Thread: Psychological problem?
- 04-05-2011 #1
- Join Date
- Apr 2011
My length is at estimate 17cm (6,7"). The thing is im actually aiming for a 20cm (8 inch) unit. If i were to add 1,3" that would make me very happy (i think, at least thats the reason i started PE).
The problem is my gf, together for almost 9 years, already wants less sex with me, cause she is in pain.
I do want to stay with her and have sex. But i really, really, really want to add those 1,3". Am I crazy?
Ive always been training my body and had a little bit of a 'adonis-complex'. Unhealthy thougths?
What are your reasons for increasing size beyond what women find pleasurable?
- 04-05-2011 #2
That is a real dilemma! One should always PE for itself and itself only and according to this I would tell to go for your goal. But if you girlfriend is really in pain from having sex and that this results in less sex, it is a real problem. I'm however quite surprised that she's that in pain with your length. Yes your length is above average but it isn't huge (my length is the same so I visualize it quite well!). How about your girth?
Have you ever really spoken with your girlfriend about what she feels during intercourse and what causes the pain? It might be due to a certain level of vaginal dryness combined with you being not gentle enough at the beginning of the intercourse and these issues could be easily solved with some lube and patience...
Anyway, If the solution isn't as simple as this and if you really want to stay with your girlfriend, you might have to reconsider your goals or accept the fact that sex will be less frequent with your size increasing...
- 04-05-2011 #3
if its huurting her use lube or give her a lot of head first to make sure shes wet enough to accept any growth. itll get easier for her over time..
also try to use positions that dont penetrte as deeply .
- 04-05-2011 #4
- Join Date
- Mar 2009
I would carry on PEing personally, you aren't going to grow 1.5 over night. Speak to you girlfriend, this will be the only way you can find out what she is thinking. Maybe tell her what you are feeling too if you haven't allready. Just like anything you have to decide wether you want to do it for you, and if she will journey with you while u do PE, that's brilliant, if not what means more. Like all life choices, there will allways be people who agree and disagree
- 04-07-2011 #5
- Join Date
- Mar 2010
I agree with wannabeast. Talk to your gf about it and ask her what she thinks about your goals.
i did that, and my fiancee told me i was girthy enough and should try to avoid getting to thick there but my goal of 8-8.5 was perfect and not to big to kill her. She actually reminds me to PE to keep mr happy healthy. Cant hurt to have her in your corner.09
girth 5.5 in
BPEL -7.5 in
NBPEL - 6,8 in
NBPEL- 8In (9.5 the max)
Girth- 6in max
- 04-07-2011 #6
- Join Date
- Jan 2011
Some good responses in this thread. PE is very gradual and it's entirely possible she won't even notice the difference... at least length wise. I agree that a lot of foreplay can help subdue the pain she might be feeling, but she would probably know more about that than I would.
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