How to let your son in on PE

**deleteduser** · 01-10-2011

Originally Posted by Hockey_NY

That's understandable, High.

We will never fully agree on this, but I have much more respect on the issue now compared to before, after reading your posts on it.

I guess I shouldn't just say internet- perhaps just as much info may come from friends, etc...And that Ok, even though those sources are not perfect. it is reality that this is what happens in this day in age. Less and less are parents talking to their kids about sex, let alone PE. So it is great if one can open up an ongoing dialog with their son about sex and relationships. If they talk about PE, more power to them- It must be a very close relationship.

I think where I disagree most is that there are more important father/son topics that can be talked about, and that includes the sex, etc arena. And that excuses the fact that it may be totally irrelevant to the son, assuming a healthy and normal teenager. It goes back to...What is wrong with a 6x5? 5x4? etc. Is there an ideal measurement that the son has to have for a bicep muscle as well? Chest? Waist? etc

I guess in the back of my mind, I feel a lot of people do PE because something else may be lacking in their life. I can't put a sure number on it, but I'd say 50%. I'm here for the wrong reasons, I'll admit that right off the bat.

And I wouldn't want my son to try to fill that void by thinking PE is the right answer.

I wouldn't want my son filing a void in his life through PE either. I would want my kid to talk to me, not their friends, not look for answers on the internet. And not just about PE. You're right, there are a TON more important things to talk about. It's not about ideal measurements, it's about letting your son make choices for himself with your guidance as a father.

**pe4life2** · 01-11-2011

First of all, I would DEFINITELY tell my son about PE (If I have one *fingers crossed*). When I do have a son I'm going to get him involved in sports and get him social, because my dad never really got me into sports, and that's one thing I wish he did. I know this would lead him to getting out a lot and stuff, and once he does get to that age where he's out most of the time (probably around 17), I would tell him about it. I would just say it worked for me, etc., and tell him more that its about the penis health and the gains are just a bonus.

As of lately, I've told a few of my friends about it (only the close ones, about 5). For all but one of them the topic randomly came up and I eventually told them about it and they thought it was cool. I don't think they ever got into it (I told them this site also). For the other one he was telling me about him and his new girlfriend and how he wants to last longer (granted his girlfriend didn't care, it was just for him), so I told him about it. I'll ask him later if he ever tried it.

The only problem with me is that I want to tell my brother but I just can't think of any way to approach him about it. It's different with telling a family member and telling a friend for me. My brother and I are very close, so it probably will eventually leak out of my mouth one day lol.

**YidArmy** · 01-11-2011

I'm new to this scene but I was actually referred to PE by my older brother, which I guess has some slight parallels with this conversation.

With my family (particularly my brothers and dad) we've always been open about this sort of thing. I was talking to them both about sex etc. since I became sexually active - around 15. I wouldn't mention this to my son until he was 18 as this is the age that is generally accepted it is safe you can PE without impeding on natural growth (right?). The added bonus that (in England) he can also drink at this age simply lines up the perfect situation for me to let my kid in. The pub is where I have a lot of the deepest chats with my dad and brothers and although I wouldn't just come straight out of the blue and tell my son he needs to sort his d**k out (as discussed I agree that this could inadvertently breed insecurity) if he was to express any sexual anxiety - be it over staying power, size or something else that PE has the ability to improve - I'd be more than happy to inform him that there is a way to sort it out.

This is just me, though, and I understand entirely that this isn't ideal for a lot of people - especially the majority of you that live in countries in which 21 is the legal drinking age.

EDIT: Just thought I'd add that my brother told my dad, too. He's cool with us doing it but says he's happy with what he's got.

**Bigboss512** · 01-11-2011

I found out about pegym because my father forgot to logout of the site. Just leave the site up an he'll look into it.

**deleteduser** · 01-11-2011

Originally Posted by Bigboss512

I found out about pegym because my father forgot to logout of the site. Just leave the site up an he'll look into it.

I don't think this would be the best way to let your son in on PE. It makes it seem like it's shameful or embarrassing to talk about. You want to build that bond and trust with your son, and that comes through talking to him. Would you want your son to leave a website up for you that says "How to have sex for the first time" or "Dealing with bullies." I would want my son to talk to me about it. Yes, it is awkward to talk about PE at first. Hell, that's why so many guys lurk on the forum before they begin to contribute and post. With your son, you want to let him know that you two can talk about anything and he can come to you with anything. It's not so much the PE itself, but talking to your son in about PE, girls, sex, changes, values you want to impart to him, etc. -- all of these things strengthen the father-son bond.

If he forgot that's one thing. If it's deliberate to let his son find out about PE, then there needs to be some father-son talk after that.

**Bigboss512** · 01-11-2011

I started pe gym when i was 14 and now im 18. I went from being 6 inches to 7 and a half in that time. I dont think its ever too young to start. Arabics teach their sons how to jelq when they reach the age of 13. Its a rights of passage for young men.

**millia** · 01-11-2011

In all honesty, I would leave the door open for him to come to me and ask me about it. Like Bigboss512 said, I would leave it up on my computer for him to see, and I would also leave the book laying around where he could discover it. Kind of let him get his own feet wet first, and then I'd sort of intervene or bring it up once he had a better idea of what exactly PE was. Rather then just bringing it up in conversation about weights and masturbation because for a lot of teenagers it could be an extremely awkward conversation, depending on the relationship.

**deleteduser** · 01-12-2011

Originally Posted by Bigboss512

I started pe gym when i was 14 and now im 18. I went from being 6 inches to 7 and a half in that time. I dont think its ever too young to start. Arabics teach their sons how to jelq when they reach the age of 13. Its a rights of passage for young men.

Wow man, you started young! Impressive gains Bigboss512!

**deleteduser** · 01-13-2011

Originally Posted by millia

In all honesty, I would leave the door open for him to come to me and ask me about it. Like Bigboss512 said, I would leave it up on my computer for him to see, and I would also leave the book laying around where he could discover it. Kind of let him get his own feet wet first, and then I'd sort of intervene or bring it up once he had a better idea of what exactly PE was. Rather then just bringing it up in conversation about weights and masturbation because for a lot of teenagers it could be an extremely awkward conversation, depending on the relationship.

Interesting post, millia. I think once you let your son in on PE you have to give him the space to explore on his own, but then come back to him and check up on him. It's a balance between giving him his space and making sure he's not overdoing it/monitoring him. Also, guys have to realize that even if they let their son in on PE, that doesn't mean he'll do it. And that's OK. You're passing on information that is valuable and can be used later in life if your son's situation changes as he gets older.

**deleteduser** · 01-14-2011

Originally Posted by pe4life2

First of all, I would DEFINITELY tell my son about PE (If I have one *fingers crossed*). When I do have a son I'm going to get him involved in sports and get him social, because my dad never really got me into sports, and that's one thing I wish he did. I know this would lead him to getting out a lot and stuff, and once he does get to that age where he's out most of the time (probably around 17), I would tell him about it. I would just say it worked for me, etc., and tell him more that its about the penis health and the gains are just a bonus.

The only problem with me is that I want to tell my brother but I just can't think of any way to approach him about it. It's different with telling a family member and telling a friend for me. My brother and I are very close, so it probably will eventually leak out of my mouth one day lol.

Just approach your brother the way you will your son. Open. Honest. Real.