The sad reality of having a small penis

[Outer_Heaven Member Find all posts View Profile Close Outer_Heaven]

I want to tell a story today, my story. I have no one I can talk to about this issues, this place is the only place where I can vent to people who can understand my cursed situation.

I'm a young black man, very good looking and in shape. Have a good social life and a moderate social circle. In my social circle I'm know as the ladies man, I'm usually the one who gets with most women and as a result of this I've slept with more than a hundred girls.

I've never thought much of it, I was just fulfilling my sexual desires and stroking my enormous ego. Until one day the reality started creeping in... maybe I have a penis that is considered small by a lot of girls. At first I didn't believe it, I had this thought at the back of my mind for a long time but I never fully succumbed to it. Maybe my ego was putting me in denial but I just refused to believe I was small, even when girls were mocking me to my face I was still refusing to accept the facts. I was thinking it was just spiteful insults done by women to insult my fragile ego.

Years went by, my confidence in bed was slowly growing but the truth was too obvious for me to escape. You guys probably know the stereotypes around black guys, and girls my age sleep around a lot more compared to previous generation so they quickly find out what's the ideal size. Well, it turns out I'm not the ideal size... In fact I'm considered small.

My decline started this summer, slept with a few girls in a row and been called small and refused further sex by 2-3 girls in a short time span. Was this a new occurrence ? My ego kept telling me yes, but the truth is that this has always been my reality. I'm only able to have sex once with most girls I deal with, after the first time I either get blocked or just messed around with excuses to why they can't meet again. It wasn't until I sat down and forced myself to be honest that I realised that there was definitely something wrong, I had no problem sleeping with women but I found it impossible to keep a fuck buddy. Something was up... And I had to confirm my doubts... Which I did.

Recently I started contacting girls I slept with in the past and asking explanation as to why they don't want to entertain sex with me anymore (Pathetic I know, but I had to know the truth). Keep in mind that most girls never initially admitted the problem was my size so that fueled my ignorance over the issue. After pressing and insisting, most girls admitted that I was too small for them. A few told me I was the smallest they have ever been with. Now u can imagine how this felt, especially to a guy who was living in denial and was convinced of having a good size. Admission after admission, I became addicted to contacting previous partner and confirming this pattern. Well... The results have been clear. And today I received another few confirmations...

My ego is crushed and I'm depressed, I don't even have the strength to follow PE routines. Which is ironic because this experience should motivate me to take PE seriously. I have lost the will to pursue most activities and I've became a shell of my former self.

The truth is that I feel like I've been defeated and already lost. Who knows how many times I've been mocked by girls during sleep overs ? My crushed ego doesn't even allow me to sleep or function normally, I have been broken and ridiculed for most of my life without even being aware of it.

Sorry for the long post... just wanted to rant to people, if you've read this far I thank you for your time. Hopefully my story doesn't depress you like it does to me. Please if u have experiences to share feel free...

It's over for me.


My size is 5.5 nbel 5.5 eg

[Cunny Linguist Senior Member Member of the Month May 2021 Find all posts View Profile Close Cunny Linguist]

Sorry to be blunt, but you can either sit around feeling sorry for yourself or you can use it as motivation to do something about it. The choice is yours and yours alone. If you want to do something about it then focus your energy on reaching where you want to be, not where you are. There's a lot of different techniques out there. Look at your lifestyle and see if one of them would work best for you. There's lots of people on this thread that will help and encourage you, but you've got to start by helping yourself first. Very first thing is you need to decide what defines your self worth. Do you really define your self worth by getting laid?

[Alex1988 Senior Member Member of the Month Aug 2021PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Alex1988]

Hey Outer_Heaven,

look for the positives. You already have a very good way over average girth.

Find a pe routine that you can stick with.

Try different things and maybe even invest into a pe device.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Umm you are over average size.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Okay let's cut the shit, life is too short to mope over crap like this.

Seriously bro, mope over my broken pinky toe instead.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

5.5 NBPEL x 5.5 girth is well within the average range. I kept my wife happy for 40 years with a 4.5 x 4.4 dick. I think you need to concentrate on improving your performance in bed or choice of partners. Those were some nasty bitches you slept with.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

5.5 NBPEL x 5.5 girth is well within the average range. I kept my wife happy for 40 years with a 4.5 x 4.4 dick. I think you need to concentrate on improving your performance in bed or choice of partners. Those were some nasty bitches you slept with.

Actually it is over average . The 5.5" girth is circa 2 standard deviations over depending on the study . certainly over average regardless of the study .
The 5.5" nbpel given average fat pad is half to an inch on an average guy is over average also .

The op has head issues he needs to deal with .

