How to let your son in on PE

**spanky** · 02-17-2011

Originally Posted by somebodyelse

HOnestly, What about like someone else said... just leave a book on their bed or on the coffee table, or something. something they'll find easily but for their eyes only. If you want leave a note on the inside. "Read this, it'll change your life -Dad" or something.

I think this is a really cool idea. Obviously needs a bit of tact and care, but yeah, I like this. With the note.

**Hockey_NY** · 02-17-2011

I don't know...I think it kind of goes against the whole bond thing and doing the right thing here- Where, if you must talk to your son about PE, at least make sure he is getting good firsthand advice on it.

**deleteduser** · 02-19-2011

Leaving the book for your son is a good way to introduce PE to your son and "break the ice" on the subject, but then I think it's important to have those continued talks after that. At first it may be a little uncomfortable, but after a while it'll be normal. I base that on my friends and family that I've told about PE and all of them are cool with it, even if they don't do it.

As for not wanting them to see what you post, I would imagine that since they're adults 1. they can handle it. and 2. if they find stuff they don't want to see, they won't read it. I wouldn't worry too much about that at all. They are men with sexual urges just like you and realize that couples have sex.

**mustbcrazy** · 02-19-2011

That would of made me feel really weird to have someone put a book on my bed for me to read. What if he thinks that you know he has a small penis??? Not a good idea. This is not a topic, it should be a small conversation attached to the sex topic. My dad never said anything to me about sex, and it would have made me feel weird if he started to when I turned 15 or 16 years old. I think that I will be very honest and open with my kids as much as I can about sex and related topics. It is the greatest gift that we recieve as humans, and the same for all other animals. For some reason we have been taught to feel ashamed about our sexuality. I thought I was gay because I liked touching myself. Even though I was thinking about women, I was stroking a penis. I was 17 before I admited that I masterbate to my friends. It is human nature and I dont want to shy away from it. I don't know if it is right or wrong, but it is what it is, and it is what you make it. I'm 33 now, I wish I would've found out about it when I was a lot younger.

**somebodyelse** · 02-19-2011

That's the thing...

I don't know how you would deal with a father/son situation. I didn't really have one so I had to find out most of my stuff on my own. But my mom told me when I was probably 7 or 8 years old that if I ever had a question about my "private parts" that i should ask her without fear. "I'd rather you learn it from me than out on the streets" is what i remember she told me.

So I've always had an open line, and I used it from time to time. I asked her what a Condom was when she told me that because I'd heard my older sister talking about it before. She told me exactly what it was, told me how it was used and I was totally flabbergasted as a child, but I knew that if I had any more questions, that I could ask...

I think that should be the age you get at your kids, it worked for me. I just wish I had a male figure around to help me learn about myself.

The book idea was good to me because I saw it as opening the discussion up. I would later ask him if he received it and got a chance to look at it. Personally, if it was done to me, I would be weird about it but as soon as I was asked about it, i would have many questions and look for more information... That's just the type of person I am. you introduce me to something new I want to know about it LOL!

**Wolfmesser** · 02-19-2011

Originally Posted by not2big

Hay, shortdog. Just make sure the boys get enough zinc while going through puberty. I am the only male in my family with a small dick and I feel that zinc could have helped. Not a guarantee, but it can't hurt. Better safe than sorry.

I really think that you might be on to something here not2big, because if you think about it, the penis goes trough growth during puberty, and anything that requires sufficient growth throughout life and more importantly puberty, requires good nutrition its alot like height. For example, As a child, when I lived with my mother, I had very good nutrition, my mother always made sure that I got adequate vegetables, meat and milk, and she made me take my viatimins, and I was also a very avid swimmer. I remember when going to see the doctor when I was 9 or 10 the doctor commented on how I had grown a lot in the time span and he told my mom that if my lifestyle had continued the way it was, he predicted that my final adult height would be 6'1"-6'2". Well, when I was 13 I started going through a rebeliuous phase and went to go live with my dad and well, needless to say I did not recieve adequate nutrition, and to top things off, my childhood active lifestyle had disappeared, I ate whatever I wanted, stopped taking viatimins and I was not active one bit, in fact I was very lazy, Today Im just over 5'11". With regard to penis size and nutrition, I feel that the same thing applies, all through puberty, as I stated I was fat and lazy, and as I result, I topped at 5.8x4. So I do think that lifestyle has a large part to do with it, how you turn out in size, spearheaded by gentetics.

**deleteduser** · 02-19-2011

Originally Posted by mustbcrazy

That would of made me feel really weird to have someone put a book on my bed for me to read. What if he thinks that you know he has a small penis??? Not a good idea. This is not a topic, it should be a small conversation attached to the sex topic. My dad never said anything to me about sex, and it would have made me feel weird if he started to when I turned 15 or 16 years old. I think that I will be very honest and open with my kids as much as I can about sex and related topics. It is the greatest gift that we recieve as humans, and the same for all other animals. For some reason we have been taught to feel ashamed about our sexuality. I thought I was gay because I liked touching myself. Even though I was thinking about women, I was stroking a penis. I was 17 before I admited that I masterbate to my friends. It is human nature and I dont want to shy away from it. I don't know if it is right or wrong, but it is what it is, and it is what you make it. I'm 33 now, I wish I would've found out about it when I was a lot younger.

I agree with you that sexuality is treated as shameful in our society, which translates into shame about masturbation, PE, etc. Slowly the stigma of masturbation is being lifted. I know personally several of my buddies whose dads told them that it's normal for guys to jack off, and their viewpoint was much different than my buddies who were brought up with it being shameful. I'm willing to bet the same is true if you let your son in on PE. If you make it normal, it will be normal. If you make it shameful, that's what it will be.

**spanky** · 02-20-2011

Originally Posted by higherone

I agree with you that sexuality is treated as shameful in our society, which translates into shame about masturbation, PE, etc. Slowly the stigma of masturbation is being lifted. I know personally several of my buddies whose dads told them that it's normal for guys to jack off, and their viewpoint was much different than my buddies who were brought up with it being shameful. I'm willing to bet the same is true if you let your son in on PE. If you make it normal, it will be normal. If you make it shameful, that's what it will be.

This. Times one million.

**irheretogrow** · 02-20-2011

I've got a question, I don't know if this is the right place to ask it but I'll ask
If you inherit a 5 inch unit from your father and you do PE and grow up to 7-8 inches will your son inherit a 5 inch unit or 7-8 ?
sorry for the stupid question but I was just wondering...

**Hockey_NY** · 02-20-2011

Originally Posted by irheretogrow

I've got a question, I don't know if this is the right place to ask it but I'll ask
If you inherit a 5 inch unit from your father and you do PE and grow up to 7-8 inches will your son inherit a 5 inch unit or 7-8 ?
sorry for the stupid question but I was just wondering...

It doesn't work like that at all. You may get something from your mom's side..Could be more like your grandfather, mix of both family's, etc.

IE- You dad may be 6 inches. You may be 8. Your son may be 7. etc. In terms of PE- I couldn't answer if after time the larger dick actually gets passed down. It would take generations though, if it is possible. Though, I doubt it. It is more so a self improvement procedure.