I started out keeping it a secret, but once I started pumping it became almost impossible to keep the equipment hidden. So one day while not performing up to par, I brought out my pump and showed her how big it got in the cylinder which I think impressed her somewhat. However, her only comment was "You are going to hurt yourself." I still don't do anything in front of her, but I don't have to hide anything either. Albeit temporary, I'm still waiting for her to comment on my pumped girth. It seems we are following a don't ask, don't tell policy.