How to let your son in on PE

**iminsoluble** · 10-17-2011

I want to be as open as I can be with my son when he is older, luckily for me I have at least 10 years yet before he hits puberty

However, I think PE can do a lot more for him then just "cosmetic" or self esteem issues. I've been lucky in that I never experienced premature ejaculation when I have been with a girl. Unfortunately I cannot say the same for the countless men who've been the topics of many conversations my ex-girlfriends would joke about with their friends!

I think its a part of my duty as a father (and member of the male species) to help educate my son on his body and the acts of sex as performed by a man. Hell I didn't know what it meant to be circumcised until I started seeing an influx of porn with non circumcised men in it back in the early 2000's. I want my son to know what premature ejaculation is, what circumcision is and the countless other issues males tend to deal with alone because nobody bothered to explain this stuff to them during puberty.

Safe sex is important, so if he doesn't know that condoms come in different sizes he's going to deal with the same crap I did because I was buying the wrong "type". Nobody told me Trojans were smaller than Durex or "tight fit" was meant for "smaller guys" and that if your ripping condoms during sex you need a larger size..not that you're doing something wrong or "its normal to happen". Unless health class has changed since I was in high school that type of stuff was never discussed. They are too focused on telling everyone that they are all the "same" that all that's left is making those who are "not" feel awkward and afraid to ask about it. We need to break away from this "we are the world, everyone is the same" crap because it's just fueling the insecurities of men all over. (and don't even get me started on the lack of shower taking in gym classes now!)

So while I agree that the main focus should be to make your son feel as comfortable with his body as possible I think its also important that he understands that if he does have some short comings that their might be ways he could overcome them both physically and emotionally. Nothing would make me more proud as a father than to be the one who my son comes to for advice. How do I expect him to do that if I'm not completely honest with him about the problems some men (and possibly him) face?

While I might not give him a PE manual, I'd tell him their are exercises available that can help with certain "issues" if he feels he needs them. His overall health and well being are my main concern; so when hes older and a new chapter in his life begins we are going to have a talk that I hope will help him become an educated and well rounded young man.

**IfWishesWereFishes** · 10-17-2011

I would pass out napped on my futon and leave the book in a small duffel bag a foot or two in front of the futon. I would leave the duffel bag a little open too. Apparently for me this means to everybody else LOOK in the duffel bag and search thoroughly. It's happened 3 times... One time a parent found my extender I'm pretty sure. One time my best friend found my extender. The last time my elder brother found the book and I was half asleep. I heard him chuckle so I barely opened my eyes and saw him flipping through it. Bastard my friend borrowed his computer before and my hard cock before and I'm apparently at least a glans bigger than him. From that day on my brother acts like he is even better than me. More than he did before he saw that book.

Sorry for the story not that anybody cares about I just can't tell anybody.

**blulite** · 10-17-2011

you can tell us... thats what the gyms here for. complete comfidence and ablity to discuss anything without anyone knowing who you are.

even if they did its such a good atmosphere around here. ad lets face it were all hear for a reason.

**IfWishesWereFishes** · 10-20-2011

Well thanks blulite

**actionbuddy** · 12-03-2011

This is an incredible thread. Some great ideas here. I'm impressed with how many members are open minded and caring enough to include PE as a topic with their sons... without it being about shame!

I wish my father had known about PE and included info about it in our "man to man" talks as a teen. I asked him a lot of questions, which he answered intelligently and honestly, lucky for me. One day he came home from the library with 4 or 5 books about sex education for me to read... I sure wish one of them had been about PE, because matters of size was the one thing I was afraid to ask him about.

**The Kidd** · 12-03-2011

As a young man of 19 id say that the first time i catch him watching porn or catch him masturbating ill bring it up and be honest how it all started with me and that it really does matter but just like everything else it takes time and patience but with that time and patience just like always, great things will come about

**HardOn** · 12-03-2011

I'm 17 and I think bringing up a PE talk with your son would be most beneficial.
Thought, I really do not think you should talk about the size aspect at first, because it could make some kids extremely self-conscious about their size, and lead to never be satisfied with it. Sure, that's my personal oppinion.

As someone who never got a son to parent sex talk, I've discovered all of it by myself (luckly I'm a curous person). I know the thread is about penis enlargement, but just adding a point about premature ejaculation here, because you could very well prevent your son's from suffering from it, at first.

If ever you have a sex talk, talking to him about general PE could only be beneficial, but I suggest not to go too much into detail's, unless he asks; make it basic. If he's interested, he'll go and search by himself, and possibly come back to you with what he found out !
Now, about premature ejaculation, I only suggest you telling him that holding a kegel while masturbating, wich would make him finish off faster would make his body more and more used to reaching the ejaculation point faster, that's how the body works !

Just my two cents.

HardOn

**NiKtaMeR** · 01-02-2012

very thoughtful advice hardON!

**Dr Pepper** · 05-31-2012

I would only bring up PE to my son if i wanted to risk him having erectile dysfunction as well as body dysmorphic disorder (like most forum members)

He will be perfect however he is unless he has a medical condition (micro penis). The risks outweigh the potential benefits for average sized men. Unless he has a tiny penis i might consider hormone therapy for him. But to introduce him to PE? More barbaric that circumcision. Look at the injury forum. These are someone's son's. Imagine if you were the ones to refer them.

**BigO** · 05-31-2012

No one what so ever, should be introduced to PE before they are 18. Maybe even older. Young men have way to many other things to worry about, if they have an issue they think needs attention they will hunt on their own like every body who is here now.

Just a friendly reminder, if we get back to discussions about children under 18 this thread will be closed. Have fun and enjoy the thread.