How to let your son in on PE

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Originally Posted by Jama

This is turning into quite the discussion! I will say that it varies for all kids how physically and emotionally they are developed. So it's in the hands of thee parent, but there are definitely some factors that need to be discussed or looked at. Like proper natural development, chance of injury, mental/emotional instabilities or insecurities, many things like these can happen if a child is introduced at the wrong age. Which is kind of a flip of the coin anyways if they're mature and ready. But I know of a kid at my old high school that confessed to me and a friend in the 8th grade he hung weights from his dick along with taped it to his leg for a stretch. At that age we were completely. Shocked and freaked out by this. Although later on down the years in our life through showering together, turns out he was hung. Definitely alot of length on him. I dont know about girth cuz he said he could stick it in a Gatorade bottle. I do remember the kid once in the shower wrapping his dick around his nutsack almost twice.

Many things u can take from that story. Also I must mention he was "that guy" who always would show it off and shake it at ppl. He also(don't know if this is PE related) had urinating problems. Like he would pee for 5 min and it would just dribble out not a steady stream like most people.

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I was only speaking of a light manual PE when I started this thread. I never even thought of hanging. To me, that's WAY too hardcore for any teen to do!

You bring up some interesting points. Like someone mentioned earlier about the Jedi force, if you're going to introduce your son to PE you better be ready to monitor his attitude and guide him to be humble and remind him that people can't stand "that guy" who brags. That's a good life lesson to teach your son not only about PE, but about being a good athlete, scholar, etc. I really think the main thing is your bond with your son. Letting him in on PE is just another layer to your bond after you have established it with your son through mutual interests such as sports, hunting, fishing, camping, boating, talking with him, etc.

I agree it varies for all kids how physically and emotionally they are developed. That's where your bond with your son and talking with him on a regular basis come in.

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Originally Posted by not2big

I've spent 55 years embarassed about my size and only wish I had been aware of PE when my sons were teenagers (13+) so I could have had the opportunity to introduce them to PE and supplements (zinc) at that stage of their life when harmones were having the optimum effect on their masculinity. As I mentioned in a previous post. I personally find it extremely difficult to approach them in their 30's as they lead their lives separately from mine.

IMO, 10 is much too early to even discuss the fringes of PE. When I was 10, the only thing I knew about my dick was that it was used to pee with. I suppose, however, a proper introduction into the future use of my dick might be a good preparation for future PE education.

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not2big, they're your sons and they're going to love you no matter what. Letting them in on PE will be a little awkward, I'm sure. Once it's done, though, it's done. The cat's out of the bag. You trust them and love them, so even if you worry about how they'll react, they're still your sons and still going to love you as their dad. It's hard to be open about about PE because it's not regarded the same way as masturbation or regular exercise. When you think about it though, all guys masturbate, so what's the big deal with PE? It's still touching yourself, just with a different purpose.

I agree that 10 seems very young to bring up PE. I'm not judging any father who chooses this for their son, because you know your son's maturity level best and how much or little you're letting your son in on PE. For example, maybe he's just saying "after you pee tug on your pp up, down, left and right in the bathroom at home before you put it away." That is technically PE but not much to it. I personally would wait until my son is masturbating because PE does have a sexual aspect to it.

Pirate posted this in another thread, but I thought it pertained well to the guys who are thinking about letting their sons in on PE: Your emotional maturity is really the question. Successful PE requires both discipline (to achieve results) and restraint (to avoid injury.)

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Originally Posted by not2big

I've spent 55 years embarassed about my size and only wish I had been aware of PE when my sons were teenagers (13+) so I could have had the opportunity to introduce them to PE and supplements (zinc) at that stage of their life when harmones were having the optimum effect on their masculinity. As I mentioned in a previous post. I personally find it extremely difficult to approach them in their 30's as they lead their lives separately from mine.

IMO, 10 is much too early to even discuss the fringes of PE. When I was 10, the only thing I knew about my dick was that it was used to pee with. I suppose, however, a proper introduction into the future use of my dick might be a good preparation for future PE education.

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My son is 14, and I would NEVER even mention the subject to him. I would wait until such a time that HE brought it up because HE felt his penis was too small! And even then, I'd encourage him to wait until he was older. Young guys don't need PE for "penis health." They naturally get rock hard erections, spontaneous erections, and generally have an EQ of 10. If size is REALLY an issue, as not2Big says, then that's a different thing. But realize, that most guys even who think they are small are perfectly normal and can satisfy any woman (I'm sure TittyTitty.. and Batwoman will agree with this). Bringing it up to them, for this reason, is not a good thing. Even if they do decide to do it, I would certainly warn them of the possible risks, especially at a young age. There is another thread here about injuries ... yeah, not all that common ... but just think how would you feel if your son just happened to be one of the unlucky one's who fucked up his perfectly normal dick at 18 because YOU brought it up? Talk to your sons, and talk openly, but be very patient and very careful about what you take upon yourself to suggest.

