Thread: What for?
- 01-02-2011 #71
Porn doesn't help; media doesn't help (the number of times pop music references large packages astounds me); actress talking about their ex's sizes doesn't help -- we are bombarded with it everyday, especially in the gay community, which is one reason I tend to avoid the gay scene.
I didn't realize how insecure I was about my dick until I started PE and how that insecurity seeped into everything else. Being able to talk on these forums and make incremental gains is like being born again.
I'm not doing this for my lover and I'm certainly not doing it for women, although when a woman kept checking out my bulge at the airport the other day I didn't mind I'm doing this for me so I can walk confidently do the street and shower in public. If a conversation about dick size comes up, I can sit back and relax knowing that I have PE as my secret weapon to do what no one seems to think is actually possible -- getting bigger. And that my friends is PRICELESS.STATS:
Start (Aug '10) -- BPEL 6" x 6" -- BPFSL 5.75" x 3.5"
BPEL 7.5" x 6.5"
- 01-02-2011 #72
- Join Date
- Dec 2010
For example in University the one crowd of all male students I had the misfortune of hanging around with wouldn't shut up bragging how big they were, doing the usual bragging of claiming how many women they were getting into bed as a result and constantly obsessing about how big guys passing by were. Being naive and lacking street smarts as much I was, I fell for what I realised years later was machismo masking psychological signs of outright insecurity from them too and a weak attempt to pull other guys down (which worked on me).
I recall at the time how I believed I was also below average, when I wasn't at all, and perhaps it indeed would be a better idea to avoid sex in order to avoid humiliation. Having been brought up in a socially conservative and serious environment I struggled also to deal with the new open sexuality and confront the stupid hang ups brought on by what I regard now as having been a part of others overall tactics of trying to pull themselves up a perceived social ladder of self worth at the expense of others generally. Unfortunately my first serious girlfriend also had the attitude that 'bigger is better' and told me in detail how she enjoyed her previous 9''+ boyfriends. But now I'm not sure whether it wasn't actually more about an agenda of manipulation.
I remember too how poor quality 'mens magazine' mass media started appearing, stating in articles that the world average size was just shy of 9'' and how they recycled such stories when they were short on material for some editions. This also was part of an unusual element at the time of when I was in my late High School and University days. South Africa was being exposed to on a mass scale very rapidly to the proliferation of porn with really well endowed male pornstars (among other things) after Apartheid had ended. Given how the Internet also made its appearance then I can see now how there was just this surge of material, which garnered attention to unrealistic claimed endowments for some men.
I suppose that dovetails into why I'm here to increase my size. Even though I have since been complimented by subsequent ex's the above has left a psychological mark where I doubt the sincerity of their words and that fuels the push for my goals. Namely for personal confidence, to please the next potential girlfriend and for myself. I like to think I've at least gotten over the fear of undoing my pants in moments of intimacy.
Last edited by Shambok; 01-02-2011 at 12:48 PM. Reason: Grammar and spelling
- 01-02-2011 #73
- 01-03-2011 #74
- Join Date
- Dec 2010
Heh, yeah you have.
My own stats? My last measurement was 7.7'' BPEL and 5.5'' EG / 5.0 BPFL and 4.2 FG. I think my BPEL may have meantime been roughly 7.3'' when I started PE'ing, just I was very lax in measuring at the start as I was also initially skeptical of PE. Of course I now believe in it after my own gains.
But once again there's the bit of problem of psychology in my mind. I have seen all the charts saying that my size might well put me in the top 10% of all men in terms of size but I just don't 'feel' big. Only when I'm BPEL 8''+ and EG 6.0''+ will I likely start to believe I am.
- 01-05-2011 #75
That's exactly what it is. Psychological issues.
- 01-05-2011 #76
- Join Date
- Jan 2008
- The Motherlode
Just wanted mine to work again, the size gains were a pleasant side effect.
For I will restore health unto thee and I will heal thee of thine wounds, saith the Lord Jeremiah 30:17
- 01-05-2011 #77
- 01-06-2011 #78
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- Dec 2010
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late to this, so here goes. Just to add my name to the roster.
I'm doing it for me. pure and simple.
This past year I've been on quite the self improvement journey. I spent far too long down in the dumps after a messy breakup with a girl I really loved, and I'd developed a Premature Ejac problem that I couldn't shake whch was starting to give me massive anxiety about meeting women and keeping my next girlfriend past our first shag. I'd probably still be there, but one day last year I had a fairly serious health scare. It turned out to be ok, but in the few days between the onset of that and actually being treated I went on quite a reflective journey. So I decided enough was enough, I wasn't going to be at the mercy of my health, how I happened to feel at that time, and what happened to occur in my life, I was going to take control of my head, heart and life, I was going to claim every experience I could from the rest of my life and in doing so damn well fix the things that I wasn't satisfied with.
As a result of various self-improvement journies since I've gotten rid of almost all my limiting insecurities, especially with women, and dismissed a whole load of fears I didn't even realise I had. One of those journies was to become as good a lover as I could be. And I know I've become far better as a result too. Partly from doing the talking and reading that I should have done when I was a teenager instead of getting high on pills and dope. Partly because I've finally learnt that giving is better than taking, and that you receive a lot more this way anyway, not that that matters. Partly because in not fretting about me, I now have time to concern myself with finding out about other people, which is way more rewarding.
The confidence that this change in outlook has instilled in me is astronomical. Life changing. And something I discovered as a result was that I had no reason to shy away from the things I was sensitive or embarrassed about. Just do it, right? So I was reading everything I could about seriously tacking my PEjac problem, determined to get that licked, and I ended up here. I'd tried jelqing briefly just to see what happened probably 8 years ago and it didn't go very well. There wasn't a lot of info at the time, and I put it to the back of my mind. So anyway I was looking around the site here and it became apparent that a *lot* of people were seeing real gains and there was a lot more info, and in my new, have-a-go state of mind I thought shit, if I can *actually* slap an inch or two on this, without a huge lifestyle change and lots of complicated equipment, well I'm in.
So it's purely for selfish reasons. not because I think that makes me better in bed, I know that's in the mind, but because I want the cherry on the top of great sex to be her telling her mates "...and he was pretty big down there too". Because I want to surprise people when the time comes to get it out of my pants. Because I want to feel way better than average, hell I want to be way better than average, and because I know that only happens by chance to one in a million people.
Well.. that was more information than I expected to write!
Last edited by spanky; 01-06-2011 at 12:48 AM. Reason: final comment"I want to go to my death bed one day knowing that even when my heart led me into the fire, I fucking did it anyway, and I have the story to tell."
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- 02-17-2011 #79
never had a complaint, but think having a larger healthier cock for the wife and I to enjoy would be great!