Back to reality; doing what's smart

[Sanjuro]

So I was checking my old school goals, really early into my PE career, and I saw I wanted something within the realm of a 9.5 inch penis. And something ridiculous like 7.5 girth.

After doing some research, and reading a couple women's forums on the subject of an ideal size, I realized my goals were the goals of someone's ego needing to be stroked, coupled with the messed up perceptions that porn brings to the average male life.

I've now dialed back my ideal to 8inches by 6inch girth, I plan to go a little over 8, just to get a consistent 8 regardless of less than stellar EQ and to, god forbid, add a buffer to any loss of size after reaching my goals and switching to a maintenance routine.

What's interesting I found with reading some of the women's forums, is firstly and this has been discussed many times before; the strange ability of a woman to quote a size as her ideal... without any idea on how to properly measure penis size.
What I also found interesting and frustrating in equal measure is nearly every one of these women have had an ex, or a lover with a "King Kong Dong" or "monster cock" of over 10 inches, which again reinforces my feeling that most girls have no idea the size of their partner:- seems that if the guy is big, he's in excess of 10 inches, if he's average, he's 8, and if he's small, he's 6 and below.

Absolute rubbish.

Upon last measurement in 2010, I was 6.7 BPEL, and I've bottomed out in girls; some being the petite skinny and short types, others being curvy and taller; the gasps that I thought meant I was doing well actually were gasps of pain (urgh, I suck...) from banging myself against their cervix, so the idea that I'm almost within the "small range" according to the uneducated masses of girls not versed in the proper measurement of a penis just screams that some quotes of size are complete crap.

The last point my investigation revealed, which is what led me down this course of reevaluating goals is that when some of the girls said they've been with a large guy... 1: In some cases it was uncomfortable and some positions were out of the question due to sheer inability to fit comfortably thus rendering love making unpleasant, and 2: a larger penis simply means potential to be a good lover, it is not the defining trait, oft quoted "The guy with the big dick who couldn't use it properly" scenario seems to pop up quite alot and I realised, to the girls I have bottomed out in, I may actually be the afformentioned case study...

Which leads me to where I am now; I want the 8inches to gain that "WOW" factor as well as the confidence boost that such holstered firepower brings, which I think is what the majority of guys here are after when they start PE... but I don't want size to preclude any sensual, or down-right-dirty-and-perverted activity, and thus my reestablished "Realistic" goals.

Anyone else experienced this? The realisation that your goals are much closer and more attainable because you DON'T NEED porn star equipment to get the job done?

A quote from Futurama you may enjoy...

[Cut to Doctor's office. A doctorbot is doing something with a wrench]

Doctorbot: There, that's a big as I can make it. But I caution you, it looks completely unrealistic.

Calculon: You let me worry about that. Just do your job.

[Pegasus]

Yep.

[spanky]

We've had a few of these threads lately (of which I approve). Makes a nice change.

I give it a day tops before the trolls arrive.

[ballsofsteel]

Nice post and I agree. 9.5 *7.5 huh, haha. I have to say that I find the general concensus that 8*6 is ideal for everyone allready on the edge of ridiculous. You seriously dont need that and it saddens me that a lot of people think that less then that isnt good enough. I myself shoot for 7*5 and even that is a range that is far above what you actually need. In the end less then 5% on here might actually NEED PE. The rest is here just for their ego. Yes, I'm as well. I know perfectly fine my Gf is fine with the way I am. Male insecurities huh, yes they are that big ^_^.

[sekeris]

I do it because it will maybe increase my sexual confidence. I will have at least a big penis, maybe it will do because I have no skill.

[ManWithPlan]

Nice post and I agree. 9.5 *7.5 huh, haha. I have to say that I find the general concensus that 8*6 is ideal for everyone allready on the edge of ridiculous. You seriously dont need that and it saddens me that a lot of people think that less then that isnt good enough. I myself shoot for 7*5 and even that is a range that is far above what you actually need. In the end less then 5% on here might actually NEED PE. The rest is here just for their ego. Yes, I'm as well. I know perfectly fine my Gf is fine with the way I am. Male insecurities huh, yes they are that big ^_^.

I totally agree with you. I thin 8x6 is an ego goal too. That is pretty huge (even out of proportion from an artistic view). If you have never seen another man's cock and had no idea about the average sizes, and you were asked to draw a cock that you'd like to have, I bet most men will draw something significantly smaller than 8x6.

[spanky]

I do it because it will maybe increase my sexual confidence. I will have at least a big penis, maybe it will do because I have no skill.

You already have a big penis sekeris. And did you miss the point of the OP? As in.. you would be big enough anyway with less?

I want you to try something for me. Can you spend a day... just one day, not saying anything negative about yourself? Like, every time you want to say something negative, or bolt something negative on to the end of a sentence, just don't. Try to rephrase it as something positive instead.

for instance.. "I have no skill" if you insisted on saying it could become "I have only just started on my journey" or something similar. PM me if you're stuck on how to turn a particular phrase into a positive, I'll help you.

It's just one day of your life. Try it.

Oh and by the way if you do this in real life too, you'll get more women, and more chances to develop your skills. I guarantee it.

[NP97]

My first goal was 9x7 (NBPEL cause that's how I measured at first).
Don't really want that now.

[Mojobro1]

Great post! Thinking realistically will definitely benefit a lot of the newcomers looking for miracles, myself included!

[drabman]

...I've now dialed back my ideal to 8inches by 6inch girth, I plan to go a little over 8...I want the 8inches to gain that "WOW" factor...you DON'T NEED porn star equipment to get the job done?..

8" (even bone-pressed) IS pornstar equipment - in fact I'd be prepared to bet few pornstars are as big as that. 8"NBP would probably qualify you for "monster cock" porn.

Cue people trying to tell me that Lex is 10", Mandingo is 12" and so on.

Don't believe the hype.

Incidentally, are your goals BP or NBP?