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Originally Posted by flex

My son is 14, and I would NEVER even mention the subject to him. I would wait until such a time that HE brought it up because HE felt his penis was too small! And even then, I'd encourage him to wait until he was older. Young guys don't need PE for "penis health." They naturally get rock hard erections, spontaneous erections, and generally have an EQ of 10. If size is REALLY an issue, as not2Big says, then that's a different thing. But realize, that most guys even who think they are small are perfectly normal and can satisfy any woman (I'm sure TittyTitty.. and Batwoman will agree with this). Bringing it up to them, for this reason, is not a good thing. Even if they do decide to do it, I would certainly warn them of the possible risks, especially at a young age. There is another thread here about injuries ... yeah, not all that common ... but just think how would you feel if your son just happened to be one of the unlucky one's who fucked up his perfectly normal dick at 18 because YOU brought it up? Talk to your sons, and talk openly, but be very patient and very careful about what you take upon yourself to suggest.

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You bring up some valid points, flex. Injuries are common when guys overdo PE. As a dad you'd really have to stress the "less is more" approach. I think the "penis health" approach was brought up is because guys don't want to give their son a complex that he's small. In bringing up PE with your son, I think it's a good idea to let your son know that he's perfectly normal the way he is, but this is out there' his dad does it, and it works. If he chooses to do it or not is up to him. If he does, that talking openly needs to include monitoring so that he's not overdoing it. Are you choosing not to let your son in on PE now, or never at all, even as an adult?

I don't know that waiting until HE brought it up is realistic. Why would he bring up to his dad that he thinks his penis is too small if he has no idea that there's something he could do about it? I think that's part of the reason "first generation" PEers choose to let their sons in on it, so that they can make that decision for themselves. If my dad wouldn't have given me the "birds and bees" talk, I would have never asked him on my own. I think as a dad you have to know your son and kind of figure out when is the right time maturity wise to let him in on a variety of things, including "birds and the bees", protection/safe sex, drugs, and for some guys, PE. I don't think it has to be "all or nothing". For example, we tell our sons that a baby comes form mommy's belly before we tell them about sex. If it's done in a gradual way, letting your son in on PE based on his maturity level can be done with little chance of the stigma of him having a small penis.

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Originally Posted by higherone

I don't know that waiting until HE brought it up is realistic. Why would he bring up to his dad that he thinks his penis is too small if he has no idea that there's something he could do about it?

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Very thoughtful response, and you too bring up a good point, but do you think it is realistic to assume that a teenage boy wouldn't find out about PE in less than 10 minutes of googling, if he were at all concerned about having a small unit?

Maybe saying never tell them about it was the wrong way to put it. But I still would not in any way suggest it for their consideration without some reason or feedback from them first. Especially not for a teenager.

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Originally Posted by flex

Very thoughtful response, and you too bring up a good point, but do you think it is realistic to assume that a teenage boy wouldn't find out about PE in less than 10 minutes of googling, if he were at all concerned about having a small unit?

Maybe saying never tell them about it was the wrong way to put it. But I still would not in any way suggest it for their consideration without some reason or feedback from them first. Especially not for a teenager.

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I think that's part of the point with some dads. They'd rather their son talk to them themselves than have them get their information on sex, etc. form the Internet or their friends. That's why a bond with your son is so important, so that talking about issues like this are not awkward, or at least less awkward, and so that you know what your son is thinking.

I don't think letting your son in on PE just to let him in on PE is a good reason to do it. It's a result of a father son bond that has been formed through a variety of other things, such as fishing, sports, camping, going to the gym together, common hobbies/interests, and talking and bonding with your son. From that bond, you're just sharing another thing with your son, like lifting weights, or your views on sex/girls.

Letting your son in on PE is a personal choice, and some dads may choose not to do it, for their own reasons. Some guys that are making the choice to let their sons in on PE and want to discuss the issues surrounding that decision, such as age, how to do it, and, for those that did it already, how it went for them.

I don't have any sons i feel like you are all my sons. But if i had one i would likely interject it somewhere in his late teens say 17-18. Rather have him learn it from me than from someone else.

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Originally Posted by kingpole

I don't have any sons i feel like you are all my sons. But if i had one i would likely interject it somewhere in his late teens say 17-18. Rather have him learn it from me than from someone else.

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My point is KP that I wouldn't "interject" it ... but I agree, if my son was to seek it out, I would want him to learn it from someone like you--your advice on safety, no porn, light jelqing (key) is excellent. Thank you!

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Originally Posted by flex

My point is KP that I wouldn't "interject" it ... but I agree, if my son was to seek it out, I would want him to learn it from someone like you--your advice on safety, no porn, light jelqing (key) is excellent. Thank you!

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Who knows, you might find him on here someday. ;)