entire room while he was working out. I've been using a similar technique: when I'm stretching (my length routine is almost entirely manual stretches), I imagine it stretching to different points (such as to my chin if I'm stretching straight up, or past my knees if straight out). Your mental imagery is your conscious mind's way of telling the unconscious what you want to happen. And since the unconscious has "seen" it happen (it can't tell the difference between real and imagined), then it believes it CAN happen, and loosens the restrictions that prevent it.

                    That probably sounds a little bit like crazy-talk, but I swear by it

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Berry1010 View Post
                      Roadto18cm we're in this together broski

                      Just an update - turned out Physdoc you were right bro!!

                      She has been sleeping with other guys but didn't actually like any of them - she came to mine last week and I fucked her for like half an hour she had to tap out after she came a few times - been asking me to come hers none stop since so thanks for the advice bro made me feel a lot better and you were right

                      Need to get out of this routine of fucking every 2 weeks when my dick is at it's biggest - yeah the sex is great and it makes me feel good for a week or so, but then I just avoid them for 2 weeks before I fuck them again - if I could get to the point where my dick is consistently 6.75" I'll take it

                      I can now edge to porn without hitting PONR so might start up fat tony's routine again and give this PE thing one more go before I give up
                      Great to hear it! Congrats!
                      Start: BPEL 6.75', EG 5.8", BPFL 4.5", FG 4.7", BPFSL 7.0"
                      05/2021: BPEL 7.65”, EG 6.0”, BPFL 5.8”, FG 5.0", BPFSL 8.0"
                      Goal: BPEL 8.0", EG 6.0", BPFL 5.75" FG 5.0", BPFSL 8.5"

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by BundleUp View Post
                        Man, look at how far you've come. Seriously. Compare yourself to the lover you were a year ago, and allow yourself to celebrate what you've achieved. You worked for that. You put your mind to it and got it done. My hat's off to you.

                        I'd like to echo what Big Al said: you need to turn your focus to mental mastery. More specifically, I think you're stuck in a "self-fulfilling prophesy" loop. Simply stated, the unconscious mind has a lot more control over your body than you think it does. And whatever you BELIEVE will happen, your unconscious has the power to make happen. I'm not gonna say it's an easy thing to change, but neither is PreE, and you kicked its ass. Your mental imagery is the key here. Arnold Schwarzenegger used to imagine his muscles blowing up and filling the entire room while he was working out. I've been using a similar technique: when I'm stretching (my length routine is almost entirely manual stretches), I imagine it stretching to different points (such as to my chin if I'm stretching straight up, or past my knees if straight out). Your mental imagery is your conscious mind's way of telling the unconscious what you want to happen. And since the unconscious has "seen" it happen (it can't tell the difference between real and imagined), then it believes it CAN happen, and loosens the restrictions that prevent it.

                        That probably sounds a little bit like crazy-talk, but I swear by it
                        Sorry about the late reply broski only just seen this!

                        Thankyou so much bro you're right, I think that's what I've been doing for the last 2 months - just enjoying being happy and how far I've come! The sex I've been having for the last 5 months was once every blue moon before, now it's a consistent thing! Sometimes I do just take a second and see how far I've come so thanks for that bro, so nice to know I have people on here who are looking out for me - I'm gonna try that advice when I start my new routine soon, all the best bro x

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                        • #13
                          I have moved this thread here to the Premature ejaculation forum. I believe this is where you will find the help you need based on how you have described the situation and are more likely to get help from members that have had similar issues.

                          Your penis size is fine, in fact, it is above average.
                          Going an inch and 1/2 deeper than before

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                          • #14
                            I can relate to your story. Thanks sharing.

                            Can you share how did you cure your Pre E?
                            5/2019 Start: 5,2" NBPEL X 4,35" MEG
                            10/2019 Bundled stretch: 5,6" NBPEL X 4,35"MEG
                            10/2019 - 2/2020 Girth Exersices: on/off and no gains
                            7/2020 Erect stretch: 6,25" NBPEL X 4,35" MEG

                            Short term goal: 7" NBPEL X 5,5" MEG
                            Long term goal: 8" NBPEL X 6,2" MEG

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