Thread: Why Penis Enlargement Matters
- 09-28-2011 #1
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Why penis enlargement matters:
In this post I will try to elaborate on my personal feelings about why Penis Enlargement matters and why the work done here is of the utmost importance for the 21st century and beyond. If my post sounds pretentious or bitter I apologize, no doubt there is some of that at work. If my post is long-winded I apologize too. I just want to create something that measures the significance of what is done here.
The Jig is Up – I’ll never forget a conversation I had with a good female friend of mine when I was about 19. She was first generation American, about 18 years old, a virgin, and decidedly Catholic. We were alone in her dorm room and she asks me abruptly, “Do you think size matters?” I quickly responded, “Of course it does.” Her eyes glazed over and she said back, “I don’t think it does.” When I think back on this conversation I believe the conversation should’ve went like this:
Her: “My friends, family, society, and biology are telling me that penis size is a big deal. You have a penis, you’re my friend, we share the same values and are very close. Please tell me they’re wrong and that unicorns might actually exist.”
Me: “I’m self conscious about my penis size. I think it’s too small and that I’m not worth much. I too wish unicorns might actually exist but I’m not going to deny what’s in the air. You’re my friend so I have to level with you and also protect myself in the process by seeming like it doesn’t affect me.”
Her: “Unicorns might actually exist.”
Obviously I may be reading too much into this conversation but it stuck out to me. Both because it was a very personal conversation between the two of us (who were incredibly close friends) and because her tone and body language revealed a sense of discomfort and unease. In a way I think she was looking for verification to enter the world of sexuality and its expectations and demands. She needed a counterpoint that would offer her that chance. She did so that year, me a year later.
Porn and Polygamy – I am bothered by feminism and girl culture’s usurpation of male privilege without concessions. It’s unfair. I realize as I grow older that this is simply a part of life, part of the game, part of the plan, part of the universe, but I still am driven in part by an inclination for fairness. Feminists have decried porn as demeaning to women but I don’t see why. Pornography features women of all shapes, sizes, races, ages, handicaps, intelligences, and beauties. Pornography features almost exclusively well endowed men; and those that aren’t well endowed are usually the subject of humiliation. Unlike many of the men on this site I lean towards the smaller end of average. I don’t have a mental disease which states that a long, girthy cock is inadequate. I harbor sometimes unrealistic, sometimes realistic feelings of inadequacy that will directly impact my life because my penis, while not tiny, certainly isn’t big, and may actually be considered small. Girl culture is unconcerned with that problem as well. To misquote a renegade environmentalist who put “I have a small penis” on hummers and trucks with her phone number attached: “If you have a small penis I can silently sympathize with you. But if you try to make yourself feel better by driving a gas guzzling vehicle, I will shame you.” In other words, I’ll feel some pity for you if you’re a genetic failure, but I won’t tolerate your existence if it interferes with my values. Go away.
Sure I’m being a bit paranoid here, but I don’t think there isn’t some value in the above examples as indicative of the current climate. There is some truth in there, and I think it’s only being magnified as time moves forward.
Polygamy seems to be hot now, too. Also decried by feminists as against women it actually plainly punishes men. If you remove patriarchal privilege from the equation then you get a system which is exclusively devoted to the benefit of women. Only the thickest, smartest, and richest men will survive. China has its own alternative to that problem – kill the girls. This is actually a system that seems to be working as men are focused and competitive, but the same problem arises in China as it does in Feminist Utopia – more competition for sexual resources.
Without getting into evolutionary psychology or biology too much, let’s just go ahead and put that into the “size matters” camp.
The Truth - I don’t want to get ahead of myself. Size really does not matter that much. It is behind cancer, diabetes, and other problems. It is not even primary in male sexual health hierarchy (that would be erectile dysfunction). Getting food, shelter, and making sure you don’t die surely take precedent. I would also argue that factors such as multiplicity of sexual experiences and practice as well as confidence and other genetic and environmental factors play a bigger role in the scheme of sexual conflict and conquest and compatibility.
But penis size takes on a far bigger dimension to men. To ape from “Enlarging the Penis”, it is the core sexual representation of a man. If he is not comfortable or compatible with that dimension then that extends outward, negatively affecting all other components of his life. I think Penis Enlargement is important not because penis size is primary in biology, but because it is the nexus point from which all masculinity derives itself. Penis size is secondarily physiological, and primarily psychological, if not philosophical. I think many men involved in these practices get confused about the order of importance.
I don’t know if anything I said was worthy to be posted. I might just be badly restating the obvious. But my drift is this: What’s being done here is significant, and I have a hunch that men now, and especially in the future, need this as a way to help find a place for themselves in the world. For those who have been successful, please take this post as encouragement to spread and teach as best you can. For those who have been unsuccessful, please keep trying and retrying so you too can be successful and pass on your knowledge and strategies. For the entrepreneurs, start now in developing products, books, apps, and pills. Also, go public so I can invest. No question that this area is going to be big in the marketplace.
Finally I would offer a word to those men with huge penises who either have a mental disease or who see fit to parade themselves around as substantially better than their counterparts. You may feel uncomfortable about your penis size, but when you shit on yourself you shit on everybody below you and you magnify their more realistic problems more than you might imagine. It’s bad to be paranoid. Men with nine inch long and 6.5 inch thick penises should not be treated the same as men with four inch long and 3 inch thick penises in this regard. Your problems shouldn’t be discounted, but they should be minimized, and you’ll benefit psychologically from this as well.