[ny86 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ny86]

It seems like having 100 partners for both men and women becomes psychologically detrimental at some point where people no longer commit to emotionally stable relationships because they chase body parts or other shallow pursuits. You’re slightly above average by many standards. If average penis size is an issue, half of human civilization would be in crisis by now where men are 4.5” or less.

[Outer_Heaven Member Find all posts View Profile Close Outer_Heaven]

Thanks for the responses, I just needed to vent. I'm aware I'm average, but for girls in my age group average is small. They are used to 7 inches minimum, that's the harsh truth and no they're not exaggerating.

Anyway I've finished feeling sorry for myself, I'm gonna get back to my routine with my new extender. Wish me luck

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Thanks for the responses, I just needed to vent. I'm aware I'm average, but for girls in my age group average is small. They are used to 7 inches minimum, that's the harsh truth and no they're not exaggerating.

Anyway I've finished feeling sorry for myself, I'm gonna get back to my routine with my new extender. Wish me luck

I started smaller than you, only one partner thought. And like N2B never acumplaint. I think your searching for answers from past lovers was a mistake, kinda Troll like, don’t ya think? Perhaps, just perhaps they knew you were full of yourself and moved on. Did you ever ask any of them if they were just looking for a fuck buddy? Or. Did they go in looking for a relationship, just to find out you were a player?
So, in that case? What would a woman’s pay back be, given he’s asking her size questions?

[Alwaysbbetter Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Alwaysbbetter]

Something doesn't quite add up here...Your saying that you banged around 100 females, which is a pretty solid number for a guy...It seems like your confidence is way low, yet you had enough confidence to go through 100 women...

I think sometimes black guys have it rough as the bar is set way high...Pop culture seems obsessed with the whole black size thing, but what if you are just normal...Are you smashing all types, black, white latina Asian or mainly black women? I'm curious to know that...Also, you said your pretty young so maybe you getting with a lot of chicks that play into the whole black guy size thing and they have high expectations for you...Sometimes, young immature girls are looking for an image or stereotype...maybe your getting with a lot of girls looking to fulfill a fantasy and due to society they have overly high expectations...

I agree with the other poster in that you shouldn't bother going back to pump old females you screwed for info...You kind of set yourself up for those responses...Its possible you played some of these chicks and they have a grievance with you...

In any case, your young and you can work on this if you wish...I read plenty of stories on here about guys having about your size and getting up into the 7s...Look at it this way, at least your good with women so just improve your bedroom game and you should be good...

[ggrrgg Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ggrrgg]

I'm aware I'm average, but for girls in my age group average is small. They are used to 7 inches minimum, that's the harsh truth and no they're not exaggerating.

If your sample girl had 100 guys, only 1.4 of them would be bigger than 7 inches. Do you really want to deal with any girl that had 100 guys? If she had 50 guys (which for me is also too much and very rare for normal woman)..but lets say if she had 50..than only 0.7 of these guys would be 7 inches. This means that only 1 or 0 of these 50 guys for most of these girls would be 7 inches or more.

Am really wondering.. why would you ever say this that they are used to 7 inches minimum? Am really curious ..(maybe I am missing something in your background story ..are they in porn industry or similar..)

[cranky1 Member Find all posts View Profile Close cranky1]

Thanks for the responses, I just needed to vent. I'm aware I'm average, but for girls in my age group average is small. They are used to 7 inches minimum, that's the harsh truth and no they're not exaggerating.

Anyway I've finished feeling sorry for myself, I'm gonna get back to my routine with my new extender. Wish me luck

No, you are not average you are above average. And it has nothing to do with "age group", just the particular girls you are hanging with. For what it's worth, your size is almost exactly the same as mine, and I have never had any complaints or comments about it. But admittedly I am a white guy, I suppose with some types of girls being black it could shift the posts a bit as to "expectations". Good to hear you have finished feeling sorry for yourself, now get growing my good man!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Thanks for the responses, I just needed to vent. I'm aware I'm average, but for girls in my age group average is small. They are used to 7 inches minimum, that's the harsh truth and no they're not exaggerating.

Anyway I've finished feeling sorry for myself, I'm gonna get back to my routine with my new extender. Wish me luck

Girls in your age group are used to the same as other age groups average . For f sake 7" minimum look just use your head a moment and do the math on that ,

[Liam Strong Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Liam Strong]

Thanks for the responses, I just needed to vent. I'm aware I'm average, but for girls in my age group average is small. They are used to 7 inches minimum, that's the harsh truth and no they're not exaggerating.

Anyway I've finished feeling sorry for myself, I'm gonna get back to my routine with my new extender. Wish me luck

Good Luck ; )