For those men who lord their big cocks over their counterparts: Sure, competition is good. And pride in your accomplishments and genetics isn’t bad all the time. But in order to be a good human being you need to treat the competition as valuable; because it is. Moreover I would argue that if PE becomes less esoteric and more successful then sexuality would diverge from individual competitiveness to more of a team sport. Competition and cooperation would merge together. Boxing matches, UFC, and Tennis are fun. But football and basketball are better, generally speaking.
- 09-28-2011 #2XitemeMGuest
Thanks for going to such an effort in putting together this very thoughtful and encouraging post. Really great!
- 09-28-2011 #3
You definitely have a point, but I don't think popularized PE would do anything but make things worse for people with smaller penises.
To understand what I mean, you'll have to picture working out to be the equivalent of PE in the sense that it's something you generally do on your own time to benefit your health, looks, and performance. All working out has done is give less reason for people to be scrawny/fat, and more ammo to meat heads that brag about their abs/arms/whatever. Before there was a choice, it was either you're lucky or not, but then it turned into, "skinny? fat?... you should hit the gym." As if it's become some sort of requirement.
Furthermore, if more people did it, the average size would go up, so the genetic average would now be considered smaller, and people who choose not to PE (the same as people who choose not to work out) would be at a disadvantage.
I also don't think it's THAT important. Sure it's awesome if you do it, and having a big penis is better than having a smaller one by most peoples opinions, but unless it bothers you personally, your small penis will have a small or even negligible impact on all those aspects of your life.
Yes, porn glorifies being endowed and how girls will want you if you had a big dick, but everyone I know would call a girl a bitch if she acted like a pornstar in that regard. I'll agree that there are people that see porn as accurate, and therefore when they see that a girl in porn is like, "small penis? pffft..." They begin to think that they are inadequate. However, I would consider that a problem with the individual and simply teaching that person that porn is not an accurate representation of real life would be of great help.
I will agree, however, that penis size is important, and is kind of the elephant in the room when it comes up in conversations between males and females. So having something like PE around is great because you have control, or at least moderate control, over how you think people will see you.
To put it all in a nutshell, I do agree with the idea that PE is important, but I disagree with your premise that PE is a solution to the problem of men feeling inadequate. I would even go as far as saying it makes it worse due to the fact that now instead of seeing it as, "you have a small penis? hmph, oh well..." people begin to see it as, "you have a small penis? no worries, you can fix that with PE." And thinking like this implies that there is a problem that needs fixing.
Last edited by MrMonroe; 09-28-2011 at 04:40 AM.Slowly cutting down on sleep... who needs it, anyway?
- 09-28-2011 #4
I think you should take the first post, along with some of the good posts (also the ones to come), combine them to an article and that would be wonderful.
- 09-28-2011 #5
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Im not sure about all this...
A lot of it is anxiety and insecurity talking I think...especially displayed in the 'unicorns existing' statements...
Yes - size does matter 'a bit' when it comes to female sexual pleasure and potential for certain positions etc. However - when it comes to finding someone to love, spend your life with - and procreate (what penises are REALLY meant for)...it is not that important. Even very small penises can lead to pregnancy.
THAT is why it is the 'elephant' in the room. Because it is not really a simple answer - 'does size matter'. Men and Women - who are grounded in themselves and who they are - know this. It is when you feel insecure, unsure and threatened that the obsession with penis size and inadequacy starts to rage - and suddenly it matters...But have you met men with large penises who are insecure, anxious? YES - there are lots. Just as there are lots of confident self-assured men with slightly smaller penises.
The obsession about penis size is for the most part a transference of anxiety and lack of self-acceptance focussed onto a body part.
I think what can happen psychologically - is that men become fixated on one part of themselves - and loose sight of all the other aspects of humanity and masculinity.
PE is important because it can improve 'some' aspects of sex - and it is an option out there IF someone feels sufficiently motivated to do it - and they honestly believe it is worth it.
The most healthy examples Ive seen on here are with longer term relationships and husbands like ShortDog who were happy and effective in bed before with a loving partner - but decided to improve their health and size 'as an experiment in improvement' rather than from a negative place of feeling inadequate trying to feel better about themselves...
I honestly think people should try to remember that penis size is just one aspect of the huge plethora of qualities that make up a man. And at this point - I am not convinced the penis is the defining element of the male-although yes it can help confidence to a degree (but remember - unconfident men with large penises - they do exist - so that somewhat disproves this principal).
In my opinion the most defining element of a man is his character. I think women find men of strong character sexy. A man of character can give women orgasms in a number of ways, and children - no matter the size of his dick.Starting: BPEL 6 EG 4.3
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- 09-28-2011 #6XitemeMGuest
Whenever I read something or consider a concept, I'm always conscious of there being no absolutes. But still there is "truth" in all varying philosophies. There's a lot of truths in the original post, and also in the well considered responses, which all help to build a balanced view point.
I think there's truth in the idea of the penis being a nexus point for masculine identity, and I just plain like the idea that I'm doing something worthwhile It's a compliment to the whole community. But that "truth" doesn't apply to all cases, or even to some cases all the time. But it definitely applies to some (the OP for one)
Also, if PE was more common among the general population, it wouldn't necessarily be a threat, or even need to be about size that much. PE can improve the health and performance of a man's penis which in a way, is far more beneficial than any size gain.
- 09-28-2011 #7
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A large penis was considered a negative by the romans. A big penis being seen as a positive, is basically a social construct and thus so are the psyc issues that stem from it.
- 09-28-2011 #8XitemeMGuest
Yes ancient Greeks judged a man with a large penis to be unintelligent, and closer to base/animal. I wonder if the ancient women Greek women were so disapproving?
- 09-28-2011 #9
Aren't there stories of women in the past (whether they be mythical or factual) engaging in acts with beasts themselves?
Were those signs?
- 09-28-2011 #10
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